The Ultimate Intimacy Podcast

Husbands, do you want to know the 10 ways to make your wife feel loved and appreciated? In this funny and light hearted episode Nick and Amy discuss the 10 ways to make your wife feel loved and Amy lets Nick know if he is even close or we have to re do this episode and list 10 other things. Find out what Amy thinks and if these 10 things can help make your wife feel loved and special. If you haven...

What is emotional infidelity? Emotional infidelity refers to a situation where one spouse becomes emotionally involved with someone or something outside of the relationship in a way that undermines the intimacy, trust, and commitment of the marriage. This can involve sharing intimate details, thoughts, and feelings with someone other than one's spouse, seeking emotional support or validation...

We don't get to travel as much as we would like to, but the past couples of years we have had the opportunity to travel to a couple pretty amazing places that exceeded our expectations, and were very affordable compared to other options. Amazing food, accommodations and fun things to do you will never experience anywhere else! In this episode, Nick and Amy share a couple amazing places you ca...

Getting along with your in-laws is an essential part of building a healthy and happy marriage. When things aren't going well with the in-laws, it works it's way into you marriage and can cause serious issues between a couple. In this episode Nick and Amy discuss things you can do to get along better with your in laws, which will in turn help you have a better relationship with your spous...

We have been watching a really fun show called "Bahama's Life." The show is about couples looking for their dream property or retirement home in the Bahamas, and they look at several different properties and then decide which one is for them. The fun thing to see is how so many couples talk about how they are accomplishing their dream that they have worked together for so long for....

We have been working on the Emotional Intimacy Workbook for about 6 months and finally got it completed! This workbook covers so many topics that can help couples connect on a much deeper level, and also break down barriers that are keeping them from discovering Ultimate Intimacy in their relationship. In this episode Nick and Amy talk about the different topics in the workbook and how the workboo...

We all know marriage can be hard at times, but have you ever considered what makes it hard through those times? Sure, we can have financial difficulties, health issues, and many other things that can cause significant impacts on our marriage, but at the end of the day, we get to determine how we react. Just because life can really kick our butts sometimes doesn't mean that marriage is hard. I...

You hear us talk about "Ultimate Intimacy" all the time! We even branded our company that. But what exactly is ultimate intimacy, and how can you obtain it in your relationship? In this episode Nick and Amy dive into what Ultimate Intimacy means and how couples can find it in their relationship.  And yes, it is possible for couples to obtain it! If you are in a marriage where there is a...

Social Media is destroying peoples marriages, and on average, it can be more addictive to women than to men.  Although porn and social media are quite different, they both are very addictive and can cause a lot of the same consequences. Many people believe social media is the porn for women. In this episode, Nick and Amy pose the question "is social media the porn for women" and discuss...

So often in marriage it is the higher desire spouse that is ALWAYS initiating sex with the lower desire spouse. However, it is so important for the lower desire spouse to also initiate sex in the marriage to show their spouse how much they love and care about them. In this episode, Amy (and Nick) share 12 fun ways the lower desire spouse can initiate sex with the higher desires spouse. Nick shares...

We were sitting in the marriage retreat talking about sexual and emotional needs in marriage and a husband asked, "How do I emotionally connect with my wife? What does that even mean?" We all looked at the wife to hear her answer and she says "I don't know!"  Which is actually a typical answer.  A lot of husbands want help in this area, and many women don't even know...

In this episode, Nick and Amy talk about the typical stereotypes of men and women when it comes to sexual intimacy and emotional intimacy differences.  We know that not all couples fall into the typical stereotypes, but we feel that yes, we are created completely different, but at the same time we are so much more alike than we sometimes think we are. Both husbands and wives want to feel emotional...

We just finished the Intimacy And Adventure Retreat we hosted with Married For A Purpose and had an incredible experience that was life changing for the couples (including us) that attended the retreat. In this podcast episode, Nick and Amy share their thoughts and takeaways from the retreat and the ways it helped so many marriages.. including ours. If you haven't already, go check out the Ul...

There have been many polls done on this subject and it is interesting that for most men, they value being respected more than they value being loved .  This shows how important respect is in marriage and that marriages can't survive (or flourish) without it. However, there are often times in marriage where the respect fluctuates and can be lost, based upon certain things that happen. In this...

The other day we were laying in bed (after making love) and talking and laughing at all the ways women can loose focus when making love. Amy was joking that she was close! Then lost it. Then close again... then lost it and stating all the reasons why. Her leg fell asleep, she heard a dog barking outside. She had congestion from allergies. It's funny how a nuclear war could be going on outside...

Couples that have happy and successful marriages do a very good job at managing their time and priorities in their relationship. They prioritize the important things and put the less important things last on the list. This is the opposite of what most couples do! Most couples fill their time with everything else and put their relationship last. Maybe they don't do this intentionally, but it h...

So many couples keep score in their marriage trying to keep things fair, or following the 50/50 marriage model, and wonder why it only makes things worse. When you keep score, you then become competitors where there is ALWAYS a winner and a looser, instead of working together as a team. You try to keep things equal, but it is impossible to do so. This causes resentment, imbalance and will kill you...

A transaction is an exchange of goods or services, and something that is typically a win win for both parties involved. For example, we buy groceries and our family gets the food we need to survive, and the store gets our money. A home buyer buys a house and the seller makes money (or gets rid of the house). In our jobs, we trade our time and skills in exchange for money! Just about everything we...

Being a parent is amazing and so rewarding, and no parents would trade it for anything. But unfortunately for many couples, their marriages and intimacy often take a back seat to the kids, and because of that, the marriage suffers. Couples justify this and say "we will focus on our marriage once the kids are gone." Your relationship isn't something you can just turn on and off like...

Are there one or two very little things impacting so many other areas of your marriage in a negative way? What if you were just a couple little things away from having a wonderful relationship? In this podcast episode Nick and Amy talk about how for many marriages, there are probably just one or two little things that could be causing a ripple effect to take place  causing other issues in your mar...

As there are so MANY distractions in life, stresses and other things that cause low libido or "lack of drive" with sexual intimacy, there are ALOT of couples that struggle with their sexual wellness/sexual desire.  This lack of sexual desire often has very negative impacts on marriages, especially when you have a high desire spouse and a low desire spouse, and we hear this from both men...

In a previous episode with Alex Boye, he talked about the power of our words and the impact it can have on not only to ourselves, but to our spouse (and others). There are villages in Africa that take this so seriously, they will kick you out of the village if you are too negative as they believe the words can poison the whole village. In this episode Nick and Amy tackle the hard topic of verbal a...

In this bonus episode Nick talks with Julie and Greg Gorman with Married For A Purpose about the Intimacy and Adventure Retreat coming up in St George, Utah April 14th - 16th. They discuss what couples can expect and learn when attending the event. Check out the Adventure and Intimacy Retreat April 14-16th in St George Utah! Learn how to communicate better, and have better sexual intimacy in your...

We as couples are always comparing ourselves to other relationships, and it is normal to wonder where our relationship may stand in comparison to others. What things are we doing or what could we be doing to have a better marriage? There are several things that couples in stable and healthy relationships always do. In this episode Nick and Amy talk about the things couples that have stable and hea...

Sexpectations are the expectations you both have about sex in your marriage. This includes frequency of sexual intimacy, who initiates, foreplay, toys, what is ok and not ok, scheduled or spontaneous.. you get the point. Discussing sexpectations together in your marriage is vital! How can you have better sexual intimacy (or anything else) if you don't talk about it? Sex plays such an importan...