The UnlearnT Podcast

Send us Fan Mail What happens when the discomfort you feel isn't a signal of danger, but rather an opportunity for growth? We dive into the often-overlooked challenges of making friends as adults, where the eagerness for companionship can lead to misplaced trust. Drawing from the wisdom of my father, we categorize friendships into four distinct groups: casual friends, cohorts, close friends,...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever felt on edge during life's transitions, questioning whether it's genuine danger or just discomfort? We dive deep into managing these feelings and offer our own experiences to help you feel more secure amidst change. From relationship shifts to job changes, we discuss how to manage rather than eliminate discomfort and the importance of facing our fears head-...

Send us Fan Mail Ever found yourself tangled in beliefs that no longer serve you? This Freedom Friday, my best friend, Jaquetta Ross, joins me for a transformative discussion on the liberating journey of unlearning—an odyssey that is reshaping our personal narratives. We'll dive into the insights Jaquetta has gained from her recent speaking engagements, particularly during Black History and W...

Send us Fan Mail What if maturity didn't have to mean losing your joy? On this Freedom Friday episode of the Unlearned Podcast, I revisit that very question, inspired by a poignant scene from "Inside Out 2." Imagine Joy, the ever-optimistic character, grappling with the reality that growing up could mean having less joy. This revelation hit me hard and prompted me to challenge the c...

Send us Fan Mail Ever wondered what happens when preconceived notions of faith community clash with reality? Ruth recounts her eye-opening experience at divinity school, confronting her own self-righteousness and learning to see others through a more compassionate, God-like lens. Through their stories, Ruth and Jaquetta highlight the importance of personal growth, differentiation, and the ongoing...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever felt shackled by your own internal rulebook?  We'll unveil the steps to identify and transform the "always" and "never" declarations that dictate our actions, urging you to evolve these rules to align with your present self and leave behind those that belong to yesterday. Prepare to confront the possibly uncomfortable but ultimately liberatin...

Send us Fan Mail RA and Jaquetta then share their diverse faith journeys, revealing how their distinct backgrounds shaped their spiritual paths. From RA's upbringing as a pastor's kid to Jaquetta's transient life as part of a military family, we uncover how different experiences can lead to a shared commitment to faith. We delve into the importance of discipline and consistency in m...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever wondered how your childhood experiences shape your leadership abilities? Explore the surprising ways Erik Erikson's theory of psychosocial development impacts your growth as a leader as we dive into how each life stage, from infancy to adulthood, influences your ability to lead effectively. We share compelling personal stories and PhD research findings, shedding...

Send us Fan Mail Can effective leadership transform your team from good to great? Tune in to the Unlearned Podcast as we explore the heart of leadership with Ruth Abigail (RA) and Jaquetta. In this special two-part series, we reveal the origin story of our podcast, rooted in our mutual support and shared leadership experiences. This episode is rich with insights on preparing young leaders for the...

Send us Fan Mail Ever found yourself paralyzed by the fear of public speaking or hesitated in crucial conversations? Imagine transforming that anxiety into confident and clear communication. Drawing from ten years of leadership, we unravel how a lack of confidence or clarity can hold young leaders back, leading to missed opportunities and unresolved conflicts. By the end, you'll not only unde...

Send us Fan Mail Hey everyone, it's RA here! Are you ready to transform your financial beliefs and liberate your life choices? On this Freedom Friday, I'm flying solo to guide you toward the financial freedom that comes with understanding your money. Forget the myth that you need to be a math genius to manage your finances. I'll share my personal journey to becoming debt-free and re...

Send us Fan Mail We're peeling back the veil on the transformative process of holding a mirror to ourselves, whether we're single, mingling, or deeply entwined in partnership. Through candid tales and introspective musings, we explore the often-unspoken challenges of accountability in relationships, the myth of the 'simple' single life, and the profound impact of aligning with...

