This Is How You Think - Mindset Habits for Personal Growth

Text Jule :) I get asked about adult friendships A LOT, like why it’s so hard to make friends, why some friends are so difficult, or why some friends keep disappointing us. Most of the advice out there talks about good communication, having the same values, and letting go of expectations, but I think this angst about friends centers around friendship compatibility. Compatibility in a friendship go...

Text Jule :) This episode is about grief showing up in your body, why your feelings can hit long before your mind understands why, and how a grief anniversary can knock you flat a year later when you think you’re finally okay. In this episode: Why you feel sad or low for no reason and can’t figure out why  What a grief anniversary reaction actually feels like from the inside  How your body keeps s...

Text Jule :) Despite all the negative self-talk running in my head, for years I figured the whole “watch your words” thing was a load of bullsh*t.    Then about three years ago I came across research showing that emotions have a recipe, and it was a total light bulb moment for me.    So in this episode I’m breaking down the actual science of how the words you use shape what you feel, and how learn...

Text Jule :) How to build real confidence is one of the most common goals people come to me for, and the truth is that it starts with self-trust, not with the affirmation cards and power poses you find on Google. The real work is excavating your past to find a belief you keep carrying that isn’t true. I share the story of how my dad spent my childhood telling me my voice was annoying, and how that...

Text Jule :) Okay, so this is me pulling back the curtain on the public speaking anxiety and self-doubt that almost made me say no to the biggest talk of my career. I'm taking you through the whole mental spiral, the panic before I walked on stage, and the sneaky way my own brain turned on me when I started caring too much what everyone would think. If you've ever had a big opportunity l...

Text Jule :) If you can’t accept a compliment without downplaying it, deflecting it, or chalking the whole thing up to luck, this episode is for you. I sometimes do the same thing, and for a long time I had no idea why owning my own accomplishments felt safer to dodge than to just sit in. I trace it all the way back to a report card and what  my dad said when he finally looked at it. This episode...

Text Jule :) Here's how I stopped overreacting when life falls apart, and why learning to stay calm under stress isn't a personality trait you're either born with or not.  I just spent three days trying to get home from Europe, and watching everyone melt down taught me a lot about how to stay calm when things go wrong. Flights got canceled, a plane got diverted, I caught food poison...

Text Jule :) If you’ve ever wondered how to de-escalate a conflict with someone who won’t let it go, or why your apology isn’t landing even when you mean it, this episode is going to give you a real answer. Most people try to fix the feeling, but the actual problem is almost always the thinking underneath it, and until you address the thought, nothing you say is going to move the needle. I walk th...

Text Jule :) Most of us mess up difficult or emotional conversations because we try to fix the wrong thing. Someone’s upset, and we hand them a fact, a logical explanation, a different perspective, and then we wonder why they get more frustrated or just shut down. (I’m guilty of doing this too.) In this episode I’m sharing my STEW framework (See, Think, Emotion, Words) and a really simple tool for...

Text Jule :) A video I made in ten minutes beat the ones I spent hours on. That forced me to face something I didn’t want to admit: a lot of what I called “hard work” and “progress” was just overcomplicating the real work. In this episode: How I convinced myself that hours of production per video was "doing the work" The TikTok I rushed in ten minutes that got more views than anything I&...

Text Jule :) Most people who never learned how to apologize don't even realize that's the problem. I grew up in a Korean household where apologies never happened, so I spent years refusing to apologize without understanding what that was doing to my relationships. In this episode, I'm getting into why some people genuinely can't apologize, why over-apologizing does just as much...

Text Jule :) Masking and people-pleasing often start as survival strategies in childhood, but over time they become the only version of you that people ever see. I break down how I used intelligence and helpfulness to earn belonging for decades without realizing it, and why that kept people from actually connecting with me. Topics covered in this episode: The Golden Buddha story and why we cover o...

