The Unapologaytic Podcast

Lloyd reflects on three childhood moments that helped him recognise something “unique” about himself before he understood sexuality or labels. He recalls being around seven to nine years old when he tried to give a treasured yellow toy tractor to a boy visiting his family home, seeking validation, and then snapping it in anger when adults stopped him, leaving him with disappointment and a broken t...

Ace on Discovering Asexuality and Exploring Trans Identity During Lockdown Ace describes realising they were asexual at 26 after searching online for why they did not like or enjoy sex and finding the term “asexual,” which brought relief and fear while they were in a long-term relationship. They told their partner, who was supportive and happy to continue the relationship, and they remain together...

Joel’s story reminds us that “the moment” isn’t always a single penny-drop. Sometimes it’s a series of ‘small’ realisations that build over time. In this episode of The Moment I Knew, Joel shares how growing up in a religious, heteronormative environment shaped the way he understood (and misunderstood) his attraction to men. He talks about early crushes at secondary school, how leaving for college...

T.J.'s Childhood: The Peach Ball Gown and Dreams of Royalty T.J. recalls attending a play centre as a child and cherishing a peach-coloured ball gown. The gown was significant to T.J., who would become upset if someone else was wearing it upon arrival. Wearing the gown made T.J. feel like the Queen of the world, always dreaming of being a cute damsel waiting for a prince - a dream that eventu...

Ocean shares their personal journey of self-discovery, recounting experiences from primary school to adulthood. They discuss realising their sexuality at a young age, identifying as bisexual during secondary school, and later understanding their gender identity as non-binary or gender non-conforming. Ocean reflects on the fluid nature of their identity, acknowledging ongoing changes and periods of...

Pierre's Childhood Moment of Self-Discovery In this first episode of The Moment I Knew miniseries, Pierre shares a childhood memory from when he was seven years old in Martinique. During a family trip to the beach, he noticed a man on a ferry and felt a sense of connection. This early experience, free of shame or judgment, played a big role in Pierre's later realisation of his sexuality....

Maria's Journey to Discovering Her Sexuality in the 80s Club Scene Maria shares her personal journey of discovering her sexuality during her early twenties. She recalls her experiences frequenting rock and gay clubs in the 80s, developing crushes on drag queens, and experiencing an epiphany about her attraction to women. Maria talks about her relationships, including falling in love with a be...

In this episode of the Unapologaytic podcast, host Pierre speaks with Rahim Thawer, author of The Mental Health Guide for Cis and Trans Queer Guys . They delve into the complex dynamics of masculinity, body image, and internalized homophobia within the queer male community. The discussion covers the challenges faced in maintaining social status, navigating mental health struggles, and the importan...

In this episode of the Unapologaytic podcast, host Pierre speaks with Dr Jason Durant, author of Boy from the North Country , about their shared experiences of growing up in small communities and grappling with masculinity and acceptance as gay men. They discuss the pervasive sense of alienation amongst gay men, even in tolerant places like New York City. Dr Durant delves into the impacts of inter...

In this episode of the Unapologaytic podcast, host Pierre engages with painter Dan Swan @danswanart | danswanart.com to explore his representation of the male body in art.  Dan shares the aesthetic inspirations behind his work and the natural beauty and seduction of the male form. The conversation delves into societal attitudes and censorship towards male nudes, contrasts with the accepted portray...

Meet Brighton's newest music sensation, the duo LADSCLUB, dubbed as "Pet Shop Boys on acid." In this revealing and fun-filled conversation, Ed and Greg share the origin of their band name, the process of creating their debut album, and how their real-life experiences shape their music. From the struggles of finding an unused band name to the joy of hearing their music on the radio,...

Framing Masculinity in Queer Photography In this episode, I interview Vincent Keith, an influential figure in the world of masculine art and the founder of Mascular ( https://www.mascularmagazine.com ), a quarterly magazine that celebrates masculine art. Vincent opens up about his journey, drawing a vivid picture of his experience as an American born black gay man brought up in the Middle East. He...

Pierre talks to Phil Samba @idiosyncraticxl, a social activist, writer, researcher and HIV prevention advocate. They discuss Phil's journey as a black gay man in London, navigating stereotypes and moving towards self-realisation. Phil is on a mission to democratise access to PrEP (Pre-Exposure Prophylaxis), an HIV prevention drug, and its significance in the gay community, especially for blac...