Send us Fan Mail It's another Freedom Friday episode!  Have you ever been so overwhelmed in the moment, you were ready to throw in the towel and let it all go? You don't have to do that, because stress doesn't last forever. Don't ever let the stress of the moment keep you from the joy of assignment. Unlearn that! Get free! 

Send us Fan Mail . This episode isn't just about counting pennies—it's about reshaping our attitudes towards wealth. We'll guide you through the tightrope walk of financial independence, stress the importance of wise giving, and disclose why mastering everyday budgeting is the real secret to financial freedom. Whether you're single, navigating a relationship, or part of a milit...

Send us Fan Mail Are you ready to dismantle the myth that your purpose should always ignite with the flames of passion? Join RA  on this Freedom Friday episode of the Unlearned Podcast we challenge the millennial mantra that intertwines passion tightly with purpose, and share insights that could redefine your career and personal calling.

Send us Fan Mail You've seen leaders who shine in the limelight, but what about the power of those who uplift from the shadows? Our discussion takes a twist as we dissect the evolution of leadership. It's a candid look at the maturity it takes to value support roles and collective triumphs. We chat about the tough transitions—from mentoring students to shepherding young leaders—and the t...

Send us Fan Mail In a recent episode of "The Unlearned Podcast," host Ruth Abigail engages in a rich conversation about the significant shift from mastering a skill to teaching it. This episode uncovers the intricacies of unlearning the mindset of an expert to adopt the patience and humility required of an educator. Through personal anecdotes and shared stories, Ruth explores how this tr...

Send us Fan Mail This Freedom Friday, let's traverse the subtle landscape of personal growth, dissecting why society's glamorization of extremes can obscure the true milestones of our private victories. In an age where sensationalism reigns supreme, this conversation serves as a reminder to cherish the quiet, yet profound, revelations that lead to genuine transformation. As I share my pe...

Send us Fan Mail Let's talk about that Florida trip that seemed like self-care but turned into a financial scare. The reality of adulting hit us like a ton of bricks, and we learned the hard way that self-indulgence doesn't equate to self-care. This episode isn't just about avoiding the pitfalls of retail therapy; it's about discovering the joy of creative, cost-effective self-...

Send us Fan Mail This conversation between two middle adults, RA and Jaquetta, cross the realms of mentorship, personal growth, and the bravery needed to leap from the comfort zone into the realm of greatness. We traverse the tales of our own lives, including insights from my son Tyson's unfettered courage, to illustrate the importance of casting off the chains of fear and embracing a culture...

Send us Fan Mail This conversation is an open invitation for you to join me on a journey where we recognize our inherent worth, independent of the accolades and the often exhausting pursuit of productivity. No more chasing shadows of successes that belong to someone else's story. It's time to embrace the unique individuals we are, with all our quirks and dreams that don't necessaril...

Send us Fan Mail Why do we often toil without reaping the rewards we expect? This pressing question sets the stage for our latest Freedom Friday discourse here on the Unlearned Podcast. Today we're embarking on a journey through the heart of what it truly takes to achieve the success we're all chasing. As I engage with incredible individuals who spark inspiration and challenge growth, we...

Send us Fan Mail Imagine if America's entire population sat on a therapist's couch, facing the mirror of our collective mental health—what would we discover? Phyllis Levitt, a psychotherapist with profound insight into the nation's psyche, joins me to unravel this question. Together, we venture into uncharted territories, discussing how the dysfunctions within our personal family li...

Send us Fan Mail Unlock the secret to compelling meetings with Ashton Rodenheiser's insights on visual storytelling. Transform your tedious talks into dynamic visual narratives that captivate and retain attention, whether they're happening across the boardroom or bridging continents online. Ashton's artistic prowess and quick-thinking synthesis of conversations into meaningful visua...

Send us Fan Mail This episode takes a deep dive into the art of self-compassion, comparing our adult struggles with the untainted innocence of our inner child. We unpack the transformative nature of kindness, how it battles insecurities, and the ways it can shift the immediate conclusions we all too often jump to. From the biblical understanding of ourselves as 'children of God' to the p...