THE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness

Hey, Survivor! In today's show, I list 5 things that narcissistic enablers say or do, when you challenge the narcissist’s behavior.  Enablers appear in all types of relationships; and they can be just as difficult to deal with as the narcissist in your life.   At the end of the day, narcissistic enablers try to avoid the social discomfort that exists in narcissistic relationship territory, in orde...

Hey, Survivor! In today's show, I highlight 3 ways that narcissistic females and fake friends try to appear supportive, while they’re seething with jealousy and rage.  These ladies could be part of a friend [or other social] group, business associates, or your relatives.  Regardless of the nature of the relationship, they’re fakin’ while they’re hatin’; and I’m going to tell you how.   It's litera...

Hey, Survivor! In today's show, I breakdown 3 triangulation tactics of a narcissistic parent.  This manipulative tactic is very damaging.  And it, among other toxic behaviors, undermines what could otherwise be healthy relationships.   You may have missed this tactic when you were growing up.  However, it's one of the narcissist's go-to's.  And children suffer most, when the narcissist behaves thi...

Hey, Survivor! In today's show, I share 6 tips to more effectively engage with the narcissist's other supply.  While engaging with other sources of supply is often discouraged, you may choose to do it anyway.  And, if you're going to do it, you should have some tools, so you can be successful.   There are many different types of narcissistic relationships; and no two are the same.  If you can safe...

Hey, Survivor! In today's show, I highlight 7 narratives that you've been told, sold, and forced to uphold for most of your life, that compromised your boundaries, and led you to tolerate narcissistic and toxic relationships.  If you come from a narcissistic family, you know the struggle.   It's time to ditch these outdated narratives, set strong boundaries, and change the course of your family hi...

Hey, Survivor! Today's show is about exposing a narcissist.  I know how tempting it can be to call out their bad behavior publicly.  But it can be very tricky, backfire on you, and disrupt your healing process.  And you've already suffered enough.  I share 7 things that can happen, plus a bonus, so you can count the costs.   If you, or someone you know, is seeking "exposure closure," after narciss...

Hey, Survivor! Today's show is loaded with TMI, as I give you some scoop on poop.  I know how stressful it can be to deal with a narcissist, especially a narcissistic parent.  I'm being gut-level honest about some unpleasant ways that narcissistic abuse can affect your health and wellbeing.  I had to go there! If you, or someone you know, is feeling anxious and is doubled-over with a "funny tummy,...

Hey, Survivor! In today's show, I'm talking about 4 things you need to know about trauma.  I know how traumatic narcissistic abuse can be, regardless of the nature of the relationship.  And from a historical and societal standpoint, it's bigger and deeper than many people realize.  Whatever has happened or is still happening to you, it's important to not let the trauma define you; and to approach...

Hey, Survivor! In today's show, I share 6 preventative health screenings that you can do to level-up your health and wellbeing, as a narcissistic abuse survivor.  I know how detrimental to your health narcissistic abuse can be.  I grew up in a narcissistic family; was raised by a narcissistic parent; and experienced narcissistically abusive relationships as an adult.  Narcissists often don't take...

Hey, Survivor! In today's show, I share 4 things you can do right now to side-step the narcissist's smear campaign.  I know how messy a narcissistic smear campaign can be.  I've experienced this directly and indirectly from a narcissistic parent and from a covert malignant female narcissist.  The smear campaign is a control tactic and it will reveal who your real friends and supporters are.  So, t...

Hey, Survivor! In today's show, I give 3 reasons to stop suffering in silence, after narcissistic abuse.  I know how shameful and painful it can be to fall for the lies and manipulations of the narcissist.  I fell for future-faking, got conned, and have been scammed by narcissistic and toxic people, over a long period of time.  As a result, I struggled with toxic shame.  However, I decided to use...

Hey, Survivor! In today's show, I share 12 healthy lifestyle changes and healing remedies to help you deal with insomnia, after narcissistic abuse.  I know how disruptive the trauma and drama that the narcissist creates can be to your ability to get a good night's sleep.  And it goes beyond just setting a bedtime.  You need to set yourself up to go to sleep.  A good night's sleep will help you to...