Pierre interviews Ignacio Labayen de Inza, the founder and CEO of Controlling Chemsex, a charity that provides support to individuals affected by chemsex. Ignacio shares his personal journey and the reasons behind starting the charity. They discuss the complexities of chemsex, its impact on the queer community, and the need for awareness and support. They also delve into the misconceptions surroun...

David Ingram @memoirsofagay, an openly gay stand-up comedian, speaks candidly about the vulnerability and fear associated with performing stand-up comedy, especially as a gay man. He emphasises the importance of being authentic and vulnerable in comedy and in life. David talks about how being open and honest about his life experiences and struggles, including his sexuality, has helped him connect...

Host Pierre chats with photographer Adrian Lourie about his Meat Icons project, which features unretouched, natural photos of men in hotel rooms. Adrian discusses his journey into photography, his inspiration and how he creates a comfortable environment for his models. Adrian also talks about the importance of diversity in his work and breaking down the idea of a "perfect image." If you&...

In the premiere episode of season 2 of The Unapologaytic Podcast, Pierre interviews Jason Jones @ trinijayjay , a Human Rights and LGBTQ+ activist who fought and won a legal battle to decriminalise homosexuality in Trinidad & Tobago. Jason talks about the need for unity within the LGBTQ+ community, the harm caused by internalised homophobia, transphobia and racism, and the importance of inspir...

Welcome to another enlightening episode of The Unapologaytic Podcast with me, Pierre! In this captivating instalment, I had the pleasure of sitting down with the incredible Darren Brady, a renowned life coach and co-founder of The Quest—a groundbreaking self-development program tailored for GBTQ+ men. Join me on this transformative journey as Darren and I delve deep into the challenges faced by th...

In this empowering episode of The Unapologaytic Podcast, we dive deep into the topic of gym anxiety within the LGBTQ+ community. Our special guest, Matt Boyles @FitterYouGlobal, the renowned gay personal trainer and founder of Fitter Confident You joins us to share his invaluable insights and perspectives on championing queer bodies, overcoming gym anxiety, and promoting body positivity. During ou...

Gay life coach Kevin Kasir @kevinkasir provides some quick and easy life hacks to help listeners/viewers improve their lives. Kevin talks about his journey of self-discovery and coming out, and discusses the reason why he became a life coach. He discusses the importance of setting boundaries and how it helps in achieving goals. Kevin also shares his thoughts on the power of affirmations and how th...

In this episode, Gustavo @guto_figueira shares his inspiring journey of living with ADHD and starting a community in East London from scratch. Gustavo talks about his experience of being rejected by his father after coming out and the importance of being a positive voice in the world. He discusses how he copes with his ADHD. We dive into Gustavo's experience of learning to accept himself, sta...

Phil: Confessions of a Gay Builder (Episode 4) In this thought-provoking podcast, Phil @buildergymguy79 talks about his difficult decision to leave his wife in order to live as his authentic self. Phil lets us gain a deeper understanding of the struggles he faced in coming to terms with his true identity as a gay man and the impact this decision had on his life and relationships. We delve into the...

Episode 3 Baz Gouldsbury: Finding happiness by being true to oneself Baz @baz_gouldsburypt shares his journey from bullied kid to confident cross fit trainer, athlete and model. Thank you for listening. Please like, comment and share with your friends. 🏳️‍🌈 ❤️ 🏳️‍⚧️ ➜ FOLLOW BAZ: 📸 Instagram - https://instagram.com/baz_gouldsburypt ➜ FOLLOW ME: 🌈 Unapologaytic: https://unapologaytic.com 📸  htt...

Episode 2 Dave Rich: an Influencer for Good and a Positive Role Model In the second episode of The Unapologaytic Podcast, Dave @daverich_uk shares his experience of gay shame and what made him choose to focus on being a relatable influencer. Dave has been promoting and supporting Unapologaytic for years and we met last year for a photo shoot. Join us for a candid chat about gay shame, his sense of...

Episode 1 🏳️‍🌈 🥳 🏳️‍⚧️ In this very first episode of The Unapologaytic Podcast, Jae shares their experience of challenging society’s expectations of what gender queerness should act and look like. Jae and I had 4 shoots over the last 5 years. The last one was for the St Sebastian project for Unapologaytic where Jae embodied a modern version of the gay icon. Join us for a candid chat about gender...