Three Shades Of Grey

In this episode of  Pinky and Ava's Pajama Party , we welcome back relationship coach Elizabeth Cunningham for a deep and juicy conversation about eroticism and pleasure . Elizabeth reminds us that eroticism isn't just about sex — it's about the full range of aliveness, desire, and connection in our lives. Together, they explore how to tap into your wants and needs, whether in polyamory, sexually,...

What happens when a triad and a quad walk into a podcast?  You get one unforgettable conversation full of laughs, insight, and lifestyle realness. In this episode of Three Shades Deeper , we sit down with two incredible couples in the non-monogamy space—Swinky Life and The Accidental Swingers—to explore what it really means to be polyamorous. From love and labels to communication, compatibility, a...

In this episode, we sit down with the incredible Dragonfly Lee and her partner E from Pure Orgasmic Love, two passionate guides in the realms of non-monogamy, somatic work, and holistic intimacy. Pinky first connected with Dragonfly at Naughty N'awlins, and it was clear from the start that her energy and depth of experience needed to be shared with our community. In this conversation, Dragonfly op...

In this special International Women's Day episode, Pinky and Ava welcome a friend of the show, the one and only Chocolate Fox ! She's a slightly sadistic, top-leaning Domme/switch, a swinger, and proudly poly—so you know this conversation is going to be deliciously dynamic. Together, they dive into the world of BDSM, busting myths, sharing practical advice, and sprinkling in their own spicy storie...

In this episode of Three Shades Deeper, we dive into the world of relationship coaching—especially for those navigating non-monogamy. Our guest, Elizabeth Cunningham, is a relationship coach, speaker, and polyamory educator who has helped countless people create thriving, authentic connections. We explore the real benefits of coaching, from gaining clarity in your relationships to handling challen...

In this episode we sit down with Ava's new partner, Ramone, to explore his journey through non-monogamy. Ramone had always identified as strictly polyamorous, but meeting Ava introduced him to new experiences, including his first sex-positive event. We dive into Ramone's past relationships, his perspective on polyamory before Ava, and how stepping into a more open, play-oriented space challenged a...

In this episode of Pinky & Ava's Pajama Party , we're stripping away the negativity and celebrating body positivity! From embracing our unique shapes to shutting down unrealistic beauty standards, we're diving deep into self-love, confidence, and owning every part of ourselves. Join us as we share personal stories, challenges, and tips on how to feel good in your skin—because every body is a beaut...

Three Shades Deeper: Exploring Intimacy with Beth Darling Welcome to the debut episode of Three Shades Deeper , a new segment where we take an even more intimate look at love, sex, and connection. Our first guest is Beth Darling—author, coach, and speaker—who delves into the nuances of intimacy, sharing insights from her book, The 5 Kinds of Intimacy: How to Keep Your Love Alive . Beth's journey f...

Compersion—the warm, fuzzy feeling of joy when your partner experiences pleasure with someone else—is often called the "opposite of jealousy." But what does it really mean, and how do you cultivate it in your non-monogamous relationships? In this episode, Anthony, Pinky, and Ava dive into the concept of compersion; sharing personal stories, insights, and practical tips on how to navigate this uniq...

Vulnerability is often seen as a risk, but in non-monogamy, it can be the key to deeper connection, trust, and growth. In this episode, Pinky & Ava explore what it means to be vulnerable in relationships that challenge traditional norms. Join us for an honest and raw conversation about the power of being "bare and unbound." Whether you're new to non-monogamy or a seasoned pro, this episode will in...

In this episode, Anthony, Pinky, and Ava recap their unforgettable holiday bowling event.  From Pinky becoming part of a couch (à la Half-Baked) to Ava offering herself as tribute (à la The Hunger Games); we're sharing all the highlights (and strikes) from the night. We also take a look back at our journey over the past year, reflecting on the incredible moments, lessons learned, and growth we've...

Get ready for laughs, gasps, and maybe a few "Ohhhhhs" in this month's episode of  Pinky and Ava's Pajama Party ! Ava drops a bombshell that she's been holding onto for way too long—like, years-long—and it's all about orgasms (yes, those orgasms). We dive deep into Ava's revelation, unpacking the hilarity, the honesty, and the sheer audacity of keeping a secret this big. Did Pinky see it coming? (...

