This Won't Fix You

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I welcome Helen Sanderson, the Clutter Therapist, to explore her metaphor of clutter as a burial mound.  Helen explains how clutter often symbolises unresolved trauma, bereavement or unrealised dreams, and likens decluttering to an excavation where hidden treasures and forgotten parts of ourselves are unearthed.  Her approach focuses on creating healing spaces by addressing the emotions tied to po...

If you've ever found yourself bitching about somebody, this episode is for you! Find a new way of seeing everyone else's behaviours. Send me a text (Note: I can't reply, but I will read your comment and might respond to your message in a future episode) Support the show Nadine’s links: Podcast: www.thiswontfixyou.com Counselling: www.nadinepittam.com Instagram: thiswontfixyou Do you...

Relationships (all relationships: friendships, family relations as well as intimate relationships) have a dynamic energy that is constantly in flux. Meg Harper and I talk about this ever-present tension between protecting ourselves as individuals (perhaps at the expense of a relationship) and protecting our relationship(s) perhaps at the expense of ourselves. We start with a quote from Marisa G Fr...

Trauma. This episode I build on Gabor Mate's metaphor that a trigger is just one part of what causes people problems. It distinguishes between "small t" and "Capital T" trauma. The latter is defined as experiences too terrifying for the psyche to process. I talk about the "Window of Tolerance" model, featuring three zones: a green band (regulated state), orange b...

'Being triggered' is so much more in our awareness than ever before. How do we identify our triggers and what can we do and what can we reasonably ask others to do to help us manage them? Psychotherapist, Emma McDermott, and I chat about it. Send me a text (Note: I can't reply, but I will read your comment and might respond to your message in a future episode) Support the show Nadine...

Episode Key Points: The Drama Triangle fundamentally revolves around control Focus on the Rescuer role as the most socially celebrated and potentially toxic position Rescuers often believe their worth is tied to how much they help others Signs You Might Be a Rescuer: Feeling exhausted by constant requests for help Getting frustrated when people don't take your advice Finding others' suff...

Most of us communicate in ways which are unhealthy at least some of the time. This episode, Nadine sits with Richard Chadwick to discuss the Drama Triangle, especially how the unhelpful roles of Rescuer, Victim and Persecutor are embedded in our culture and in our psyches. I challenge you to not recognise yourself in here somewhere! Richard Chadwick is a therapist working in the north west and onl...

In this special B-side episode, host Nadine hands the reins over to equine practitioner Alex Gulland. Alex walks you through the process of a first session in equine therapy, from initial client assessments, to a serene body scan amidst nature, and finally incorporating therapy with horses. Alex brings you to Silver Birch Animal Therapy Farm, detailing the therapeutic benefits of working with hors...

How much do we know what is going on inside our bodies? How much do we ever really know about what we give off that other people around us are picking up on unconsciously (or consciously!)?  This episode, Equine Practitioner, Alex Gulland and I talk about how horses can be seen as emotional mirrors to our internal worlds. Horses, being prey animals, are incredibly sensitive to our energy, our stre...

Emotions, even so-called negative emotions, can be helpful if we see them as guides. Emotions like guilt and ager can be helpful if they lead to positive change. So how do we know whether what we are feeling is helpful or unhelpful?  It's essential to differentiate between guilt that prompts growth and guilt that is rooted in shame. Similarly, self-perception and societal judgements complicat...

“Emotions don’t kill you.”  A discussion between Nadine and Oakland DBT therapist Jonny Cragg about how taking emotional inventories (in a therapeutic modality called DBT) tailor therapeutic skills to emotional intensity. High emotions need robust interventions, while moderate ones require cognitive strategies. Mindfulness in DBT helps manage emotions and communication.  However, challenges includ...

This episode discusses the importance of confronting unresolved pain, as we see with Dr. Ryan Stone in Gravity . Avoiding pain can lead to emotional shutdown and inauthentic living.  Therapy helps by revisiting past traumas, breaking rigid coping mechanisms, and allowing individuals to process and integrate their feelings. Through this process, we can heal, rediscover joy and reclaim control over...

