The Ultimate Intimacy Podcast

A man's sexual confidence can be negatively impacted for many reasons, and when a man looses his sexual confidence, it can effect many aspects of his life including mental health, physical health, personality, work productivity and other things in his life. On the flip side, a sexually confident man can feel like he can conquer the world and sexually confident men are often happier, more effi...

In marriage, more often than not couples come from different backgrounds and have different experiences growing up which shapes "their" parenting styles and beliefs. For example, one might have had very strict parents with many rules and structure while the other spouse may have had very lenient parents with little structure. While neither one is right or wrong, our reality of how we wer...

"Your level of sexual confidence determines your capacity to experience intimacy both in and out of the bedroom. Sexual confidence is actually crucial to a woman's well-being both in and out of the bedroom." Ketsia Gustave. In this episode, Nick and Amy have the pleasure of having Ketsia Gustave from evolvingwife.com on the podcast to discuss an article she wrote on how women can bu...

In this episode, Nick and Amy have the pleasure of having Dr. Emily Jamea on the podcast. Emily is a certified sex therapist and LMFT with Revive Therapy and discusses the concept of the different Sex Languages with us. Most couples have heard of the 5 Love Languages and understand how important they are to a relationship, but have you heard of the Sex Languages? We hadn't either! Here are a...

Last week we tackled the 10 mistakes men make in marriage, now it's time for the women! A ton of research and preparation was put in for this episode (just like all other podcasts we do) and almost all other articles had these 10 mistakes women make in marriage, so this is not according to Nick and Amy, but what most relationship experts agree across the board. Most marriages want to find &qu...

Let's be real, sometimes we as guys say dumb things or make stupid mistakes in our marriage. We often don't do things intentionally, but sometimes the things we do or say can cause issues with our spouse. In this episode, Nick and Amy share a fantastic article by Knot Easily Broken and discuss the 10 mistakes men make in marriage. Some of these include: - Only thinking about yourself in...

Many married couples think if they are fighting or arguing, then they have an unhealthy marriage, but this is not the case. In this episode Nick and Amy discuss 12 reasons why it is actually healthy to argue in marriage, AND why it is not healthy to hold things in or sweep things "under the rug".  Some of the benefits from arguing include: - Arguing shows you really care about your spous...

Do you feel like your sexual chemistry between you and your spouse has dwindled or is no longer existent? In this episode Nick and Amy discuss and share 10 tips to help couples  rekindle their sexual chemistry so they can find the excitement, passion and connection in their relationship just like when they were first married. If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in t...

In this episode Nick and Amy discuss a great article by focusonthefamily.com about why your marriage and relationship with your spouse has to be priority above the kids! "When a parental team breaks down, children become the biggest losers."   Research shows that marriage takes a hit when you have kids. According to an analysis involving 31,000 married people, the drop in marital satisfa...

Do you find yourself comparing your marriage and life to others? Do you envy other marriages, families, vacations, and lifestyle and wonder why yours isn't like everyone else's? Well your not alone... We took a poll and the results found many other people and couples feel this same way. The problem is what we see is a mirage, and we only see the what others WANT us to see, or what the co...

As men and women, we are biologically different...and that is how God made us and wants it to be. The world wants us to think we have to be the same and there is no difference between a man and woman biologically. This is not how God made us and it is good that we are wired differently and have different strengths, weaknesses and emotional and physical desires as men and women. When we understand...

In this weeks episode, Nick and Amy discuss the poll answers from social media. "Husbands answers to their Sexual Intimacy wants and needs." The questions husbands answered were: Do you have a hard time talking about sex with your wife? Why or why not?  Can you tell your wife what you want sexually? How do you bring up the conversation? Who wants to make love more often, you or your wife...

We did a survey and asked questions to women about sexual intimacy and got over 600 responses. Here are the questions we asked: Do you have a hard time talking about sex with your husband? Do you understand your body and what feels good sexually? Do you communicate to your husband what you want to need sexually? Do you feel resentment from not having an orgasm when being intimate? There are many w...

