The UNcivilized Podcast with Traver Boehm

Pain doesn't leave the body until it's been felt. In this episode, I talk about how darkness forced me to feel the stuff I spent years running from--grief, heartbreak, shame. All of it. No therapist. No journal. Just pitch black silence and a willingness to not run. I open up about what happened when I finally let the pain have a voice, and what healing looked like when there was no one around to...

Ever sat still long enough to hear yourself think? What about long enough to hear yourself scream? This episode is about the three characters that show up when the world goes quiet--fear, boredom, and madness. I met all three of them in the dark. Some of them became friends. Some... not so much. I get into the games your mind plays when there's no one to distract you, and how facing these voices h...

We live in a world built on distraction--dopamine loops, constant noise, nonstop input. But what happens when you take it all away? In this one, I share what it felt like to remove every single thing I usually lean on--no Instagram, no podcasts, no books, no light. Just stillness and space. Spoiler alert: it sucked. Then it got profound. This episode isn't just about silence--it's about withdrawal...

If you've ever wanted to run away from your life for a bit--or just hide in a closet with no phone--you're going to get this one. In this episode, I dive into why I chose to sit in total darkness for 28 days... and why I'm going back in for **49**. No phone. No light. No distractions. Just me, my mind, and whatever monsters show up when there's nothing else to hold onto.  It wasn't just an escape-...

In this episode I’ll talk about why so many of us find ourselves in a constant cycle of self betrayal all in the name of fitting in and being loved. OY! We all do it to some degree, but once you see how you betray yourself in the name of keeping and creating connection and belonging, your life will change forever. I’ll share with you a single sentence that you can apply to any form of self betraya...

If you’re a man who has sex, or know one who does, this episode is for you. Taylor Johnson used to be addicted to porn. Heavily. And like so many men, it destroyed his sex life. It led to erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, depression and anxiety. Sounds great doesn’t it? After putting himself through a series of abstinence experiments his whole life began to change — both in the bedroom...

In this episode I’ll talk about five of the most important factors for you to consider if you’re in a breakup or divorce. My writing career kicked off with a book about how to use the pain of your breakup or divorce to transform your life, so this is my bread and butter! Since that book I’ve worked with thousands of people who are now on the other side of heartbreak and most are living lives they...

In this episode I speak with renowned author Dr. Douglas Thomas on what makes people tick in the bedroom and beyond it. After reading Dr. Thomas’s book, The Deep Psychology of BDSM & Kink while in Costa Rica, I reached out to Dr. Thomas to see if he’d come on the podcast with me. He agreed and magic was made. We talk archetypes, the power of our sexuality, and at the end dive into the changes...

In this episode I’ll talk about how and why you need to get past the idea that people who don’t live like you do or even want to, are supposed to understand you. If there’s one thing that needs to be navigated in order to live a life outside of the box — it’s being misunderstood. This comes from family, friends, and of course, perfect strangers who have internet access to you. Learning to work thr...

If you’re curious how to build more trust, devotion, and polarity in your relationship, this episode is for you. Ever wonder what really happens in a relationship dynamic where both parties have agreed to a complete Dom/sub relationship? Ever wonder how that dynamic could help you be a better partner in your own relationship, no matter how it’s put together? In this candid conversation with Andrew...

Every time I have a client say their stuck because they’re afraid of either failure or success I roll my eyes and say — OH LORD. No you’re not. You’re afraid of the unknown. The deep unknown. The things you can’t even conceptualize right now. And — you need to start anyway. Anyone and everyone you know who’s done something outside of their comfort zone has had the exact same stuck feeling.  Stick...

Now more than ever, people are craving a deeper experience of their lives. I bet you can relate. In this episode I speak with Boulder Outdoor Survival School graduate, Men’s Work Facilitator, and BJJ enthusiast Evan Meyer on his own path towards living a soul based life, the pain and turmoil he’s had to go through to get where he’s at, and of course, his favorite Jiujitsu submission. If you’re cur...

