The Wrong Ones

A reflection on unrealized futures, settling, identity, and learning to trust the unfolding of your life. Somewhere along the way, many of us were told that adulthood would eventually arrive with certainty—that one day we'd wake up knowing exactly who we are, who we're meant to love, and what kind of life we're supposed to build. Instead, many of us find ourselves standing in the middle of thirty...

This week's episode is less "healed older sister giving life advice" and more "emotionally exhausted woman attempting to psychoanalyze her own spiral in real time." This episode explores what happens when hyper-independence stops feeling empowering and starts feeling exhausting. From repeated vet visits and carrying the emotional weight of life alone, to dating app burnout, failed setups, loneline...

A reflection on fear, avoidance, and the emotional gray area between healing and starting over. There's a version of healing that looks really good on paper—the routines, the growth, the self-awareness. And then there's the part no one really talks about: the quiet resistance that shows up when it's actually time to put yourself back out there. This episode sits in that in-between space. It's not...

A conversation on using astrology as insight—not escape. In this episode, we sit down with Melissa Perez (Mel)—a birth chart reader I've mentioned before—for a grounded, honest conversation about astrology and what it's actually meant to do. We break down what a birth chart really is, how it's created, and why so many people feel seen by it almost instantly. But more importantly, we get into the n...

A reflection on modern dating, emotional standards, and the quiet work of healing in real time. In this episode of The Wrong Ones, we're not talking about a dramatic breakup or a sweeping love story. We're talking about something much smaller—and, in a lot of ways, much more telling. A date that didn't happen. A message that didn't come. And the spiral of thoughts that follows when someone's incon...

A reflection on friendship, ease, emotional safety, and the unexpected ways life reveals what actually matters. In this episode of The Wrong Ones, we're doing something a little different—no script, no structure, just a real-time life update that feels more like a voice note than a polished episode. We start with the surface: a long-awaited trip to Europe—flying into Munich, road-tripping through...

A reflection on female loyalty, validation, betrayal, and the blurred lines between need and self-worth. In this episode of The Wrong Ones, we're unpacking the Summer House scandal everyone is talking about—but not in the way you've heard it before. Because this isn't really about Amanda, Ciara, and West. It's about what they represent. We start with the surface: the relationships, the timelines,...

 A reflection on projection, dopamine, attachment patterns, and why reality TV feels like a mirror. In this episode of The Wrong Ones, we're unpacking the newest season of Love Is Blind—not as reality television, but as a social psychology experiment. Two people fall in love without seeing each other. They speak through a wall. They form emotional connections in the dark. The premise is simple: if...

A reflection on high-functioning women, over-functioning in love, and the quiet loneliness of evolution. In this episode of The Wrong Ones, we're unpacking something rarely said out loud: the emotional cost of being the capable one. You went to therapy. You built the career. You regulated your nervous system. You stopped chasing chaos. You became self-sufficient. And somehow… it got quieter. This...

A reflection on rivalry, dopamine, and the psychology of yearning. In this episode of The Wrong Ones, we're unpacking the cultural phenomenon surrounding Heated Rivalry—and the question quietly sitting underneath the discourse: why are so many straight women emotionally invested in a male–male rivalry romance? This isn't an episode about sexuality. It's an episode about longing. What begins as a p...

A reflection on attention, overstimulation, and what infinite connectivity is quietly doing to intimacy. In this episode of The Wrong Ones, I'm returning after another week away—not because I didn't want to record, but because my mind genuinely felt jumbled. I received a few DMs asking where the new episode was, and I'm grateful you noticed. The truth is, I didn't want to sit down and speak until...

A reflection on desire, identity, and the quiet tension between knowing and wanting. In this episode of The Wrong Ones, I'm returning after a week away—traveling to another continent, and choosing not to record until I could show up fully present. What begins as a travel recap slowly unfolds into a psychological reflection on autonomy, gratitude, and the dissonance of craving things we intellectua...

A reflection on accuracy, attachment, and the quiet relief of finally trusting yourself. In this episode of The Wrong Ones , I'm unpacking a moment that caught me off guard during a trip to Sedona—a birth chart reading that wasn't emotional because it was mystical, but because it was precise. This isn't an astrology episode. It's a conversation about what happens psychologically when someone refle...

