The UNcivilized Podcast with Traver Boehm

Fair warning — this one is not safe for work. It's also not safe for anyone who wants to keep pretending that what happens in the bedroom has nothing to do with who you are everywhere else. —— Athos Khan is a board-certified physician, Jungian-influenced philosopher, and author of several books on kink, intimacy, and the deeper psychology underneath both. He's been kinky since the beginnin...

Most people think Ayahuasca is a drug. A trip. Something you do once to see some visuals and come back with a good story. Sam Believ has sat with over 3,000 people at Lawayra — the highest-rated ayahuasca retreat in South America — and he'll tell you that couldn't be further from the truth. Sam is a Latvian engineer who walked away from a six-figure offshore oil and gas career, landed in C...

A decade ago, I woke up and it felt like my life had crashed all at once. A miscarriage. A divorce. A business partnership ending — all inside of a few months. These weren't small things. I found three things that worked like hitting a reset button — control, alt, delete. You know, the command you give your computer when something's stuck. They helped me stop fighting what had happened and...

If you’re a man in any kind of relationship with a woman, you need to listen to this podcast. Menopause isn't just a women's issue. And if you're in a relationship with someone going through it, this conversation might be the most useful thing you listen to all year. Dr. Kelly Casperson is a urologist, author, and host of the You Are Not Broken podcast. She was spending her days mostly...

Last summer I spent 49 days alone in a pitch-black room in Italy. No light. No phone. No people. Just me and whatever was waiting on the other side of all that silence. Somewhere around week two, at 4 am, walking six steps in one direction and six steps back, four words dropped without warning. One Life. Soul Led. All In. That dropped me to my knees. This episode is the full framework — the story...

Most humans aren’t taught to grieve. And that avoidance — of grief, of death, of darkness — might be the thing costing us the most. Siobhan Asgharzadeh is a grief guide, death midwife, and storyteller who has spent her life apprenticing to the forces most of us spend ours running from. In this conversation, we get into what it actually means to trust death, why our cultural distrust of it is keepi...

I want to be upfront with you — this conversation goes some places that not every podcast will go. David Sutcliffe is a somatic therapist, men's work facilitator, and former Hollywood actor who has made a career out of sitting with the men most people won't. He's interviewed Andrew Tate. He's sat across from Justin Waller. He's been in rooms where men have admitted things most...

I've been sitting on this idea for years. I almost wrote an entire book about it before I wrote Man UNcivilized. Today I'm finally talking about it publicly — and yes, it's about sex. But it's really about a lot more than that. —— The sexual paradigm most of us inherited is broken. I don't say that to be provocative. I say it because we have an Epstein list, telegram rooms wher...

Most men spend decades chasing something they can't name — and by the time they figure out what it was, they've already lost everything trying to get it. That's the story Chris Robbins lived. Corporate career, seven restaurants, millions of dollars raised — and millions lost. A father he loved deeply — and could never quite reach. A life built entirely on the outside that was quietly c...

What happens when your body becomes the battleground — and the only thing keeping you alive is a fraction of 1% that refuses to quit? Kayla Nelson spent years navigating chronic Lyme disease, tick-borne illness, and toxic mold while the Western medical system handed her nothing but dead ends. She lost her health, her finances, and almost everything else. What brought her back wasn't what the W...

I found Coral Osborne through a Substack piece she wrote titled "I Hired a Male Escort" — and I'll be honest, the title got me. But it was what she unpacked inside it that made me want to get her on the show. Coral spent years as a closeted sex worker, and what she found in those rooms wasn't what most people assume. Men showed up without their masks on. There were clear boundari...

Most men were told to pick a side. And most men have spent their whole lives half of what they could be because of it. Josh Tyler is a former professional MMA fighter, survival instructor, and the founder of Savage Gentleman. He believes the men who figure out how to hold both don't just become more capable — they become more of what they actually are. In this episode, we get into what men have lo...

