The Wrong Ones

In this episode of The Wrong Ones, we talk about the kind of love that almost feels right—the one that keeps you hoping, waiting, and performing for connection that never quite arrives. We explore why trauma makes us settle for  almost loved, almost chosen, almost enough , and how healing teaches the nervous system to recognize real love as calm, not chaos. Through psychology, neuroscience, and pe...

In this episode of The Wrong Ones, we talk about the kind of connection that doesn't require translation—the one where you don't have to overexplain, overperform, or shrink your story to be understood. We explore why shared experience can deepen emotional intimacy, how empathy rooted in lived experience feels grounding rather than performative, and what it means to feel seen without needing to be...

In this episode of The Wrong Ones, we talk about what happens when life presses on every old bruise you thought had healed—all while you're supposed to be on vacation. We explore what it feels like to be the only single person in a group of couples, how invisibility shows up in adulthood, and why sometimes healing feels less like progress and more like observation. Through stories from a trip to M...

In this episode of The Wrong Ones, we dig into the messy gap between theory and practice. Why you can ace attachment charts in solitude but fall apart the second someone doesn't text back. Why embarrassment isn't failure but data. Why relationships act as mirrors that magnify both your shadow and your light. And why courage isn't magic—it's logistics. Through stories, psychology, and neuroscience,...

In this episode of The Wrong Ones, I pressed pause on the plan and gave myself space to vent about the absurdity of modern dating. After two back-to-back ghostings in the same week—one from an East Coast visitor who likely mass-texted the entire Bay Area, and another from a "let's grab dinner" guy who never followed through—I realized how these little moments can still sting even when you think yo...

In this episode of The Wrong Ones, we name and honor the "safe house" of solitude—why it feels protective after heartbreak and why it can quietly become a ceiling. Sparked by an Instagram quote from Afsa Rosette about theory vs. practice, we unpack the psychology behind avoidance, shame, and nervous-system safety, and we begin moving from thinking about connection to practicing it—one inch at a ti...

  In this episode of The Wrong Ones, we're tackling the conversation couples fear more than sex: money. Because money isn't just math—it's meaning. It's values, identity, childhood scripts, and sometimes the reason you're arguing over oat milk instead of 401(k)s. From the "bakery vs. empire" mismatch to financial infidelity, we explore why money is intimacy at the highest level—and how aligning on...

In this episode of The Wrong Ones, we're putting the therapy couch in the middle of Wall Street. If you've ever felt like you were writing blank emotional checks, subsidizing someone else's healing, or mistaking adrenaline for chemistry, this one's for you. We blend medicine, psychology, and a little market humor to help you evaluate partners the way a CFO evaluates investments—by looking at funda...

In this episode of The Wrong Ones, we're talking about why single friends matter when you're single—especially in your 30s. Because let's be honest: sometimes it feels like everyone else is married, pregnant, or building Montessori Pinterest boards, while you're the only "party of one" at the table. But being single doesn't have to mean being lonely. With the right mirrors—friends in your same sea...

In this episode of  The Wrong Ones , we're unpacking the messy, funny, painful, and oh-so-human mistakes we make in love—and why most of them aren't accidents at all, but patterns rooted in psychology, attachment, and our own unmet needs. From confusing chemistry with compatibility to breaking our own non-negotiables, I share the lessons I learned the hard way—and the science behind why we keep re...

In this episode of The Wrong Ones , we're breaking up with one of the most romanticized — and misleading — ideas in modern dating: the soulmate myth. From the "readiness" lie to the science behind why heartbreak feels like a broken bone, we unpack why believing in the one can actually hold you back from finding love that's real, healthy, and sustainable. In this episode, we cover: How to tell if y...

In this tender, science-backed episode of The Wrong Ones , we talk about why play isn't regression—it's repair. Using the Labubu phenomenon as a doorway, we unpack how nostalgia, variable reinforcement (dopamine), and "comfort consumerism" can actually be signals from the nervous system asking for softness and safety. We explore inner-child work through attachment theory and somatic psychology, gr...

In this lighter (but still unhinged) episode of The Wrong Ones, we're switching things up with a special listener Q&A. From cosmic gaslighting and spiritual co-parenting offers to spreadsheet-date reviews and fake trips to Italy, you all seriously delivered. We're answering 15 real questions submitted via Instagram—from the deeply relatable to the wildly absurd—serving up hot takes, red flag radar...

In this searingly honest episode of The Wrong Ones , we crack open the blueprint that governs who we love, how we attach, and why we often mistake chaos for chemistry. Using a viral Call Her Daddy interview as a launch point, we go deep into the heart of relational trauma—unpacking what it means to grow up in silence, perform for love, and unconsciously seek out men who echo the wounds of our fath...

In this deeply resonant episode of The Wrong Ones , we unpack the quiet collapse that often begins in your 30s—the decade that doesn't just change you, but dismantles you. This is the chapter of your life where things look fine on the outside, but inside? Something feels… off. Misaligned. Exhausted. Unrecognizable. We explore the psychology, neuroscience, and emotional unraveling behind this trans...

In this raw, unfiltered episode of The Wrong Ones , we're diving deep into the messy, heartbreaking, and psychologically complex experience of loving someone with a substance abuse problem. From the quiet patterns that creep in slowly to the explosive moments of clarity, we explore how addiction can erode intimacy, distort reality, and entangle you in cycles of denial, secrecy, and shame. We explo...

This week on  The Wrong Ones , we're talking about what happens when your growth becomes a threat to someone who once claimed to love you. Why do so many women feel the need to dim their light to protect a man's ego? Why is a woman's ambition seen as disruptive rather than magnetic? And why is it still considered "special" when a man supports his partner's success—but simply expected when women do...

This week, we're cracking open the psychology behind  why we think everything is a sign after a breakup. From seeing their name everywhere to believing that shared Spotify playlists are soul contracts, we unpack the truth behind what's really going on in the brain—and the heart—when you're grieving someone who's already gone. We'll talk about: The Reticular Activating System (RAS) and how it filte...

In this deeply personal episode of  The Wrong Ones , I'm opening up about the connection between heartbreak, body image, and disordered eating. This isn't an easy one—but it's the most honest I've ever been. I take you through the origins of my relationship with food, from a hyper-health-conscious upbringing to my diagnosis with hypothyroidism and later, Hashimoto's. I share how a breakup became t...

This week on The Wrong Ones , we're unpacking a breakup that played out in front of millions — and left behind some major lessons on relationship dynamics, trauma bonds, and the psychology of healing after public shame. Yes, we're talking about Rachael Kirkconnell & Matt James — from The Bachelor to After the Final Rose … to Japan… to Call Her Daddy … and everything in between. In this episode, we...

  Welcome to The Wrong Ones , where the mic is hot, the voice notes are long, and the healing is very much a work in progress. In this deeply honest and unfiltered intro, your (anonymous) host shares what led her to finally hit record—from the heartbreak that cracked her open, to the healing that's still in progress. Sitting on the floor of her walk-in closet, she reflects on the relationships tha...