The Therapist and the Coach

Episode 24: Finding Quiet in a Noisy World After a brief pause, Lerae and Oren return without a plan, allowing the conversation to begin exactly where they are. What emerges is a timely reflection on noise — not only the obvious noise of media, politics, social platforms, and the pace of the world, but the quieter noise of expectation, distraction, performance, and the constant pull to look outsid...

Episode 23: The Courage to Be Genuine In this episode, Lerae and Oren continue their exploration of needs, wants, values, and the deeper places within us that shape how we move through relationship, purpose, and the world. What begins as a reflection on the relationship they have built through the podcast becomes a living example of the very distinction they are exploring: the difference between p...

Episode 22: The Need Beneath the Want In this continued conversation on needs, wants, and values, Lerae and Oren move more deeply into the places where human longing can become confused, displaced, or unknowingly lived out through our choices. Together, they explore how unmet needs for love, safety, being seen, belonging, and emotional regulation can become attached to the things we think we want:...

Episode 21: Needs, Wants, and the Values That Bring Us Home In this episode, Lerae and Oren turn toward a distinction that is both practical and deeply revealing: the difference between needs, wants, and values. What begins as a conversation about giving listeners a place to start becomes a rich exploration of how unmet needs can quietly shape desire, drive behavior, and blur the line between what...

Episode 20: The Healing Power of Being Seen In this episode, Lerae and Oren bring their conversation on imposter syndrome, individuation, and the human need to matter to a thoughtful and compassionate close. What begins as a return to the developmental process of becoming one’s own person opens into something much deeper: the ache of separation, the tenderness of parenting, the adaptations we crea...

In this episode, Lerae and Oren continue their tender exploration of imposter syndrome, individuation, unmet needs, and the deeper human wound beneath the strategies we develop to survive. What begins as a continuation of the conversation around imposter syndrome quickly opens into something much more essential: the way early emotional needs, when unmet, can shape the way we move through the world...

Episode 18: Individuation, Dependency, and the Relationships That Shape Us In this episode, Lerae and Oren continue their unfolding conversation beneath the surface of imposter syndrome by turning toward individuation—the lifelong process of becoming a whole and authentic self. What emerges is a nuanced exploration of dependency, codependency, interdependence, and the early relational conditions t...

Episode 17: Healing What Was Shaped in Relationship In this episode, Lerae and Oren continue their exploration of what lies beneath imposter syndrome, turning toward the deeper roots of shame, unmet developmental needs, and the relational conditions that shape a person’s inner world. What unfolds is a compassionate and clarifying conversation about narcissistic injury—not as a casual label or accu...

Episode 16: Returning to What Was Never Lost When the part of you that learned how to perform gets more love than the part of you that is simply real, something in us begins to split. This episode is a tender, honest conversation about what we call imposter syndrome—but really, it is about shame, adaptation, and the hidden self so many people quietly carry. The self that learned how to be what was...

Episode 15: Imposter Syndrome, Shame, and the Parts of Ourselves We Hide In this episode, Lerae and Oren open a deeply human conversation about what is commonly called imposter syndrome, moving beyond the label to explore the shame, adaptation, and self-protection that often sit beneath it. Rather than treating it as a flaw to fix, they speak to it as a response—something shaped over time through...

In this episode of The Therapist & The Coach, Lerae and Oren explore what happens when something in life has quietly moved out of alignment—but we keep holding on anyway. Whether it is a relationship, a role, a job, a commitment, or a version of ourselves that once felt safe, they speak to the exhaustion that comes from staying too long in what no longer fits. Together, they unpack the tension...

Episode 12 opens with a moment of real-time honesty: the “awkward” switch from warm pre-chat into recording mode—and how that tiny transition actually points to the heart of what Lerae and Oren are building.  They share a behind-the-scenes glimpse of a new collaboration (with Melissa, who’s helping them translate their heart-led, relationship-led work into something that can reach more people). Bu...

Oren arrives to record with Lerae still buzzing from seeing her in person—then drops a story he kept “in the dark”: he accidentally drilled his hand before a flight, couldn’t stop the bleeding, and had to navigate airports and border crossings while vulnerable and under pressure. What follows becomes a powerful contrast in how people use power: at PDX and Canadian immigration, staff meet his vulne...

In this episode of The Therapist & The Coach, Oren and Lerae drop the “therapy vs coaching” debate and chase a more personal question: what shifts when you stop forcing outcomes and start using ease as a litmus test? They unpack why we cling to certainty, how “good vs bad” emotions shrink our inner world, and what becomes possible when we give each other freedom to be honest—and to change our...

In this episode, Lerae and Oren return to the themes of listening and presence—exploring what actually blocks us from being here, now. Oren unpacks how unresolved implicit memories and early relational wounds quietly pull us into rumination, “to-do” lists, and problem-solving loops that shrink our capacity to truly attend. Together they name a subtle but powerful shift: meta-awareness—being aware...

What if the problem isn’t that you don’t know how to listen… but that your nervous system can’t access presence? In this first episode of 2026, Oren and Lerae unpack why “listening skills” fall apart in real life—when your mind is flooded with to-dos, stress, old wounds, and invisible overwhelm. They explore the left-brain obsession with doing (even “doing listening”) vs. the right-brain world of...

What if the most transformative “tool” isn’t a question, a technique, or advice—but the quality of your listening? After a long break, trauma therapist Oren and Master Certified Coach Lerae dive into why trust and psychological safety begin with presence. They name the sneaky ways we think we’re listening while our minds race, plan, judge, or wait to speak—and how real listening includes what’s sa...

What makes a relationship nourishing—not just functional? In this episode, Early Trauma Therapist Oren and Master Certified Coach Lerae pull the conversation out of “fixing” and into what actually heals: psychological safety. They explore why good intentions aren’t enough when our own unhealed wounds (and old transference) leak into the room, how shame and “the good part of me” can split into perf...

Part two of The Power of Relationship goes straight to the nervous system. Early Trauma Therapist Oren and Master Certified Coach Lerae unpack why “self-regulation” is rarely a solo act—and how we borrow calm, courage, and clarity through co-regulation in real relationships. They explore neuroplasticity (your brain can change), the trust/mistrust blueprint laid down in childhood, and how anxious,...

What if the thing you’re trying to “fix” isn’t a problem to solve—but a part of you longing to be met? In this episode, Early Trauma Therapist Oren and Master Certified Coach Lerae explore the power of relationship as the pathway to real change. They unpack how shame quietly shapes our lives, why we split off “unacceptable” parts to stay safe, and how disconnection can be felt in the body. Togethe...

What happens when a veteran Master Coach and a veteran Early Trauma Therapist sit down and ask the question most people avoid: Do I need a coach… or a therapist? In this first episode, Oren and Lerae share their origin stories and then move into the real edge—where “helping” turns into fixing, where goals can hide pain, and where healing begins when you’re met in the present. They unpack the surpr...