Myth. Sex. Pleasure. Oh my. In this conversation with author and Depth Psychologist Dr. Alanna Kaivalya we jam on several aspects of relationship and female pleasure. And this podcast isn’t just for our female listeners, guys you will glean much from this episode as well. Dr. Kaivalya has a unique lens on the relationship world as both a psychologist and someone who has a deep understanding of myt...

Today I bring you another Irishman and a fascinating one at that. Pat is a good friend of the Uncivilized world and has been leading a life worthy of the title of Uncivilized since before we were born. In this episode we follow Pat’s career going from fitness success and lack of satisfaction into the world of Breathwork and how that has radically changed his life. Pat’s openness about the truth of...

Considering the fact that it’s reason the species perpetuates, the difference between friendships and romantic relationships, as well as a MASSIVE source of both life’s pleasures and pain — it’s shocking that we don’t have more open and honest conversations about sex. In this episode I get to ask Dr. Kelly all the questions you men ask me, covering such topics and erectile disfunction, premature e...

Michael Gay is Uncivilized royalty, having been there from the beginning and is one of our co-leaders in our workshops. He’s also a licensed therapist and would probably be happiest living in the woods. In this episode we explore the ways men and women both can create a deeper relationship with your intuition and the parts of your body and knowings that the civilized world divorces you from. This...

Chris is an old friend of The Uncivilized Podcast and in his third appearance with us speaks to the ways that we all numb and disconnect from our bodies, and the truth we’re so afraid to acknowledge. In this potent exercise we speak of potent ways to be in your body, to live more powerfully, and experience who we are underneath lives shackled with fear and contraction. Stick around to the end of t...

NAME YOUR YEAR—START YOURS NOW It’s February. Too late. (No it's not.) For years, men and women around the world have kicked off their journeys with my powerful ritual— Naming Your Year . It’s not a resolution. Not a wish list. Not another empty promise. It’s a stake in the ground. A declaration. A call to something greater. In this recorded call, Traver and the uncivilized crew walk you throu...

Let’s talk tantric sex, full body non ejaculatory orgasms, psychedelics, and the dark masculine… In this episode with renowned Men’s Leader Adayemi Adayosoye we get into all of it. We cover the conditioning and patterning that leads men to live lives of drudgery and quiet misery rather than truth and ecstatic joy. This is a powerful episode for men who are ready to live in a completely separate re...

In this episode you get to peak behind the coaching curtain and watch me work one-on-one with a man who’s struggling bringing structure into his life. This is showing up in his challenge around meal planning and workout programming, as well as the deeper issue at hand: — This is a protection mechanism keeping him from getting what he really wants. What does he really want? A deep connection with t...

I’m a True Crime dork, and if you are too, then this episode is for you. Hell, even if you’re not this episode will show the path of a man who was deep in a music career, had a hiccup, then on a whim after a single conversation decided to try something new. Millions and millions of downloads later with popular shows such as In The Red Clay, Drowning Creek, Fox Hunter, and In The Land of Lies — Sea...

If you’re a Nice Guy, or someone who is going through a breakup or divorce — then this episode is for you. In this edition of the UNcivilized Podcast, I have a man from my Kill The Nice Guy community who asked me a straight up question: How do I heal these Nice Guy parts of me? And boy do we get into it. As someone who figured out he was a Nice Guy during my own divorce, I had a lot to say on this...

Gavin Meenan is a world-class men’s coach in Ireland. But he wasn’t always. At one point, he was a porn-addicted young father, buried in grief and shame. And it wasn’t until his porn use became public when videos of him in chat rooms made their way around the internet that he was able to shift his life forever. In his candid and open conversation, Gavin and I discuss the secret addiction so many m...

In this episode Hendrix and I dive into the ways men end up trapped with money, stuck in debt, and otherwise feeling disempowered when it comes to their finances. We talk about common stories men hold and how to break them — mostly by creating an actual relationship with money they’ve never had before. We also dig into why so many men who say they want to make millions and millions of dollars are...

The connection we create around us will always be the key to building relationships where we can be ourselves without the need to hide any feelings. In this episode, I had a pleasant conversation with another exceptional man, my friend Mark Groves. Mark will explain what all these connections are about and why it is so important for us, as men, to establish strong relationships with other people....