If you, like most people, enjoyed the episode on Frozen (Conceal; Don’t Feel: A-Side) then buckle up because Anoushka Beazley is back with an exploration of the film Gravity.  We talk about grief, loss, loneliness, and Anoushka brings her unique and tender insight to help us all understand what it’s like when we are trying to survive the crisis of loss. Anoushka’s website: https://www.manderlaythe...

There are things that influence us which lie deep in our subconscious. This episode is about some of those. They are psychological backseat drivers. We all have a shadow, and into our shadow we stuff all the parts of ourselves we wish weren't true. And we stuff them in so well that we don't even know they're there. But they affect our thoughts, feelings and behaviours. This episode...

Therapist, Emma McDermott, and I talk about how we can only really be curious about ourselves, especially the darker parts of ourselves, when we have the luxury of being stable. When we have the luxury to be able to reflect, we are empowered to make real changes in our lives, changes that make us stronger, rather than changes which simply remove the obstacles which cause us pain. Emma's Links...

Delving in more detail into the difference between red flags and anxiety, as discussed by Meg and I on the A-Side. I talk a lot about a model, a graph, in this episode. You can have a look at the graph by visiting the podcast page of my website . Seeing the graph will almost certainly aid your understanding of what I am talking about! Send me a text (Note: I can't reply, but I will read your c...

Meg and I talk about fear, and how much of our fear (maybe all of it) is generated by the mind itself as we try to predict the future, project the best version of ourselves out into the world and avoid pain.  We all strive to find happiness, but most of us are seeking it somewhere outside of ourselves. But we are rewarded for our striving, so we just pile on more anger at ourselves when we can&apo...

This episode explores how therapy might help you to process your grief...  It is the B-Side to the One Task Of Mourning A-Side which was released two weeks previously. Send me a text (Note: I can't reply, but I will read your comment and might respond to your message in a future episode) Support the show Nadine’s links: Podcast: www.thiswontfixyou.com Counselling: www.nadinepittam.com Instagra...

How our loss of a person, either through death or separation, is also a loss of the way we related to that person – which is ultimately a loss of a part of us. Or let me put it this way, when we lose someone we must grieve the unique soul of the person we have lost. We grieve the soul connection. And though grief can’t be neatened up, we can observe it, look at it as a series of tasks: the 4 tasks...

Following the last episode where Anoushka and I discussed the film Frozen, this episode looks at narratives: how the stories that are told about us become something that we can't help but react to. I talk a little about IFS (Internal Family Systems) therapy - in particular the term Exile, which is a way of naming the parts of ourselves that are not welcome in our families. There's a brie...

This episode, we talk about the film Frozen and the dangers of suppression and the power of expression! We talk about how narratives that are spun about us, and the way experiences are framed in our lives – especially our childhoods – are key points influencing who we become.  It’s about the impact of being told we have too much power. It’s about how we heal when we have received messages that tel...

Why do we get stuck? What makes it difficult to move on or through something? What narratives are at play in our psyche which we have utterly subscribed to which colour all our experiences? This episode I look at how we get stuck because we don't trust ourselves. Send me a text (Note: I can't reply, but I will read your comment and might respond to your message in a future episode) Suppor...

What happens when we get bored? I mean bored with work or bored with people? And what can we do about it?    Maybe you feel frustrated with your current relationship or work situation, and you want to rekindle the interest you had in the early fiery days of your new love.   Our society, fuelled by our media, feeds our desire for a quick fix, it feeds our obsessions with romance.    We think passio...

Essentially this goes into more detail about shame - what happens when we do begin to share some of our truths, in particular, what happens if we share something and the other person can't hold it with compassion, can't hold it with care, and you are plunged into shame? Send me a text (Note: I can't reply, but I will read your comment and might respond to your message in a future epi...