The Work

Send a text Get in touch: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/james_shireby/ Email: jamesshireby@hotmail.com Interview episodes you might enjoy: Anthony Barnes: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vwZ3TikRV9s Chloe Thomas: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JQEhKfcAZgk Johnny Lawrence: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l_ErlDxpeGk Read more from me: https://twpt.co.uk/blog/77/how-to-manage-your-negative-t...

Send a text When most men think about ego, they think arrogance or insecurity. But the real issue isn’t having an ego — it’s having an unhealthy one. In this episode of The Work, I explore how an insecure ego drives stress, defensiveness, and relationship struggles, often without you realising it. We cover what the ego really is, how it forms, why it becomes rigid, and how awareness, mental flexib...

Send a text Growth isn’t always loud or obvious. Often, it shows up quietly in how you think, communicate, and take responsibility for your life. In this episode of The Work with James Shireby , James explores five subtle but powerful signs that you’re genuinely growing as a man. We cover: Why learning to ask rather than assume is a sign of maturity How having difficult conversations builds trust...

Send a text Here’s How to Get Clear on Your Values (And Why It Matters More Than Ever) In a world full of noise, pressure, and endless choice, many men feel stuck, unfulfilled, or disconnected — even when life looks good on the outside. In this episode of The Work, James explores one of the most important questions a man can ask: What’s worth caring about? You’ll learn why a lack of values clarity...

Send a text Purpose isn’t something you suddenly find. It’s something you build. In this episode of The Work, James explores why so many men feel stuck, restless, or unfulfilled — even when life looks “fine” on the surface. The issue usually isn’t motivation or discipline. It’s a lack of meaning. You’ll learn why waiting for clarity keeps you stuck, how comfort and distraction quietly drain your e...

Send a text Growth has a cost. It’s uncomfortable. Inconvenient. And it asks you to face parts of yourself you’d rather avoid. But here’s what most men never stop to consider: not growing costs far more than growth ever will. In this episode of The Work, I explore the hidden cost of staying the same — and why so many men feel stuck, tired, disconnected, or quietly dissatisfied despite “doing every...

Send a text In this episode of The Work, James breaks down five things that quietly destroy a man’s mental wellbeing without him even realising it. It’s not always the big life events that pull you off track — it’s the small daily habits, the environments you tolerate, and the pressures you keep carrying. You’ll learn why: • the wrong people drain your energy • negative media overload hijacks your...

Send a text In this episode of The Work, James breaks down one of the biggest reasons men stay stuck: trying to fix problems they haven’t taken the time to understand. Most men jump straight into action — solutions, strategies, quick wins — without ever looking beneath the surface. And it’s why the same frustrations, habits, and emotional patterns keep repeating. James explores what’s really going...

Send a text So many men are struggling right now — not because they’re weak, but because they’re stuck in one of two unhelpful camps. Camp 1: Work hard, stay busy, push emotions down, and chase success… while health and relationships quietly fall apart. Camp 2: More open emotionally, but taking no meaningful action. Stuck, overwhelmed, and wanting progress without knowing where to start. In this e...

Send a text This week I sit down and talk with Luke French to talk about all things Mental Health and Mental Fitness.  If you would like to reserve your spot on the next Mental Fitness event then sign up here: https://www.thrive-personaltraining.co.uk/mental-fitness-february-2026 Get in touch: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/james_shireby/ Email: jamesshireby@hotmail.com Interview episodes yo...

Send a text In this episode, James breaks down eight of the most common mistakes men make — the ones that quietly drain their energy, limit connection, and stop them from living with purpose. You’ll learn how to: Embrace vulnerability instead of carrying everything alone Build meaningful connection with yourself and others Stop attaching your worth to achievements and success Let go of perfection...

Send a text In this episode, James breaks down eight of the most common mistakes men make — the ones that quietly drain their energy, limit connection, and stop them from living with purpose. You’ll learn how to: Embrace vulnerability instead of carrying everything alone Build meaningful connection with yourself and others Stop attaching your worth to achievements and success Let go of perfection...

