THE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness

Hey, Survivor! In today's show, I call out 6 benefits of changing your phone number after narcissistic abuse.  Narcissists use you to get attention, approval, and/or admiration, in an effort to regulate their emotions.  When you figure out who and what you're dealing with, and disconnect from the relationship or situation, they will blow up your phone to try to regain control and get their needs m...

Hey, Survivor! In today's show, I share 10 things that happen when you disconnect from a narcissist.  Narcissists take you through an abusive cycle of love-bombing, devaluation, discarding, and hoovering.  When you figure out who and what you're dealing with, and remove yourself from the situation, it triggers a traumatic response in the narcissist.  Simultaneously, it sets you up to start healing...

Hey, Survivor! In today's show, I share a few ways that narcissists can use funerals to their advantage.  Whether it's an individual or a family, narcissists' difficult personalities can turn a time of mourning into a manipulative mess.  And if you've kept your distance from this type of behavior in your family, then you may get sucked back in and shamed for your stance. If you, or someone you kno...

Hey, Survivor! In today's show, I share signs that it's time for you to disconnect from the narcissist and their dysfunctional behavior.  While their behavior may be the result of trauma that they've endured, your repeated engagement with them, personally or professionally, is traumatizing for YOU!  And your health and wellbeing may be compromised in the process.  The body keeps the score. If you,...

Hey, Survivor! In today's show, I share ways that narcissists can present around birthdays.  This can vary, based on their place in society and their past experiences.  However, the behavior is rooted in insecurity.  If you, or someone you know, have experienced bad birthday behavior from a narcissist, this episode is a must.  It highlights a variety of scenarios, and contributing factors. Know wh...

Hey, Survivor! In today's show, I share how to spot a grandiose female narcissist and other fake friends.  This illustrates the importance of context, along with patterns of behavior over time.  If you grew up in a narcissistic family, where boundaries weren't taught or respected, and you weren't shown how to pick a friend, then you may have [unknowingly] allowed this toxic behavior in your life. ...

Hey, Survivor! In today's show, I break down some communication that I received after going no contact with a grandiose female narcissist, who I was acquainted with for several years.  In addition, I highlight 12 key elements of this communication that helped to validate my experience.  This illustrates the insidious aspect of narcissistic abuse that often goes unchecked; that many people dismiss,...

Hey, Survivor! In today's show, I share 9 characteristics of narcissistic families.  This is the not-so-presentable side of family that often gets denied, or goes undealt with.  But it's key to your healing; and provides clues about your willingness to put up with narcissistic abuse, or your inability to navigate these toxic relationships outside of your family. If you, or someone you know, are a...

Hey, Survivor! In today's show, I share my story of how I identified narcissistic abuse in my family of origin.  Although it was overwhelming and painful, this bombshell reveal was an answer to prayer and helped to set me free.  It helped me to understand why I allowed narcissistic and toxic people into my life; and why I tolerated their abusive behavior.  This, in turn, helped me to set boundarie...

Hey, Survivor! In today's show, I share an example, from my personal experience, of what could happen, when narcissistic abuse turns violent.  I'll admit, it's extreme.  However, I think it's important to share, so that you can get to know me better; and so that you can learn from my mistakes, regardless of your situation. If you, or someone you know, are evaluating new relationships, personally o...

Hey, Survivor! In today's show, I talk about what to do when narcissists triangulate.  I describe what this dynamic looks like, how it feels, and how to handle it. Anyone who triangulates should not be in your circle.  So, don't edify the narcissist by participating in this ego-boosting game. Whether you're being tried with triangulation, or you know someone else who is, this episode is a must.  I...

Hey, Survivor! In today's show, I share healthy distractions after narcissistic abuse.  I emphasize the importance of not being mindlessly distracted; but being intentional about it. Healthy distractions should include pillars of wellness, such as: lifestyle, exercise, attitude, and nutrition.  And the best practices are the ones that you will do consistently. Whether you're looking for healthy di...

Hey, Survivor! In today's show, I share reasons to decline the narcissist's hoover.  I talk about the whys, the ways, and issue warnings about this manipulative tactic. How you choose to navigate a hoover may depend on the nature of your relationship with the narcissist in your life.  You have to find a solution that works best for you and your circumstances. Whether you're being hoovered, or you...