The Terri Cole Show

When you're on vacation, do you actually take time off and unplug? Or do you anxiously check your phone, afraid you'll hear from work? Worse, do you come back from a vacation feeling like you still need a vacation because you're exhausted? It is time to take a real vacation – without work – so you can feel rested and restored instead of frazzled and drained. Below, you will find tips to help you c...

I am thrilled to have my pal Dr. Daniel Amen back on the show for a third time to talk about his brand new book, Change Your Brain Every Day . Vic and I have been working through this book - and let me tell you, it's so accessible, no matter how busy you are! In this conversation, Dr. Amen gives us some daily habits we can begin for better brain health, and offers his unique perspective on why bra...

Were you raised in a family with silent agreements?  Were there topics you knew you could not discuss with your parental impactors?  Did big fights or upsetting events happen only for everyone to wake up the following day and pretend they didn't?  Or do you have unexpressed expectations for your partner, family, or friends and feel disappointed when they fail to meet them?  Silent agreements or ex...

Today's guest, Mimi Bouchard, is the CEO and Founder of the modern meditation app, Superhuman. As Mimi tells us, she created this app after having the idea to record and listen to 'future self' meditations on the go, which quickly changed her life. Her core belief is if you can visualize the future you want, you can create it. I hope you find this conversation as inspiring as I did. Read the show...

Are you a generous giver in relationships?  Do you give from your heart? From a place of love?  Or are you a little more tit-for-tat, where you expect something specific in return for giving?  If you answered yes to any of these, or you recognize these patterns in your relationship, this episode is for you. I break down the difference between relational unions (more heart-centered) and transaction...

I am so excited to introduce you to today's guest, Sarah Jenks, an ordained Priestess who, like so many of us, used to be a people-pleaser and codependent. Sarah and I have traveled the same circles for years, yet this is the first time I actually got to speak to her.  She is an expert in the Sacred Feminine and I found our conversation fascinating. You'll learn how to bring more ceremony into you...

Does Father's Day bring up hard feelings for you?  Does it give you anxiety because it feels like you can't escape the endless promotions for Father's Day?  Or does it leave you longing for a different (or any) relationship with your father?  If so, this episode is for you. I talk about my difficult journey with my father, how to handle grief around Father's Day, and alternate ways to 'manage' the...

I am so happy to have my new pal, award-winning copywriter and new author, Laura Belgray, on the show to talk about her experience writing her first book, how it came about, feeling behind in all aspects of life, her unique business tips, and work boundaries! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/513 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you a worrier?  Are you constantly thinking of all the things that could go wrong?  Or do you seek to control situations outside of your control?  If you answered yes, this episode is for you, my friend. I am breaking down what it means to be a worrier, the high cost of worrying, how to know when worry is excessive, and giving you steps you can act on right now to worry less and live more in t...

Today's guest, therapist, and author, Minaa B., is an amazing original thinker. I first came across her work on Instagram, and I was blown away by how precise she is with her words and finding the intersection of our humanness. I love her content and wanted to have her on the show to talk about her new book, Owning Our Struggles: A Path to Healing and Finding Community in a Broken World. We also c...

How do you feel about change?  Does it make you anxious? Nervous? Uncomfortable? Do you tend to want things to stay the same? Think about how you might feel if your favorite shampoo was discontinued, your favorite grocery shop closed, or someone took "your spot" in a gym or yoga class.  In this episode, I am talking about how to navigate change, growth, and transformation, and where grief fits int...

I am so excited to have my pal and licensed marriage and family therapist, Vienna Pharaon, on the show to talk about her new book, The Origins of You: How Breaking Family Patterns Can Liberate The Way We Live & Love. We take a deep dive into original injuries: how you can identify yours, the 5 types of wounds, the wounds each of us experienced, what inspired Vienna to write this book, and so much...

Do you ever wonder why setting boundaries feels like a struggle? Why it is difficult to speak up when you have something to say?  Or why it can feel impossible to set a limit when you don't want to do something?  If you are nodding your head, this episode is for you. I am giving you the top five boundary blocks I have seen in my 25+ years as a psychotherapist and suggesting ways to overcome them....

