The UnMothered Podcast

Ariel joined us on the podcast again this week to talk more about being a working mom and how she picked her partner for the support he provides for her emotionally. She has learned that for her, working fulfills her, and gives her purpose, she likes contributing outside of the home and her husband supports her on that 100%. They can communicate with one another the feeling of having a long day at...

We are talking with my oldest daughter Ariel who is a wife, mom of 2 (almost three), and a working mom.  We chat about the balance and the imbalance of being a working mom.  With her current season, she is learning to surrender her own expectations with the constant changes that come with day-to-day life. Plans change, especially with younger children. The biggest lesson she has learned...

When I got the phone call that my mom had broken her hip, believe me, I wanted to hang up and pretend I never heard it.  My relationship with my mom was not the typical kind and taking care of her (again) was the last thing I wanted to do. When your toxic parent ages and you have to care for them what are you going to do? When is it a good time to mend the relationship with your mom? When she...

How do we teach our children how to handle their feelings? In this episode, I want to chat about our children and how to hone their own feelings when stress or anxiety sets in for them. The questions I want you to walk away with today are: When is a good time to discuss feelings with your kids? What is age appropriate in talking about hard things? What kind of things can we do to help them through...

When you first get introduced to your boyfriend or girlfriend’s family, when is it a good time to talk about your hard past? If you have experienced a different upbringing than the family of your significant other, it can be hard to explain your past. The biggest question is can they embrace you into the family when you have come from a completely different background? There are some questions to...

When a family keeps secrets thinking the truth will never come out, they are sadly mistaken. Secrets can create collateral damage by not only ruining relationships but causing shame in your generations.  Are you willing to learn how to have truthful but sometimes tough conversations that will always lead to beautiful relationships? I recently had breakfast with a friend where we were sharing...

How do you create the marriage you have always dreamed of? What is the secret to a happy marriage? In my opinion, it is staying the course! We will dive into the good, bad, and ugly of what marriage really is and why it’s not for the faint of heart. There is an innocence of what we think marriage is when we are young and as you get older, life can take over. When we say those vows, for better, for...

Do not let anyone undermine what makes you feel safe and comfortable. You have “bucked up” long enough. Making time for friends that understand and energize you instead of connections that deplete us is fine. Want to stop apologizing for feeling different from your friends or most of the world?  Do you get anxious and excited to be invited to social events?  Is your comfort zone your hom...

When you have grown up with a different childhood, you might have a hard time accepting the past. In this episode, we are going to talk about the shame that comes from having that hard story. Do you often have a hard time speaking about your childhood because it doesn’t sound like everyone else? Are you afraid you will scare people away with your “movie of the week” life? I hear ya, and let's brea...

When you feel like being around your mom is no longer an option. What do you do? There is no need for guilt if there is danger around you concerning your mother. You can still love your mother if she is not in your life. I had a member in my Facebook group ask this question a while back, and it bears talking about it. For as much as we would love to wrap a nice little bow around healing and forgiv...

Have you ever had a sibling or close relative get jealous because you suddenly have a life change for the better? It’s almost inevitable that when you finally break free from your past “scarcity” mindset, you will get pushback from those who have remained the same.  Remember who you are and where God has placed you. You are not tied to every person in your family forever and ever. Amen. You a...

Today we are chatting with Tina Yeager. She is an award-winning author, speaker, and life coach, Tina Yeager hosts the Flourish-Meant podcast and Flourish Today on Christian Mix 106 and publishes Inkspirations Online , a weekly writers’ devotional. She has been licensed as a counselor since 2005, which came in handy when we started talking about the healthy boundaries between mothers and daughters...

How do we find the heart to heal those who have hurt us? We will explore what it means to forgive people who hurt you deeply. Do you need to forgive them? Should you? What does that look like? Let’s talk about this. I was asked in my private Facebook group of my Unmothered women, what to do when they are having a hard time wanting to heal a relationship with their mom and sometimes with their sibl...

