Therapy Brothers

Caller Chase: a determined individual, has been working diligently on his recovery journey for the past two years. With a mission to overcome scrupulosity and anxiety in addiction recovery, he has been striving to reintegrate into life and form healthy connections with others. Chase's genuine desire to connect with people and help them heal has been both a strength and a challenge as he navigates...

Caller Rachelle's Question: Rachelle's marriage of 32 years was suddenly upended when she discovered her husband's infidelity and financial mistakes. The revelation left her grappling with betrayal and devastation, while trying to make sense of her husband's actions. As she confronted him, Rachelle faced the heartbreak of knowing her spouse had fallen out of love with her, choosing a sex worker ov...

Caller Duane: is a talented licensed marriage and family therapist who has dedicated his career to helping individuals and couples navigate the complex emotions and challenges surrounding grief and loss. He is also a fellow podcaster, sharing his knowledge and expertise on his popular shows "Helping Couples Heal" and "The Addicted Mind Podcast." Duane brings his own personal experience of grief to...

Caller Crystal: has been married for about 15 years with 4 kids and recently had multiple full disclosure with her husband about his addiction and relationship with a friend. Crystal feels overwhelmed because her husband is putting the decision to divorce or not on her. Crystal is trying to pick up the pieces of her life after her world got scattered after finding out what her husband has been doi...

Caller Chris: a thoughtful individual who has been navigating the complexities of addiction recovery within his marriage for some time. Having been married for 18 years and committed to his partner, Chris brings a unique perspective on the importance of honesty, accountability, and transparency in healing processes. Throughout his journey, Chris has been open to seeking professional help and parti...

Caller Bob: is 82 and hid his addiction from his wife for about 40 years. They have both been trying to work recovery from the addiction and betrayal. Bob realizes that he has struggled with inadequacy and is trying to get to the root of his addiction. After years of being in an unhealthy cycle of pornography and rage, Bob had the courage to seek help and is now on his journey to recovery. He has...

Caller Nikki: Nikki had been married to a man for eight years, living a life of oppressive control, psychological and emotional manipulation and physical abuse. Through her story, Nikki learned that she and her mother had been trauma bonded, and she was replaying the same patterns of behavior in her marriage. After realizing this, Nikki was determined to fight for her physical, emotional, mental a...

Caller Donna: Meet Donna, a 62-year-old woman who has been through a lot in her life. Donna joined the Navy at the age of 18, became an RN as a single mom, and then got married to her now-husband when her daughter was five. Donna's husband has been struggling with a compulsive use of pornography since 2010, and while Donna has worked with multiple counselors and therapists, she is still questionin...

Caller Brian: has been in a form of recovery for the past 12 years, but has got into real recovery and trauma work for the past 2 years. After experiencing some trauma in his church through a church leader and father, Brian has struggled with his relationship with God. Because of his relationship with God and working his recovery, he feels like he is going through the process alone. Brian realizes...

The Brothers Discuss: an interesting question about narcissism and how ADHD or ADD is always diagnosed, especially in school. A common theme is a diagnosis, even from loved ones, that one with an addiction is narcissistic. Great clarity can come to someone who is hurting when you can get answers to why your loved one is acting in a certain way. There is a power that comes to us when we can name so...

Callers Devin and Jen: are a couple who have experienced both sides of addiction and recovery. After Devin spent two years in jail for his addiction, they have worked to rebuild their marriage and their lives through recovery and education. Forgiveness and understanding are a powerful commodity when it comes to those in recovery. But what happens when someone we love has legal charges? Is it possi...

Caller Joe: explores identity and worthiness in a journey of deep self-reflection and inner healing. For Joe, a 43-year-old former West Point cadet, Bronze Star recipient, and recovering addict, this journey has been a long and difficult one. From childhood sexual abuse, to a porn addiction, to serial infidelity, Joe has experienced a lifetime of trauma, pain, and abandonment. But he is trying to...