Send a text This week James's share the 4 stages to manage your mindset when things don't go to plan. Expect to learn: How to manage disappointment Why mental flexibility is so important   What to do after the event  Get in touch: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/james_shireby/ Email: jamesshireby@hotmail.com Interview episodes you might enjoy: Anthony Barnes: https://www.youtube.com...

Send a text This week James sits down to talk with Christian Lawal to talk about how to heal from a relationship ending. They discuss: How to make room for and manage difficult emotions Importance of having good friends Understanding your past and how it influences your present  How to reflect and understand the good and negative parts of your previous relationships Fears and insecurities  Importa...

Send a text In this episode: James explores why so many men feel emotionally heavy — even when life looks “fine” on the surface. He unpacks how stress, emotional suppression, and unspoken tension can build up over time, and shares how to start releasing that weight in practical, healthy ways. You’ll learn: What “emotional load” really means and how it affects your body and mind. Why most men carry...

Send a text Most men want deeper connection — with their partner, kids, mates… even themselves. But you can’t build quality connection with others if you’re disconnected from yourself. Connection isn’t just about having people around. It’s about presence, honesty, empathy, and shared experience. It’s about slowing down enough to see yourself clearly — and showing up as that version of you with oth...

Send a text Get in touch: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/james_shireby/ Email: jamesshireby@hotmail.com Interview episodes you might enjoy: Anthony Barnes: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vwZ3TikRV9s Chloe Thomas: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JQEhKfcAZgk Johnny Lawrence: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l_ErlDxpeGk Read more from me: https://twpt.co.uk/blog/77/how-to-manage-your-negative-t...

Send a text Most men train their bodies. Few train their minds. Mental fitness is about more than “positive thinking.” It’s the strength to face stress without breaking, to manage emotions instead of being controlled by them, and to keep moving forward when life gets heavy. For men, it means: Showing up at work with clarity instead of burnout Being present with your family instead of distracted Bo...

Send a text Life will knock you down. The question is — will you stay down, or will you rise again? Bouncing back from adversity isn’t about pretending you’re fine or forcing yourself to “tough it out.” It’s about building resilience, leaning into connection, and finding the lessons in the struggle. In this episode of The Work, I share practical steps men can take to recover, rebuild, and come bac...

Send a text Ever found yourself stuck — repeating the same unhelpful behaviours, not sure how to move forward? As men, we’re quick to problem-solve. Quick to judge ourselves. Quick to push harder. But without real understanding, we drift. We lose focus. We lack meaning. This episode of The Work is your chance to pause and step back. To explore your: ✅ Struggles ✅ Strengths ✅ Stories ✅ Values...

Send a text Most men think confidence means never failing. Or never doubting yourself. That’s wrong. Real confidence is built in the messy, uncomfortable moments — when you fail, doubt yourself, and still keep moving forward. In this episode of The Work, I break down: Why confidence and resilience go hand-in-hand How perfection is silently killing your confidence What’s holding you back from build...

Send a text Most people think behaviour change is about willpower — it’s not. It’s about setting up your environment, regulating your emotions, and building systems that make it easier to follow through, even on the hard days. In Part 2 of this series, I’m sharing the practical tools you need to make real, sustainable change: How to design your environment for success Building “emotional fitness”...

Send a text Why does change feel so hard — even when you want it? It’s not because you’re lazy. It’s not a willpower issue. And it’s not about needing more motivation. Real behaviour change starts beneath the surface — with your identity, values, mindset, and the emotional blocks that keep you stuck. In this episode of The Work, I break down: 🔹 Why knowing what to do isn’t enough 🔹 How misalignm...

Send a text Your health is the foundation for everything you do in life — your energy, your mood, your focus, and your relationships. But with so much conflicting advice out there, it can feel overwhelming to know where to start. In this episode of The Work with James Shireby, I break down the three foundational pillars of health and wellbeing: 1️⃣ Sleep – why it’s your ultimate recovery tool 2️⃣...

Send a text Ever feel like you’re just going through the motions? You’re not alone. I speak with men who are feeling a little flat and lost and not sure why.  They’ve achieved the things that they thought would make them happy but still feel they are missing something. Something to care about. Something to wake up for. Something that gives their struggle meaning. In this episode, I talk about what...