Is there ever a good time to share your mommy issues story? In this episode, we are going to go over eliminating the shame of growing up in a toxic relationship with your mother and sharing it with others. When do you tell someone new about your past? Should you? When is it time to just not say anything? Can you feel safe and protected when sharing about your messed up mom? For so many years I wou...

Listen in on this amazing podcast episode I recorded with The Fearless Mujer Podcast. We chatted about generational dysfunction that I've grown up in and more about my story that share in my book Unmothered: Life With A Mom Who Couldn't Love Me. If you enjoy this episode share it with friends and don't forget to leave a review to help spread this message with other women who may need to hear it. A...

I just came back from a trauma class in Chicago. There we had to start digging into parts of our story that have been buried to survive. We spend half our lives just surviving the trauma that has been done to us. This class left me stunned with the realization that I had never dug into my story of being taken from the only home I had known in my eight years of life. What do we do to keep going thr...

I was honored to be a guest on the Arise Esther Podcast by Dawn Scott Damon. We had such a great conversation! Here is a little bit about Dawn: Dawn Scott Damon is known as the BraveHearted Mentor; Coaching for women over 40. She is a speaker, podcast host, mentor, and award-winning author. Dawn is a favorite keynote conference speaker and an engaging communicator who inspires her audience to maxi...

How do we know if we need a mentor and how we can find one that we trust? This is a tricky proposition and one you can’t take lightly. It must be thought out and seek someone you can trust with your heart. Let’s walk through the ways you can find the right woman to help you with issues we should be able to go to our moms with, but someone that can step in and fill those shoes for a bit. How many t...

With the New Year before us and everyone talking about goals, intentions, and dreams, do you wonder if there is anything good this year for you? Are you allowed to dream big? Is it wrong to think about being better than where you have come from? In this episode let me break it down for you to realize why we(as UnMothereds) are afraid of success, why we sabotage ourselves out of it, and what we can...

Yes, I am a baby boomer. I’m a 65-year-old woman and proud of it! My question for all the women out there today is why do we stop dreaming of things we really want to accomplish and how we can get back on track? Today I want to dive into the false narrative that once we reach a certain age, we are not relevant anymore. No one ever shares with us that our second chapter is just beginning! Our freed...

When the holidays are filled with family gatherings and such, these times can be extremely chaotic, especially for mothers or wives. For some reason, the responsibility has fallen on us over the years and I wanted to talk to you all today to remind you that, that doesn't need to be the case. Here are some things to keep in mind this Christmas season: There is no rule saying you have to do it all D...

Today we are talking about how we can set healthy boundaries without guilt from outside perspectives. A lot of people don’t understand that when you have to consistently ‘mother your mother’ you need to set those healthy boundaries. I want to discuss what this looks like and why it’s necessary to keep good protections around you. Lately so much has been said about “boundaries”. I see it all over s...

If I’m being honest, the holidays are not my favorite time of year. I only had memories of my parents physically and verbally fighting when I was little. Then my mom continued to do harm to anyone she was with, and would turn her wrath on us kids. It took many years and some really great kids of mine to help me relax and enjoy the beauty of the holidays. I still have some hard spots in it, but now...

In this episode, I wanted us to start understanding what breaking generational dysfunction looks like and what it doesn’t. (Hint: it’s not a curse or a sin!) . I’m here today to give you some examples of where it started and how we can be the “chain breakers” to end the toxic examples of our parental past. I mentioned that I pulled our posing question from Sharon Peykar on Instagram. I highly reco...

In last week's episode, we talked about the different traumas and triggers you may face when dealing with a toxic past. I want to give you 6 of my favorite tips on how to calm your body when stressed or when something starts to trigger you. I always say that your body holds onto your trauma, so you need to care for it when it starts to feel distressed! Breathe Take a Walk or Exercise Set The Mood...