The Brothers Discuss: how women experience shame through a web of mixed messages. Men experience shame through the pressure to be a strong provider and women experience it through messages about their value based on their physical appearance. To escape shame, we must learn to be congruent with who we already are and who God has made us to be, instead of trying to live up to expectations from the c...

Caller Chris: was a good baseball player with a big heart, but was struggling with a long-term addiction to porn. Although he was in recovery, his addiction had hurt his wife in many ways and created a deep shame in him. He had a strong relationship with his wife and her three children, but felt disconnected from his heavenly father. Through his recovery journey and a lot of reflection, Chris real...

Our Guest, Dr. Wyatt Fisher is a licensed psychologist and Ph. D. in Boulder, Colorado. Dr. Wyatt shared his six steps for couples to consider when experiencing betrayal in their relationship. He encouraged ceasing all contact with the affair person, opening up all accounts, showing remorse, and discussing the details with the betrayed partner in control. He suggested exposing the affair if the wa...

Caller Brie: Has been married for 16 years and after her first year of being married, she discovered her husbands behaviors. She struggled with being in the dark and not having as much trust in her marriage. Brie wonders if her husband struggles with a gender issue along with an addiction. While being separated from her husband, Brie is dedicated to keeping the good that she has in her marriage an...

Caller David: Struggling with some perfectionism, David races to build a life of recovery, integrity, and family - only to discover the true key to success is embracing his own worth and value despite his mistakes. David was trying to be perfect, strive for success, and make sure his family was happy. He knew he was on a path to recovery, to becoming an honest man and saving what he had, but he wa...

The Brothers Discuss: the power of God's grace, challenging the protagonist to question their long-held beliefs about an all-punishing, transactional God in order to break free from their shame-filled cycle of addiction. Often people have a distorted view of God that leads to feelings of shame and disconnection instead of love and peace. This distorted view can start at a young age through a rigid...

Caller Jay: grew up in Arizona in a family of 10 with a father who had a sexual addiction and masked it by using his mother's credibility. Despite thinking he had a normal childhood, Jay began to act out with porn and lust and kept it a secret from his wife. With therapy, Jay and his wife stayed together and his sister opened up about her and Jay's experience of being molested by their father. Jay...

Caller Kat's Question: "My husband has been in recovery from porn addiction for about 4 years now. His addictive behavior has affected me and our relationship in a number of ways over our 12 years together — he has lied, kept secrets, hidden files, and items, given partial disclosures, and attempted to gaslight me many times, so that for the first few years I took on the role of “porn police”, sea...

Caller Ashley's Question: "How can you approach recovery/continued commitment or deal with your addict's extramarital attraction in a scenario where they don't have those sexual feelings/attraction to you? I got married not knowing about my spouse's physical sexual preferences... he was not open about his preferences/attraction which is mainly towards people/types that are very different from me....

Caller David: had struggled with an addiction to pornography since he was seven. After years of shame and guilt, he finally hit a breaking point and decided to open up to his wife about his addiction and the emotional affair he had. He also started going to therapy, talking to his pastor, and attending a Twelve Step program to learn more about addiction and recovery. Through all of this, he began...

Caller Chadwick: Chadwick is a common law spouse of 6 years who has recently started formal therapy to address his childhood trauma, addiction, and relationship issues. He is passionate about recovery and rebuilding trust in his relationship. "The only measuring stick is your heart putting your effort in, and if you gave it today, you win today." After six years of a seemingly perfect relationship...

Caller Moises: has been struggling to find purpose and passion in life, numbing his feelings to survive. Through talking with Tyler and Brannon, he learned how to sit with fear and discomfort, and understand that failure is part of the process. "The road to success is full of failures. Take away the anesthetic and allow yourself to go through the withdrawals, feel the pain, and step into it - ther...

Caller Austin: is a former only child and grandchild who has experienced the pressure of performing for his family in order to receive love. He is now trying to find a balance between undersharing and oversharing with his fiancee in order to create trust, safety, and a healthy relationship. "It's more important to be trusted than to be loved. And what that's really saying is that I can't really fu...