A reflection on first heartbreaks, body memory, and the quiet moment you stop needing answers. In this episode of The Wrong Ones, I'm unpacking something that started as a harmless social-media trend—looking back at 2016 photos—and turned into a much deeper conversation about identity, body image, and the psychology of our first real heartbreak. What happens when old photos don't feel nostalgic, b...

A real-time catch-up about nervous-system safety, a Phoenix meet-cute that cracked something open, and what changes when you stop living from lack. In this episode of The Wrong Ones, I'm doing something a little different. Instead of a fully scripted conversation, I'm letting this one unfold the way life has been unfolding lately—messy, surprising, and honestly kind of beautiful. It's part storyti...

A New Year conversation about self-investment, self-trust, and why alignment—not being chosen—changes everything. In this first episode of the new year, The Wrong Ones opens with a recalibration rather than a reinvention. This is not a "new year, new me" episode. It's a grounded, psychology-forward exploration of what it actually means to choose yourself—consistently, holistically, and without tur...

A milestone episode about endings, beginnings, and the kind of growth that doesn't show up on a highlight reel. In this episode of The Wrong Ones, we close out the year by reflecting on 2025 not through accomplishments or external milestones, but through what was integrated—emotionally, psychologically, and neurologically. Episode 30 quietly marks a milestone of its own, and instead of turning it...

What I created, moved through, and survived—and why none of it was for nothing. In this episode of The Wrong Ones, we reflect on the year not through milestones or achievements, but through what was metabolized—emotionally, psychologically, and neurologically. Recorded during that tender in-between stretch as Hanukkah comes to a close and the holidays begin, this conversation explores what it actu...

In this episode of The Wrong Ones, we talk about the quiet, internal moment when your relationship worldview widens—not because you've suddenly changed who you are, but because you've finally grown into someone who can hold more nuance. From matching with a trans man on a dating app to noticing how your thirties shift your sense of "never" and "always," we explore what happens when the lens you've...

In this episode of The Wrong Ones, we're stepping into a birthday reflection that feels tender, grounding, and quietly transformative. After celebrating my 35th with a low-key, love-filled weekend, I found myself looking back on one of the most beautiful and painful years of my life—a year that stretched me, softened me, humbled me, and rebuilt me in ways I never expected. So today, I'm sharing 35...

In this episode of The Wrong Ones, we dive into the psychology underneath almost every question women ask themselves in their 30s—marriage, kids, timelines, independence, desire, fear, and whether we genuinely want the things we've been told we should want. Instead of treating these questions as confusion or crisis, we explore them as evidence of emotional expansion, nervous system evolution, and...

In this episode of The Wrong Ones, we dive into a truth that most women carry quietly: the tension between what we genuinely want, what we think we're supposed to want, and what our minds protect us from wanting at all. This conversation begins in therapy—naturally—where a single sentence cracked open an entire internal universe: "Sometimes I feel like maybe I don't even want marriage or kids… bec...

In this episode of The Wrong Ones, we talk about what it actually looks like to come back home to yourself after a breakup—not in the TikTok "day two Pilates girl" glow-up way, but in the quiet, messy, deeply human way. We explore how heartbreak forces you to confront the version of you who tolerated crumbs, abandoned her own needs, and confused chaos for chemistry—and how healing slowly turns you...

In this episode of The Wrong Ones, we talk about how self-awareness changes what you tolerate, and how noticing small "data points" early can save you from months of confusion later. We unpack the subtle red flags—defensiveness, one-sided intimacy, lack of reciprocity—that often reveal more about someone's emotional capacity than any grand gesture ever could. Through personal storytelling and psyc...

In this episode of The Wrong Ones, we talk about what happens when you stop dating to be chosen and start dating to be curious. We explore how psychology, neuroscience, and self-awareness can transform the way we approach modern love—from seeing our friends' relationships as proof that love exists, to walking into dates with zero expectations and full presence. Through personal storytelling and re...