In this episode of Anthony, Pinky, & Ava dive into the concept of polysaturation—the moment when managing multiple partners in non-monogamy becomes overwhelming. While love and connection are infinite; time, energy, and emotional capacity are not. Join us as we break down three concerns surrounding polysaturation:     1.    Time Management     2.    Emotional Burnout     3.    Relationship Quality...

In this episode of Pinky and Ava's Pajama Party , the tables are turned as Ava steps boldly into the spotlight. She's on the prowl, and her latest adventure leads her to an unexpected discovery: someone who speaks Pinky! What does it mean to "speak Pinky"? Ava reveals how she navigated this surprising connection and what made her sit up and take notice. Meanwhile, Pinky offers her perspective on t...

Slumber party, anyone?  In this episode, we're diving into one of the more complex aspects of non-monogamous relationships; sleepovers!!! Spending the night can bring up a range of emotions, from excitement to anxiety, and we're here to explore it all. We'll look at how sleepovers impact feelings like jealousy, security, and connection, along with the unique pros and cons they bring. While they ca...

Love, freedom, and maybe just a dash of "did we call it or what?" are all on the table in this juicy episode!  After leaving the non-monogamous world to pursue love in a monogamous relationship, PD/Nirvana Lover is back—and let's just say, Ava and Pinky couldn't be happier!  This shared partner of theirs isn't just making a return to the lifestyle; he's back where he belongs, rekindling connection...

In this episode, Pinky and Ava dive into the Netflix series Nobody Wants This , a romantic comedy that follows the unlikely connection between an atheist sex podcaster and a Jewish rabbi. From quirky mishaps to heartfelt moments, the show navigates the challenges and joys of balancing differences in lifestyle, belief, and love. Join Pinky and Ava as they break down how they relate to the character...

Join us for this exciting episode as Anthony and Pinky recap their first time attending a Splash Takeovers event in Florida to celebrate another anniversary of Pinky's "21st birthday".    This was no ordinary getaway—Splash Takeovers hosts premier couples only, clothing-optional, lifestyle events where participants from the swinging and kink communities come together for unforgettable experiences....

Picture this: a Christmas party, but instead of unwrapping gifts, Ava's unwrapping…well, you get it.  But this wasn't just any party; it was an empowering space where women ruled, respect was paramount, and despite a few creepers; she felt safe. In this episode, Pinky gets Ava to share her wild introduction to the swinging scene, where "multitasking" took on a whole new meaning for her!   Ava shar...

In this episode, we dive deep into the intricacies of setting and navigating Boundaries, Agreements, and Rules (BAR) in non-monogamous relationships. With insights drawn from real-life experiences and expert advice, we explore how these tools help foster trust, respect, and growth in any relationship dynamic.   Join us for this candid and enlightening conversation on how to set, respect, and evolv...

Pinky is still on the prowl in this exciting follow-up to the original "Pinky on the Prowl" episode.   Join Pinky and Ava as they dive deeper into their journey of self-discovery, empowerment, and sexual liberation.  Inspired by the powerful writings found in the New York Times Bestseller "Pussy, a Reclamation" by Regena Thomashauer (Mama Gena); the ladies explore the importance of embracing the w...

In this episode, we dive into the intricacies of balancing non-monogamous relationships with two other F words; friends and family. How do you handle those moments when explanations fall flat or are lost in translation? Join Anthony, Pinky, & Ava as they explore the hilarious, heartwarming, and sometimes harrowing moments that arise when you talk to monogamous people about non-monogamy.   Plus, th...

In this episode Pinky & Ava tackle the controversial topic of unsolicited D!*k pics.  Exploring why these uninvited snapshots are a major pet peeve and turn-off for them as well as others. While they love the human form, seeing it in an unsolicited and explicit manner can be off-putting. Join the ladies as they delve into the importance of depth and meaningful connection in the world of nonmonogam...

In this episode, we dive into the vibrant and thrilling world of Naughty N'awlins 2024, the annual non-monogamous, sex-positive conference held in the heart of New Orleans. Join us as we recount our experiences, share highlights from the event, and discuss the various workshops, parties, and meetups that made this year's conference unforgettable. LINKS: Three Shades Of Grey | Website Naughty Event...

The Instigator returns, and this time Pinky & Ava couldn't let Hot Mama escape without an invite to the wildest Pajama Party yet. Get ready as Hot Mama spills the tea on her most salacious experiences, from jaw-dropping party tricks to marathon sessions that defy all limits. No walls or boundaries are off-limits in this episode! This episode is a no-holds-barred exploration of freedom, passion, an...