In this episode, Nick and Amy talk about a fantastic article written by 80/80 Marriage called "These Outsiders Can Make Marriage Impossible".  In marriage, its you and your spouse, the two of you. Then there are your "Thirds"....  The "Thirds" are any out side force that influences your marriage. It could be a friend, co-worker, business partner, family member, or eve...

Nick and Amy interview Amy Scott whom is a Certified Financial Coach who teaches couples how to get on the same page financially. We discuss: - Why finances are such a huge cause of stress in a marriage - Why it is so important to talk about finances as a couple - What are things couples can do to get on the same page financially. If couples get on the same page financially, all aspects of their m...

In this episode, Nick and Amy discuss an amazing article by Laura Brotherson (Certified Sex Therapist) about understanding differences in sexual wiring between men and women.  Men and Women are so different when it comes to sexual desires and how we are wired, but this podcast will help couples better understand each other. We discuss 18 sexual differences between men and women.  We hope this epis...

In this episode Nick and Amy share 6 simple, yet super important New Years Resolutions to make your marriage the best it's ever been in 2022!  Most people set multiple goals for the New Year and after several weeks most people usually give up... we have been there and done that so we wanted to come up with some amazing  goals you can actually keep and will bring passion into your marriage. We...

Nick and Amy interview Elizabeth Earnshaw who is the author of a fantastic new book called "I Want This To Work", navigating the most difficult relationship issues we face in the modern age.  So many books cover a lot of great topics and help you understand and identify things going on in your marriage, but they often neglect to cover the ways and the "how" to fix things. This...

Nick and Amy talk with Akida and Tisha from Couples Connect who have some amazing quotes that can help your marriage. Why is it important to invest in your marriage just like you do financial investments? Can surrounding yourself with couples who have great marriages help yours? Do you look at your spouse and focus on their qualities or their flaws? So much of marriage is perception and how you vi...

Lets talk about sex... Nick and Amy discuss Sex pectations in marriage, what healthy sex in marriage looks like, how to address sexual rejection, and the importance of sex in marriage. Almost all couples deal with some sort of sexual imbalance in their marriage as men and women were created with physiological differences... and this is completely normal! So how to do couples get on the same page (...

It's the holidays and that busy, stressful time of year again! But that doesn't mean your sex life has to suffer! Your intimacy can be at the highest peak this Holiday Season.  In this episode we talk about 10 different ways to keep the Magic in your relationship this Christmas such as: how to connect more intimately daily, how to bring more Christmas romance into your sex life, and how...

For most couples, when they first get married there are no kids, fewer responsibilities, and a lot less stresses in life. You spend tons of time together and focus all on each other. But that all changes when the kids start coming,  careers start getting established and life gets busy. In this episode, Nick and Amy talk with Randall and Serena Johnson (The Union Johnsons) about the 7 things couple...

In this episode Amy and Nick have the pleasure of visiting with Author Rikki Cloos about how anxiety can impact your relationship and intimacy. So many people (about 50%) deal with some sort of anxiety, and with all the issues going on in our lives that number is increasing as there are so many things to be anxious over. Anxiety is an intimacy blocker and it can make it difficult to connect and he...

Nick and Amy interview Tammy Hill who is a licensed marriage and family therapist. We discuss  how pornography damages and impacts marriages and the effects it has on both the viewer and the spouse. Tammy states that porn is usually a scapegoat for what is really damaging the relationship and it is an equal opportunity toxic poison. Porn is something that can impact all relationships and needs to...

Do you ever feel like it is hard to focus during sex? Are you often thinking about other thing,  making sex much less enjoyable?  Why is it so important not to be distracted during sex and what issues can this cause in your relationship?  In episode 38, Nick and Amy have the pleasure of interviewing Dr Kristie Overstreet who is a clinical sexologist, sex therapist, and psychotherapist and podcaste...