Text Jule :) Unmet emotional needs are the invisible saboteurs behind some of our most frustrating patterns.  I'm talking about the stuff where you know exactly what you need to change and you still can't do it.  In this episode I'm getting into what unmet needs actually are, how they're different from values, and how they've been running my life in ways I didn't see...

Text Jule :) Setting boundaries in relationships is one of those things most of us were never properly taught. In this episode, I break down what is a boundary, my 4-step formula, and how to actually set boundaries without being mean with family, friends, and coworkers. Topics covered in this episode: What a boundary actually is (and what it isn't) Why setting boundaries feels selfish, especi...

Text Jule :) Why finding your purpose feels impossible: If you have no career direction, feel trapped by the golden handcuffs, and don't know what your next step is, I get it. I spent 39 years cycling through careers I didn't enjoy before I finally found my calling in coaching. In this episode, I talk about why so many of us end up stuck in careers we don't care about and how to cho...

Text Jule :) If you keep getting interviews but not offers, the biggest problem may not be your qualifications. In this episode, I break down the scarcity, desperation, impostor thinking, and interview mindset mistakes that make strong candidates come across shaky. If you've been wondering why you feel so nervous in job interviews, this one's for you. With over a million layoffs in the U...

Text Jule :) Adult friendships are complicated, and figuring out what friendship means as you get older is something most of us are just winging. At some point, you start losing friends, or realizing the ones you have don't quite fit anymore, and you're left wondering what is a friend, really, and what do I actually need from the people around me? I sat down with four people to explore t...

Text Jule :) How to stop comparing yourself to others: why the comparison trap is actually a safety problem. If you've been stuck in unhealthy comparison and wondering why do we compare ourselves to others even when we know it's bad for us, this episode is going to change what you understand about it.  I kept seeing this pattern in my clients, my friends, pretty much everyone around me....

Text Jule :) Relationship advice from Reddit gets a lot of things wrong. As a coach who works with couples and individuals on communication, boundaries, and emotional patterns, I break down three of the most common relationship posts and unpack what people are asking versus what they actually need to resolve. In this episode, I cover: A girlfriend wondering if she's being manipulative for dem...

Text Jule :) Overcoming a negative mindset, and how I turned my toxic negativity around. If you’re stuck in a negative mindset and you’re tired of nothing changing, this episode gives you a tool that actually helps. I’m taking you through the exact method I use with my clients to start rewriting your mental habits, shifting your emotions, and taking real action, without toxic positivity or fake af...

Text Jule :) Women and money mindset. If you're a high-earning woman wondering "why can't I save money," you're not alone. The women and money conversation rarely addresses what happens when you're smart, educated, and still struggling financially.  In this episode, financial coach Sandra Park and I share the money mindset shifts that finally helped us stop overspendi...

Text Jule :) Fear has many faces. Procrastination disguised as learning is one of the biggest traps holding smart, capable people back. If you’ve been bingeing courses, reading books, and calling it “growth”...but not taking action, this episode breaks down exactly why you’re stuck and how to get out. I’m sharing my story of how I left my job at Amazon to start a photography business… and then spe...

Text Jule :) If you’ve ever hit a big milestone and thought, “that’s it?” - this episode is for you. I’m breaking down why success can still feel empty, why you might struggle to feel proud even after achieving something meaningful, and how imposter thinking and “not earning it the right way” strip the satisfaction out of your wins. In this episode, I talk about what it is like to finish something...

Text Jule :) In this deeply personal year-end reflection podcast , I’m sharing the truth about what it was like to live through the hardest year of my life. If you're navigating grief, burnout, chronic illness , or financial stress right now, this episode may feel like a mirror. 2025 wasn’t a highlight reel. I cut ties with my closest friend. I lost my brother unexpectedly. My dad was hospita...

Text Jule :) If you struggle with consistency, habit building, or following through on goals—especially if you have ADHD or feel like traditional goal setting doesn’t work for you—this episode is for you. I’m talking about habits, routines, and why I spent years starting things and quietly stopping, even when I really wanted change.   This episode comes from my own experience with ADHD, autism, an...