TheRuffLife

A day with the Serenity’s grandparents. Serenity and Avia talk about the experience they had hanging out together, enjoying the day.

When situations happen in our lives that change our views, possibly forever.

Motherhood in its infancy stages. Kely will share her experience of being a 1st time mother and how she made it through the trauma of childbirth; the joy and the pain of it all.

Let’s talk about Trauma and how to heal.

Snoop and I are still hanging out. He’s still skittish and scared of everything and nothing, all at once. Anyway, I hope you enjoy listening to my fabulous/retired life.

Episode 2: Movies watched and reviewed.

Episode 1: When we retire we have all these things we’re going to do, places to go, but when the time comes to do or go, things can change.

Vegas: Part One & Two

Me and my girls, Rachel and Kayatta aka Bird, take on the list of restaurants (28) we would/wouldn’t want to go to, on a first date. Is this list based on age? Who are the ladies that were surveyed and what are their ages?

On your self-care journey, hopefully, you will find things to do, that will help you increase your self-care. There are ways to help us along the way, and one of them is to STOP Ranting on social media. It zaps your spirit and gives no peace. Get somewhere and sat down. Sing a song that breathes life into your soul, and sing it loud. Also, I have found that scented candles help us relax and wind d...

As young girls, we had lists of who we would marry, how many kids, etc., Some of us have held on to those lists, and cannot figure out why no one met the criteria. Try letting go of that list and just be in the moment. No one can be all the things you want and neither can you. Choose love, and don’t be afraid of being vulnerable, and getting your heart broke. While you are deciding whether or not...

There is always someone who needs information that we have, but finding that person may not know that they need what you have to offer. Make sure the person (mentee) wants to be mentored. Let us pass on that which was passed down to us. While becoming a mentor seems great, let us not forget to Check-in with our Spirit. We cannot walk around with an unwell Spirit, a cup that is half full. We need t...

As we continue on our journey of self-care, we will add to the list of things we do to practice our self-care. Some of things that we can do or improve on is Volunteering, Learning, and Reading. These things are ways we can help ourselves and others. Volunteering is a great way to meet others but more importantly, occupy ourselves, helping others and not focusing on our problems. As we volunteer,...

Some cool ways to elevate our self-care are sometimes by writing a letter to our future selves, phoning a friend and by asking for help. Writing a letter can be a way of accomplishing goals that you have set for yourself as well as increasing your spiritual wellness. As we grow, we must not forget to phone a friend. Most people have someone to reach out to; someone who can help get us through some...

Healing wounds are one way to start our self-care, is to heal our wounds, and healing our mother wound, is of the most importance. Healing is for us, and sometimes we must go through the process, to be able to move forward. Along our self-care journey, we need to find something fun to put our energy into. As we heal and find hobbies, we need to make sure we continue to explore black art. Black art...

In a world that is not always kind to black women, we are told to find our joy. Learning that we do not have to earn the joy we seek, we must convince ourselves that it is already ours. While we are finding our joy, we need to write down any ambitions. Writing helps us to remember what we wrote. We need to look at our ambitions and as we achieve them, cross them out or burn them. After we’ve found...

Stop dating people who only fetishize you. People who say you look exotic and they have never dated a black woman. Pick and choose your battles. Whatever you do, don’t forget the red flags. They are there to warn you of the signs of someone who doesn’t have your best interest, but their own. And talking about “red flags” working at a job that is unfulfilling and stagnant is as a red flag to move o...

Sometimes we have to start putting things in place, especially when we have been given tools to assist us in feeling better about ourselves. So making a “gratitude “ jar is one way to show gratefulness. As we move along with the teachings of caring for ourselves, we must not forget to Celebrate the black women around us, including family members. Give these women their flowers while they live, it...

Reconnecting to Your Higher Power is of great importance because that’s where you find your vibration and peace. Reconnecting with Your Tribe and moving in a formation, specific to you, and for you can get you Grounded. Being grounded is what stability looks like. It’s that thing that informs you, that you are, where you should be. Take some time to reconnect, at any time, throughout this week, an...

Traveling is a great way for black women or any woman can find themselves. You get to know yourself and see some things that might be good or not so good. Either way, learn to love on yourself and be okay with being with yourself. Supporting black businesses whether you live in a black neighborhood or not, is essential to generational wealth, and Building a “Healthy Sisterhood”. Being around women...

If we want to change the way we think about wanting more, we need to develop a different mindset. We need to develop a mindset of Abundance. Also, Watching something funny allows us to not take life too seriously and just laugh. Laughing at yourself is a good place to start. And then we want to make sure we create a financial plan for the Abundance mindset we are developing. Ultimately, these thin...

Relationships that are unhealthy for us, must come to an end. If we are carrying someone else’s burdens and not dealing with our own, we need to breakup with that person, so that we can continue on our self care road. Also, sometimes it’s our environment that is holding us back. When we see this, we need to trust our intuition and make that move. When we move, we should take into consideration, wh...

Date yourself, by spending time alone, doing what you like doing. Plan a girls trip and make sure you do at least one group event. But do not forget to buy a plant for your house, room, etc..it will help you to decrease stress and improve your mood

We need to make time for our friendships. This might mean scheduling time to hang out. We all need someone who we can connect with and laugh with . While scheduling time, make sure this person respects your time and that you cannot and will not be her ride or die. Like, what does that entail anyway? And last but definitely not least, find yourself a mentor to help with work and your relationships....

Listening to your intuition is a good thing to do. Don’t let others make decisions for you and if you do, conduct a pros vs cons list to help you with decision making. Relaxing is a must but adding some essential oils could help you to feel better. Visiting your ancestral land might answer questions you need answers to. Also, your ancestral land might be in another state, versus going to another c...