Have you struggled with "mom guilt"?  Do you find yourself emotionally activated by certain things your child does? Or do you feel like being a mother is harder for you than it is for others? (Especially when you look on social and find picture-perfect families?) Then this interview with Zoe Blaskey, host of The Motherkind Podcast and a transformational coach, is for you. Zoe has first-hand knowle...

Have you ever experienced "mom guilt"? Do you try to get it all done and then feel like you're failing in one area or another (or all of them)?  Does it feel like everything will fall apart if you take five minutes for yourself? If you are nodding your head, you are not alone. "Mom guilt" is a common experience. But as I've seen with many therapy clients, healthy boundaries can help mitigate this...

It was a joy to have Kassandra Reinhardt on the show to discuss being an online creator, finding "balance" within that, being exactly where we are supposed to be, inner elder work, the struggle with people-pleasing, aging, and so much more.  Yoga With Kassandra is one of my fave yoga channels. Her 10-minute morning routines are perfect if you're busy and don't have time for a longer practice. Give...

In honor of Mental Health Awareness Month, I am sharing my mental wellness journey publicly for the first time.  You'll discover why I began therapy at age 19, why I left my career as a talent agent, and how I discovered my dharma in psychotherapy. If you have ever wondered why I am passionate about vibrant mental health or why I put out tons of free content, you will find your answer in this epis...

I am thrilled to have Nedra Tawwab, best-selling author of Set Boundaries, Find Peace , on the show to chat about her new book, Drama Free: A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships . Because let's be honest, most of us come from dysfunctional families in one way or another.  Nedra and I start by talking about boundaries and then move into what a dysfunctional family is or could look like...

Have you ever left a doctor's appointment feeling confused, dismissed, or completely misunderstood?  Do you find it challenging to communicate your preferences with medical professionals?  Or are you at a loss for how to advocate for yourself to receive adequate healthcare?  If you've had these experiences, this episode on creating healthy, effective boundaries with the medical community is for yo...

Laura Danger is one of my favorite people to follow on Instagram (@thatdarnchat). Her whole commentary on emotional labor and learned or weaponized incompetence is so refreshing and on point. She breaks down the negative stereotypes of men and women in society in an easy-to-understand way, too.  I invited Laura on the show to chat more about creating equity at home, and she shares some great insig...

Do you find yourself exploding when you finally set boundaries because you waited too long to communicate them? Is it difficult for you to assert your preferences and desires? Or does it feel like you can't control your tone of voice or the energy you bring to a boundary conversation?  If this resonates, you are not alone. Many of my clients and students experience these challenges. And while it m...

Have you ever wanted to do something "big and scary" in your life? Like become an actor? Get your Ph. D? Change careers? Write a book? Then this episode is for you. Today's guest is Steven Pressfield, author of Put Your Ass Where Your Heart Wants To Be, which is a step-by-step guide to outsmarting your own resistance and do what you really want to do in life. Read the show notes for today's episod...

Did you have a lot of responsibility as a child? Did you consistently make dinner for younger kids, babysit, clean the house, take care of a sick or compromised parent, or pick up siblings from school? If you handled adult responsibilities like these as a child, this episode is for you. I am breaking down the causes of parentification, the long-term impact of child parentification, and the steps y...

Does your stuff own you? Does your house actually function well for you? Or do you ignore some cluttered rooms or spaces because they fill you with a sense of overwhelm? If any of this resonates, check out my conversation with @tracy_mccubbin on how to become more intentional with the things we own. Tracy has been in the decluttering biz for over 15 years and has amazing tips and insights for us....

Do you minimize your negative past experiences?  Or do you have selective memory, where you only remember the good from a painful relationship or time in your life? Almost like hyper-positivity with past experiences? Do you feel tempted to return to these toxic relationships or experiences? If you're nodding your head, you are not alone. I see this in many of my therapy clients, and I figured if i...