Three Shades Of Grey

Nobody opens their relationship thinking, "You know what would be great? More calendars, more processing, and less sleep." And yet… here we are. In this episode, we get honest about the moment when non-monogamy stops being sexy and starts feeling like work. From emotional exhaustion to double bookings to the pressure to be the "cool" partner who's always down, we talk about the side of the lifesty...

In this unexpectedly playful episode of Pinky & Ava Pajama Party , Pinky opens up about a major first: stepping into the role of Top during a recent scene—and what that experience unlocked inside her. From the emotional high of her book release party to a tearful, vulnerable reaction that caught her off guard, Pinky reflects on how saying yes instead of no shifted her energy, confidence, and sense...

In this episode of Three Shades Deeper, we're joined by Paul Weinfield —musician, meditation teacher, life coach , and retired professor of religion from Columbia University and Hunter College  Paul shares his personal polyamory journey and explores ethical non-monogamy through the lens of spirituality, religion, and mindfulness. Together, we discuss how presence, compassion, and non-attachment sh...

Rules. Everyone has them.  But where do they come from—and do they actually work? In this episode of Three Shades of Grey, we dive into the rules couples create when entering non-monogamy, with a special focus on swinging. From no kissing and no single men to same room only and no repeat partners, we unpack the most common rules, why people make them, and what they're really trying to protect. We...

Pinky and Ava turn up the heat as they dive into one of Ava's favorite pleasures—and one of Pinky's former fears: spanking. Ava teases Pinky as her "pampered princess," while Pinky gets real about how letting go of control and stepping into trust changed everything. With a safe space, a little surrender, and a lot of curiosity, Pinky discovers that pushing boundaries can feel very good. It's playf...

On this episode of Three Shades Dee per, we're joined by Robert Johnson , founder of Shameless Care , and his partner Anna Osmun , a Physician Assistant, to uncover what most sexually active people — lifestyle or not — don't know they don't know about STIs. They break down the biggest myths, explain how Shameless Care makes testing easier and more discreet, and explore why options like DoxyPEP are...

In this special episode, we celebrate the release of Pinky's debut book, Awakening: The Growth and Empowerment of a Woman in Open and Poly Relationships . Pinky opens up about what inspired her to turn years of experiences, emotions, and lessons from non-monogamy into a powerful collection of poetry. She shares how writing became a tool for healing, self-expression, and reclaiming her voice as a w...

Pinky and Ava talk about being hot—but not in the way you think! In this candid and empowering conversation, they sit down with Dr. Cherie Little , a doctorally prepared, dual-certified Family and Women's Health Nurse Practitioner and founder of Xena Health in Las Vegas. Together, they get real about women's health issues that are often ignored or misunderstood—like menopause, hormone replacement...

In this illuminating conversation, Anthony and Pinky go "Deeper" with Tantra experts Mikhayla Harrell and K aitlin Nolan to untangle centuries of myths and misconceptions surrounding Tantra and the Kama Sutra — and explore how these ancient practices can deepen connection and pleasure in modern non-monogamous relationships . Far from being just about sex positions or sacred rituals, Tantra and the...

What happens when curiosity meets consciousness? In this episode, Ava and Ramone share their five-day journey at the New England Conscious Arts Festival , a transformative Tantra experience that brought together about 130 open-hearted souls—most exploring non-monogamy, self-discovery, and deep connection. From eye-gazing ceremonies to "liquid love" sessions, emotional alchemy, and even firewalking...

Its a real sleepover this time!  Pinky and Ava are cozied up in pajamas, kicking back with laughs, secrets, and a little mischief. In this special pajama party episode, the ladies dive into a round of "Would You Rather?"—but not your average playground version. These spicy, flirty, and thought-provoking questions were generated by ChatGPT, keeping the fun unpredictable and oh-so-naughty. From play...

In this episode Anthony, Pinky, and Ava sit down with coach and educator Jon Simons of GSRM Coaching for an open, nuanced conversation about the wide world of BDSM. Together, they explore how BDSM exists on a spectrum—ranging from the soft, sensual caress of feathers to the intensity of barbed wire and beyond. Jon shares insight into the many ways people engage with kink, the importance of communi...

Think being a single guy in the lifestyle is easy? Think again. Pinky and Ava put Anthony and Nirvana Lover (aka P*$*y Destroyer) in the hot seat to talk about what it's really like. They cover everything from etiquette to ego checks, building a good name, and yes… that time Hot Mama "pimped" them out. Buckle up—this is the single man's guide to staying in the game without becoming the cautionary...

