The Way You Show Up

You think the fight was about the medicine. It wasn't. It was never about the medicine, the dishes, the text you forgot to send, or who said what first. Every argument you've ever had walked in carrying three invisible passengers.  Your past.  Your personality.  Your point of view. And your spouse brought their own three into the room, too. In this video, I break down what's actuall...

DM me the word PIES for a chance to have your question read! https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes You can't change your spouse. You can't change your circumstances. But you can change you. And it turns out that's the only thing that ever actually works. A few years ago, I was working 100-hour weeks. My marriage was falling apart. And one morning I ended up on my bathroom flo...

You know that meme. The dog sitting in a room that's completely on fire, saying "this is fine." What do you do when that's actually your life? In this video, I want to talk about the thing most of us do when something hard is sitting right in the middle of our path. We avoid it. We walk around it. We wait for it to move on its own. But here's what I've learned. The ob...

Everybody wants the hack. The pill. The shortcut. The version of success that happens while you sleep. I get it. I've wanted it too. But after years of researching motivation, self-esteem, and what it actually takes to reach a goal, here's the truth most people don't want to hear. There is no hack. The one thing every successful person has in common isn't talent or luck or some...

I felt cut open and exposed. Not metaphorically. Like I had poured out every single thing I had and was just lying there, waiting on God to move. The last two years have been some of the hardest of my life. My dad's cancer. Financial stress. A lot of change all at once. I got to the end of my rope and thought, God, I've given everything I know how to give. Now what? Then I opened up Gene...

Someone lied about me. Not a small lie. The kind that twists your words, takes them out of context, and drags your name through the mud in front of an audience. And I'll be honest with you. It made me angry. I wanted to write the email. I wanted the last word. I wanted everyone to hear my side of the story. If you've ever been gossiped about, lied about, or watched someone tell a version...

Most marriage advice is recycled fluff. This is not that. I sat down with Dr. John Gottman, the man who has spent 40+ years studying what actually makes marriages work and what destroys them. Not opinions. Not theories. Exposed-to-thousands-of-couples-in-a-research-lab findings. And what he told me? Some of it will surprise you. The couples who last, the "masters," aren't the ones w...

Take the free Show Up Assessment: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com/pies-assessment ----------------------------------------------- He who works the most wins. At least, that's what I believed. I grew a company from negative $500K to $4.5 million in revenue. On paper? Success. In reality? I was completely falling apart. I lost my passion. I lost my mind. Literally forgot how to open my own trunk...

I have a PhD in performance psychology. I know, with absolute certainty, that the morning sets the tone for the entire day. And I have been fundamentally screwing mine up. Checking Slack before my feet hit the floor. Scrolling Instagram before I'd said a word to God. Trying to ramp from stillness straight into a 4-mile run with zero transition. By 9am I'd feel that weight settle on my ch...

Take the free assessment → https://kimberlybeamholmes.com/pies-assessment --------------------------------------------------- You've said it once. You've said it twice. You've said it fifteen times over four months. And somehow, nothing changes. You're not crazy. You're just not being heard. I lived this recently. I told a coworker in January that we needed to cut a softwa...

Katie Simkins didn't grow up knowing Jesus. She didn't grow up in church. She didn't grow up with hope. At 16, doctors found 11 precancerous growths in her body. A group of strangers prayed over her. The scans came back completely clear, not even scarring. Weeks later, her brother unexpectedly passed away. And what followed was a year she calls "the year of darkness." Walk...

How can you own the room and speak with confidence? Nobody cares if your palms are sweaty. Nobody cares if your voice shakes. Nobody cares if you're secretly terrified. They care if you command the space you're in. In this episode, I sit down with Eva Daniel, former speech writer at Ramsey Solutions, 11 years at Focus on the Family, now a speech coach to leaders, to break down what it ac...

Talking to people who disagree with me politically has gotten hard. Like, really hard. Sometimes I feel like the world is going crazy and I don't know how to have a normal conversation anymore. So I brought in one of the smartest people I know, Dr. Rubel Shelly, to help me figure it out. He has his Master's and PhD from Vanderbilt. He's been a preacher for decades. And his view on h...

AI isn't intelligent. It's a calculator that learned how to talk. And we're treating it like a therapist, a best friend, a dating coach, even a parent. In this episode, I sit down with Jared Pratt, our resident AI expert at Marriage Helper, and he breaks down what AI actually is and what it absolutely is not. No real understanding. No real empathy. No real wisdom. Just math predicti...

You keep going back to what's comfortable. And it keeps producing nothing. That's exactly what Peter did. In this video, I'm studying John 21 with you and breaking down why Peter, after witnessing the resurrection, went right back to fishing. Back to the old habits. Back to what felt safe. Back to what produced nothing without Jesus. Sound familiar? I've been there. Running on...

Did Jesus Really Raise From The Dead? If Jesus didn't raise from the dead, then nothing else in the Bible really matters. That's not just my opinion. That's what the Bible says about itself. So can we actually trust that the resurrection happened? That's the question I've been wanting to explore for years. In this episode, I sit down with one of my pastors, Cory Shumate, t...

Ever feel like you've become the unofficial therapist in your friend group? You're not alone, and I've been there too. Most of us make one critical mistake when someone comes to us with a problem: we try to fix it. In this episode, I sit down with licensed professional counselor Meredith Ball (LPC) to talk about how to actually support the people in your life without overstepping, s...

This conversation is one I've been so excited to share with y'all. I sat down with my friend Emily Allen, and she boldly shared her story of struggling with an eating disorder that started all the way back in middle school. What began as trying to manage health issues turned into years of mental bondage around food, body image, and an identity that was built on appearance. Emily is hones...

You know that thing you keep saying you're going to do? The conversation you keep avoiding. The vision you have for your life that you keep putting on hold because everyone else needs something from you first. You might think it's balance... but it's not. It's fear. In this episode, I sit down with Micheal Felker and we get into what actually keeps people stuck, and it's n...

Today we are tackling something that we all have to deal with, but very few of us actually know how to do well: feedback. In this episode, I am honored to be joined by leadership coach, speaker, and author Dr. J.R. Briggs. We are diving deep into the art of giving and receiving feedback, figuring out which of the two is actually more important (spoiler alert: it’s receiving!), and uncovering why f...

I'm back, y'all and SO much has happened since the last time we talked. In this episode, I'm sharing the updated science of attraction and influence and breaking down the PIES method: the four pillars that change the way you show up in every area of your life. PIES stands for Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual, and each pillar has four specific inputs that you can cont...

A year ago, I stopped.  I stopped doing one of the things I loved the most.  I stopped because I was overwhelmed.  I stopped because I was chronically burnt out.  I stopped because I started doubting my purpose.  It felt like a wise and mature decision at the time.  Maybe it was  But what I slowly began to realize was that I stopped doing the thing that, when it came to my work, was one of the mos...

Meredith Ball, a licensed professional counselor dedicated to healing trauma, joins us to unravel the intricate web of trauma's impact on our lives. In this episode, Meredith opens up about her own journey and sheds light on how trauma affects the brain, the underestimated power of neuroplasticity, and the generational gaps in acknowledging these wounds. I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. Aft...

Want to unlock your potential? Discover how to study smarter and retain more information with expert insights from Dr. Dan Willingham! Tune in now and transform your learning experience! I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and...

Is there actually a difference in the way men and women process emotions? Find out on today’s episode! I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended. The Way You Show Up is for the h...