Most men were never actually initiated into manhood. Nobody stood on the other side and said — you're different now, here's what that means, here's what we expect from you. Most of us just got older. And thus, many men are still running the same adolescent software in a grown man's body. Rites of passage leader Jeddy Azuma is back on the podcast, and this conversation goes deep fas...

If you've read 28 Days in Darkness or followed my journey into the dark rooms, you've heard her name. Arpita Kshama Devi was the guide on the other side of the door — for my first retreat in 2016, and again this past year when I went back in for 49 days. I've wanted to get her on the mic for years and we finally made it happen. —— Arpita is a meditation teacher, dark retreat guide, yog...

I've been off the mic for eight months. Here's where I've been — and where we're going. —— After 49 days alone in a pitch-black room in Tuscany last year, I came out a different man. Not better, not worse — different. And I knew I couldn't keep having the same conversations I'd been having for the last five years. In this episode, I'm sharing three ideas that came out o...

Hey folks, here is an early morning guided meditation from you before I take a hiatus from the podcast for a few weeks to reintegrate from my dark retreat. I wanted to share this with you while I still feel I have a foot in the other world. Find a comfy spot, close your eyes, and join me as we drop down into your heart and the depth of your being. We’ll be back late September with more incredible...

Stephen Jenkinson is a treasure, he’s also a three time Uncivilized Podcast guest, now speaking to us from a difficult place. Usually the man sitting with the dying, he’s now sitting with death himself. In this conversation I wanted to ask Stephen all of the no bullshit questions I could, giving him no softballs and going straight into the heart of the matter. As he always does, he took my questio...

Kati Bird is the very first person to teach me about Shibari, the Japanese bondage system. She now travels the world leading workshops, working with couples and individuals and has zero apologies about a life lived way outside the box. We sit down and dive right into how Kati went from being a wilderness guide to becoming one of the most sought after Shibari teachers in the world. How she manages...

Back for his second round on The UNcivilized Podcast, the man who trains Special Forces Operators on how to use chaos to their advantage and tap into their instinct and intuition. Don’t worry, his work is applicable to all — even the school children he teaches his programs to. Angus Fletcher is the author of Primal Intelligence and a friend of ours at UNcivilized. In this conversation we dive into...

Miles rote started his career as United States Marine, then became a Police Officer, then a Private Investigator, then a yoga teacher, and now runs one of the most successful book publishing companies in the world. Like me, he’s also a giant AI dork. His life story is twisty, turny, and incredibly wild. We talk about choosing a path for your life, knowing when to make a hard pivot when your intuit...

Imagine dating in your twenties, getting married, and now in your mid forties or fifties, you’re back in the dating world — and it’s a mess! In this conversation I chat with a woman who has built one of the largest match making and dating coaching businesses in the world. Hell, match.com tried to buy her last business! While we joke and laugh through it all we do get down to what works and what do...

Yep, you read the title correctly. This week I sit down with a young man from Colorado Springs who is planning on running 500 miles with a team of doctors and experts — all the while consuming LSD and psilocybin. Wild to say the least. We jam on what originally created the idea for this project, how it will be managed, and what Dante hopes comes from it. This episode is short and straight to the p...

If you’re a new dad, or know a new dad this episode is for you. Hell, even if you’re not one, this is an honest conversation about the massive initiation that is fatherhood.  In this episode I sit down with my good friend and brother Dr. Long Distance Love Bombs and chat with him about all the ways, both amazing and challenging, that his life has changed since becoming a dad this past year. We tal...

Most people think this is about mental toughness. It's not. This episode covers what I packed, what I wish I hadn't, what saved me, and what almost broke me. But more importantly — it’s about how surrender is the only real survival skill worth having. I share the little rituals and practices that got me through the most intense parts of the experience, and what I'll be doing differently this time...

There's a lot of talk about masculinity out there. Most of it's noise. In the dark, I discovered a version of masculinity that had nothing to prove, nothing to fight, and nothing to perform. Just strength. Stillness. Surrender. This episode is about how darkness stripped me down to the bones--and what I found underneath. I talk about the power of discipline without ego, devotion without force, and...