School may be out, but Pinky and Ava prove the learning never stops—especially when summer adventures are the teachers. In this episode of Pinky & Ava's Pajama Party, the ladies spill the tea on their travels, trysts, and everything in between. From steamy liaisons to unforgettable getaways, they share the lessons, laughs, and little indulgences that made their summer sizzle.

What happens when swinging and polyamory overlap? In this episode of Three Shades Deeper, we dive into the term "Swolly"—a playful way to describe those who enjoy both. The group sits down with  Coach Meshai from Expansive Connection , who opens up about her own journey in embracing a swolly identity. Together, they unpack the pros and cons of living at the intersection of swinging and polyamory,...

Buckle up, because this Naughty N'awlin's 2025 recap is anything but tame. With Ava stuck at home living that #MomLife, she grills Pinky and Anthony about their wild, laughter-filled, and occasionally chaotic journey to the Big Easy. From travel headaches that almost kept them from the party, to Pinky pushing herself out of her comfort zone (and loving every second), to a whirlwind of classes that...

Ever wonder what really gets Pinky and Ava going? In this intimate and unfiltered episode of Pinky and Ava's Pajama Party , the duo dives deep into their turn-ons—and they're not just talking bodies. From the thrill of emotional freedom to the buzz of a partner's confidence, from shared laughter to shared lovers, they explore the layers of satisfaction that light them up. It's real, it's raw, and...

In this deliciously nerdy and insightful episode, we're joined by Sir Sublime —a self-proclaimed "lazy top," kink toymaker, and connoisseur of all things rope, impact, and mindplay. Together, we unwrap the art and intention behind BDSM, diving into the nuances of dominance, the seduction of sensory play, and why best practices matter in the kink world. Whether you're a seasoned sadist or just kink...

In this episode of we take a moment to own our sh*t. In the past, we might've made it sound like there's only one right way to start a non-monogamous relationship. But thanks to some wise friends of the show—and a little bit of grown-folks (Foxy) "magic"—we realized we goofed. Non-monogamy isn't a one-size-fits-all situation, and there are many ways to build strong, thriving, sexy connections righ...

It's time to clear the air, and maybe burst a few egos along the way! In this episode Pinky & Ava get real about one of the most frustrating misconceptions in the non-monogamous world — that being open means being easy......Spoiler alert: We Don't "F@(k" Everybody!!! The ladies share some cringe-worthy, hilarious, and downright annoying stories of people who thought "non-monogamous" was code for "...

What happens when your non-monogamy is no longer a secret? In this episode, we go deeper with Mr. and Mrs. Jones of the We Gotta Thing   Podcast to unpack the emotional journey of being outed to their church (and family)—and how they handled it with grace, honesty, and strength. We share our own fears around exposure and talk about how to prepare for conversations you might never want to have. Whe...

In this double bonus episode of Three Shades of Grey, Anthony shares the summer plans for the crew and takes you inside his first-ever Splash Mocha, an interracial and hot wife hotel takeover in Atlanta, Georgia. While he couldn't make it with his wife Pinky or girlfriend Ava (thanks to #MomLife and a preference for smaller scenes), he experienced it all with his babygirl, Bree. Anthony sits down...

The girls are back in their jammies and this time they've brought a special guest— Dragonfly returns for another round of real, raw, and playful conversation. In this episode, Pinky, Ava, and Dragonfly dive deep into the delicious topic of pleasure: from the power of self-connection to the fun of toys, and why prioritizing intimate time with yourself is more than just self-care—it's self-celebrati...

In this powerful episode of Three Shades Deeper, we sit down with the incomparable Cindy Gallop —advertising icon, entrepreneur, and founder of the groundbreaking platform MakeLoveNotPorn ( https://makelovenotporn.tv ). Known for speaking boldly about sex, Cindy shares how she "accidentally" got into porn—not the industry, but the mission to revolutionize how we think about it. Dating younger men...

In this episode, we dive deep with Bobby , one of the driving forces behind Splash Takeovers , the multi-city lifestyle hotel takeover experience. Bobby shares his personal origin story and how he found his way into the lifestyle, giving us a behind-the-scenes look at his journey from attendee to organizer. We also explore the wide range of Splash events held throughout the year in cities across t...