Hey, Survivor! In today's show, I talk about 6 things to look for, when vetting people in your life.  I know how hard it feels to muster the courage and take time out of your busy schedule to do fact checking and background checking, especially when you've already engaged with someone new.  Really?  No one has time for that!  But the reality is that we're living in desperate times, and the interne...

Hey, Survivor! In today's show, I'm sharing 3 ways to make your spa time safer.  As a former massage therapist, self-proclaimed spa maven, and narcissistic abuse survivor, I know how hard it can be to open up about your triggers and express your needs going into a session.  Dealing with narcissists is stressful; and you just want to relax and enjoy some YOU time.  Trauma runs deep; and depending o...

Hey, Survivor! In today's show, I share 12 things the narcissist in your life will never tell you.  I know how confusing it can be, when you come out of the fog and the narcissist's lies become apparent.  You've wasted your precious time energy, money, and attention propping up someone who has lied by commission and omission, while you did the heavy lifting in the relationship.  Trauma fuels a lot...

Hey, Survivor! Happy Early Mother's Day!  In today's show, I share 3 things you can do to help save the day, despite the narcissist's behavior.  I know how sad, frustrating, and exhausting it can be, when the narcissist tries to ruin your special day.  And with Mother's Day coming up, I thought we should talk about it.  You may not have been taught how or why to set boundaries.  As a result, you m...

Hey, Survivor! In today's show, I share 4 things you can do to build your confidence, when it comes to advocating for yourself after narcissistic abuse.  Childhood trauma, toxic relationships and environments can make it very hard to speak up for yourself - even as an adult.  And the fear of retaliation or backlash is REAL!  It's not about creating drama, or getting anyone into trouble.  It's abou...

Hey, Survivor! In today's show, I share 4 ways to disconnect from the narcissist in your life.  Regardless of the nature of the relationship, narcissistic and toxic individuals will use and abuse you, in order to get their needs met, for as long as you allow them to.  You may not be able to easily get away physically or relationally from a narcissist, especially a co-worker or a family member.  Ho...

Hey, Survivor! In today's show, I share my definition of a narcissist.  The DSM-5 offers a list of diagnostic criteria for narcissistic personality disorder, including: lack of identity or sense of self, grandiosity, a sense of entitlement, lack of empathy or compassion, lack of intimacy, antagonistic, attention-seeking, inability to self-regulate.  There's some overlap with other personality diso...

Hey, Survivor! In today's show, I share 5 narcissistic workplace red flags, based on feedback that a retail executive received during a recent review.  Where there is hard work required and a high standard of excellence, narcissists will always take the shortcut.  Specifically, they will try to get you to lower your standards, so that they can feel more comfortable and competent.    If you, or som...

Hey, Survivor! In today's show, I share 8 ways the narcissist punishes you.  When the narcissist feels hurt, they will react by punishing whoever they feel is responsible.  They do this in an attempt to protect their fragile ego and regain control of a situation, so they can feel better.  This can happen with a narcissistic co-worker or boss, friend, neighbor, a narcissistic parent, in a toxic mar...

Hey, Survivor! In today's show, I share 10 signs of a narcissist at work.  Dealing with narcissistic co-workers or bosses can be tricky to identify, navigate, and heal from.  Office politics, bullies, pressure to produce and perform, and your ongoing exposure to the stress of the professional playground games they play, can threaten your health and well-being. If you, or someone you know, needs va...

Hey, Survivor! In today's show, I talk about how your narcissistic boss is wreaking havoc on the job.  You can find the article that I referenced here .  Dealing with narcissistic leaders in your workplace can be stressful, draining, hinder your productivity, and threaten your ability to support yourself and your family.  Limited options and layoffs can further complicate your situation, during an...

Hey, Survivor! In today's show, I talk about ways to heal emotionally from narcissistic abuse.  Dealing with the emotional fallout from the abuse can be challenging, especially if you were taught and trained to suppress your emotions in your family of origin or other relationships. If you, or someone you know, needs emotional healing from narcissistic abuse, this episode is for you.  It validates...

Hey, Survivor! In today's show, I use an email communication breakdown to show you how you can identify and respond to red flags with healthy boundaries, after narcissistic abuse.  ACEs (Adverse Childhood Experiences) and other traumas in your life can contribute to ignoring red flags, not trusting your gut, and engaging with people who don't have your best interests at heart.   If you, or someone...