The Ultimate Intimacy Podcast

After doing the AMAZING episode 111 with Tamara Fackrell, we felt like that was one of the best episodes we have had and the information in it could help just about EVERY couple. As we could have spent hours on the podcast with her, we just didn't have the time. So we wanted to dive into the things that she talked about a little bit deeper and share our thoughts, insight and experiences in ou...

This has to be one of the best podcast episodes we have done, with information applicable to every relationship. In this episode Nick and Amy interview Tamara Fackrell (she is a divorce attorney, author and has a PHD in marriage and family relationships). Yes, you heard that correctly, a divorce attorney that is fighting to help couples not only survive, but thrive in marriage! In this episode Tam...

For a couple of months now, we have been posting a lot of videos on social media sharing our thoughts on various topics, and things that we have implemented in our marriage that we feel have helped us tremendously. These include videos and thoughts on sexual intimacy, emotional intimacy, date nights, setting boundaries in marriage and many other topics. It is AMAZING to see how miserable many peop...

Throughout our lives, we have many boundaries. These boundaries are in place to establish what is acceptable and not acceptable. In our jobs we have boundaries. We establish boundaries with our kids, our inlaws and other family members. We know what we can and can't do. And there are consequences for crossing those boundaries. The boundaries are there to protect everyone. So why would we not...

We love polling our audience and hearing what you have to say so we did an instagram poll and asked the following questions: Have you asked your spouse what they want for Christmas? What was the best gift you have ever given your spouse for Christmas? Would your spouse rather have a gift or quality time? What is one thing you would love to get surprised with from your spouse? The answers were surp...

Maintenance Sex.. What is it and why is it important. Well look at it this way. We have to do maintenance on our cars. We check the tire pressure, fluids and get regular oil changes, filters and many other things to keep the car running properly. These are not fun things to do, and they are even expensive some times, but they are necessary to keep it functioning and running correctly. The same is...

We heard a great quote that we thought was very profound and caused us to think about why this is. QUOTE: "The adversary tries to get you in the marriage bed before you're married, and tries to keep you out of it after you are married." This hit us hard... and it is sooo true.  He tempts us to have it before we are married, and then tries to keep us from having sexual intimacy after...

Just about every relationship and marriage has a high drive spouse and a low drive spouse. If you are one of those couples you are completely normal, and neither spouse is right or wrong, it is just different. As sexual intimacy is such an important aspect of marriage and long term happiness, it is important for both couples to communicate with each other and find a balance that works for both of...

For many people the concept of scheduling sex goes completely against what we are led to believe from watching the movies. In the movies, both people are ready to go at a moments notice and ALWAYS seem to be in the mood whether morning, afternoon or evening. It's as if they have nothing better to do. Well... the movies are a fantasy and that is not what reality is for all of us people off the...

In part 2 of the podcast "Ways To Handle The Stressful Holiday" we share our social media poll results from YOU about all the stresses you experience during the holidays, and ways to handle them. If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to downlo...

If you are like most people, the holidays are a time that causes a lot of stress and division in their marriage. Even those couples that don't drink wish they could so they could get through the craziness. You have the financial stress of presents, your time, and of course being around the extended family which is probably the most feared or problematic for most couples! There is a reason tha...

It is so easy to react swiftly to conflict and we often say things in the heat of the moment we regret or wish we could take back after. Often this quick reaction can magnify the situation even more. How many arguments have you had that have blown up to where you haven't spoken to each other in days... and you can't even remember what the argument was about? Sometimes it is just best to...

Our 100th episode! It has been an amazing ride and we are so excited to share this episode with you. We recently listened to a comedian talking about sex and titled this episode after his comedy routine as it rang so true "If you want to make love to me in the bedroom, you have to first make love to me in the kitchen". What does that mean to men and women? For men, they would love to mak...

It is common to think there are certain roles in marriage for males and females. For many years, traditional roles were common where the woman was responsible for raising the kids and keeping the house in order.  The men would typically provide financially for the family. While this may still be the case for a lot of families, roles have shifted into modern marriage roles and couples are often bot...

We are bombarded from every conceivable angle portraying that if we don't have a certain lifestyle, car, money, marriage, house, or body,  then we cannot be happy.   The constant lies can build a lot of envy and jealousy if we allow it to do so. We see on social media that our friends are going on vacation, or they just bought a new house or car. Maybe their husband got promoted to a great jo...

We talk often about how communication is probably the most important aspect in marriage and how couples can resolve almost any issue with open and honest communication. But so many couples have a hard time communicating. Not necessarily because they don't want to communicate, but because each spouse might have a different "communication style" which is "how" they communica...

Marriages are being attacked from every angle in this day and age and people give up so easily when things aren't going right. We see this with the divorce rate around 50%, which tells us statistically only about half of all marriages will make it. This is very sad! But there is some good news... the divorce rate among couples who were recently polled in a Gallup poll THAT DID THIS ONE THING...

As a culture, many Christians are often very uncomfortable talking about sex in their marriages (and families). In many households, sex is not talked about, and if it is, it is often in a negative light. For many Christians, this causes problems when they grow up and get married. Spouses might feel shame, fear or other negative feelings about sexual intimacy, or don't communicate about sex to...

We often think that to transform our marriage into something great requires a lot of effort, or big changes to be implemented, but the truth is, it is the small and simple things that have such a great impact and make a difference in marriages. In this episode, Nick and Amy have O.L. and Sway Buckley with Marriedpreneurlife.com on the podcast to discuss they ways you can find more fun in your marr...

Most of us probably have people in our lives that are toxic to us and bring us down. Not only do they have a negative impact on us individually, but often that travels home with us and can impact our marriage in a bad way. Toxic people could be in-laws, brothers, sisters, relatives, friends, co workers and other people we associate with. In this episode, Nick and Amy discuss how to identify someon...

You've heard the saying "laughter is the best medicine" and for many reasons, that is true. There are a lot of physical, emotional and mental benefits of laughing together as a couple. Laughing in marriage also  helps keep those exciting feelings of being in love alive and it helps you feel happier (of course).  Couples who laugh have a better perception of life and also have better...

We have discussed in previous episodes the impact social media and our addictions to our screens is having on our marriages and relationships. In this episode, Nick and Amy interview Nate Klemp who is in the process of writing a new book titled "OPEN: Finding Freedom in a Screen Addicted and Divided World" which is scheduled to be released in January 2024. We discuss many of the damaging...

In each of our marriages, we ALL experience hard times. We fall short and make mistakes. And sometimes those mistakes seem too big to overcome, or too climb back from. But nothing is too big to conquer as you will hear in this inspiring true story (and interview) with Brad and Lisa Valencia as they share their compelling experience of betrayal and despair in their relationship, and the path to fin...

It is amazing the excuses people give for not having sex in their marriage! We did a instagram poll and asked the question "Do You Find It Hard To Find Time For Sexual Intimacy In Your Marriage" and "What Causes Sexual Intimacy To Be Less Of A Priority In Your Marriage?" We weren't planning on doing this podcast episode but after hearing all the responses of "I am too...

What is financial infidelity? Financial infidelity is engaging in financial decisions such as spending, saving or acquiring debt and doing it without your spouses knowledge. Just like infidelity, it can destroy your marriage and the trust in your relationship. In this episode, Nick and Amy open up and get real about their experience with financial infidelity, and the things Nick did that almost de...