The Synchrony Podcast

"Follow your heart!" "Plenty of fish in the sea!" "When you meet him/her, you'll KNOW." Apostolic singles hear these phrases all the time, but are any of them actually advice worth following? In this episode Megan and Steven look at the advice Synchrony Singles said they hear all the time and give you their (painfully) honest opinions about it. Buckle in! Resources and Sales: Want to understand an...

Lots of research has shown that, on average, women trend toward partnerships with older men, and men trend toward partnerships with younger women. Do those trends hold up for our community of Apostolic Singles? In this episode Megan and Steven dive into the data on Synchrony respondents' age preferences, and discuss what that tells us about how we're seeking out dating partners.  View a...

We often talk about confidence as if it's an inborn quality--something that you either have or you don't. But confidence can be built, and in this episode Megan and Steven cover three key tips for cultivating the skill of confidence and bringing it into new dating interactions. Also, they tell some of their own very embarrassing stories along the way!  Resources and Sales: Want to understand...

In this laid back, introspective episode, Megan and Steven share some upcoming changes to their work and home life and how they're making more space for Synchrony and using their values to chart the course.  Resources and Sales: Want to understand and remove the dating barriers that prevent your connections? Check out the course here. (Synchrony Community Members, check the Community forum to...

With dating apps, we have hundreds or thousands of available singles at our fingertips, but we still feel more disconnected, hopeless, and lonely than ever before. Why? In this episode, Megan and Steven unpack the Paradox of Choice, our higher-than-ever dating expectations, and why you should maybe consider “settling.” References: PDF Summary of The Paradox of Choice by Barry Schwartz: https://sta...

Long-distance dating has it's challenges, but it also has some perks! In this episode, Megan and Steven talk about the pros and cons of dating from far away, with some insight for how it worked in their own relationship.  Sales and Promotions    Want to understand and remove the dating barriers that prevent your connections?  Check out the course here.  (Synchrony Communit...

Stop what you're doing and send this to your pastor or Singles ministry leader! In this episode, Steven and Megan answer 14 frequently-asked questions from church leaders about The Synchrony Project and how it can work for their Saints. We need this to reach ministers in all Apostolic organizations! Thanks in advance for sharing.  Sales and Promotions  LAST CALL: During the months of Jun...

It's unavoidable, even though we'd all love to avoid it. Is there a way to experience rejection that's actually beneficial and not harmful? In this episode, Megan and Steven talk about how to respond to rejection in dating with grace and an eye toward your own growth. Along the way, they throw around a surprising number of sports metaphors. Sales and Promotions  Want to understand and remove...

In this episode, Megan and Steven celebrate the anniversary of the first Synchrony consultation, way back in July of 2023. They discuss their challenges, high points, and hopes for the Project, and look back on some of the key influences that made the first year of The Synchrony Project a success! A special thanks to:   Adam and Karissa King of Dear Young Married Couple David and Jessica Tand...

Conferences, camps, and rallies aren't great places to make dating connections, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't make the most of the social opportunity!    In this episode, Megan and Steven teach you how you can connect with someone new in less than 10 minutes.   Download the 10 Min Connection Guide Here! Sales and Promotions  Save 15% on your coffee order with our friends...

Are men actually more "visual" than women, or is that a trope we've been using to justify an unhealthy focus on physical appearance? In this episode Megan and Steven dive into that with a reasonable amount of research and an unreasonable amount of coffee.     Articles and Resources Male more than female infants imitate propulsive motion - PubMed 2011  Vision contributes to sex diffe...

In this (rather unhinged) episode, Megan and Steven sit down with longtime friend and longer-time gamer Edward Cruz, who also happens to be a Hyphen Young Adult Ministry Leader. Together they navigate a complex gauntlet of questions around dating as a 'nerd,' videogames and relationships, and how to be truly yourself with potential dating partners. It's wild, it's unpolished, it's DEFINITELY over-...

If you were in Church in the 90's or early 2000's, you may have experienced some elements of 'purity culture' as it swept through American Christianity. In this episode, Megan and Steven share their own experiences with this phenomenon, and their thoughts on how we reckon with it in our current dating culture and move forward.     During the months of June and July, any single Apostolic...

Are you in a 'Situationship,' where there's an opportunity to deepen the dating relationship and it seems like nobody is taking it? In this episode, Steven and Megan define situationships and discuss the harmful impacts they have on the Church. They also provide you with some strategies to get  out of these harmful dating patterns and move toward commitment.  During the months June and J...

In this episode, Megan and Steven talk about their ambitious (read: insane?) plan to get more men into the Synchrony Pipeline so more members of the community can be matched. For the months of June and July, anyone can refer single male friends and relatives to The Synchrony Project and will be entered into a drawing for $1,000!  To sweeten the deal, you can offer your male loved ones a $75 o...

In this episode, Steven and Megan celebrate the marriage of two Synchrony Community Members and get excited about what that means for the Project. They then do a deep dive into values-aligned marriage and how the marriage (by itself) isn't actually the goal of The Synchrony Project at all.  P.S.--Don't forget to refer your single male friends and loved ones to Synchrony! If you want to join t...

If you struggle to make connections with new people, this one is for you. Dating barriers block connection and prevent others from seeing who you truly are and how closely you fit their values--they don't have anything to do with your personality or your identity. There are small, actionable changes you can make to improve your ability to make healthy connections, and we want to teach you how! Syn...

Telling Singles to "Wait on the Lord," is one of the oldest plays in our Apostolic Dating playbook, but it also might be encouraging Singles into a state of paralysis in their search for a partner. What if "waiting" didn't mean "stop looking?" In this episode, Megan interviews UPCI Minister Bro. Colin Taylor about his experience with Apostolic dating  and with truly Apostolic "waiting" for hi...

Hyphen--the young adult ministry of the UPCI--puts together amazing events to minister to the souls of young singles. But these aren't the right places to find dating partners, and we know because--we asked! In this episode you'll hear from 5 Hyphen members about their dating experience and the challenges they encounter. They also drop some GREAT advice on how potential partners could approach the...

What do women with advanced degrees and softspoken men have in common? In this episode, Steven and Megan discuss two types of Apostolic Singles who have a hard time finding their place in our dating culture, and unpack more about the difference between doctrine and culture and why it matters.  If you want to join the conversation about this topic and give your thoughts, reach out on Instagram...

You may have a lot of questions about what actually goes on when you meet someone for the first time through The Synchrony Project, and in this episode Megan and Steven try to answer them all. They'll take you into the weeds of what happens before, during, and after a Synchrony Date so you know exactly what to expect.  If you want to join the conversation about this topic and give your though...

You only need to know how to make two types of decisions in your dating journey: we call them  Type 1 and Type 2. In this episode Megan and Steven break down the details of what these decisions are and how you can move toward your relationship goals faster by leaning into high-velocity decision making. If you want to join the conversation about this topic and give your thoughts, reach out on...

Men are supposed to be the "pursuers" in dating relationships, according to our culture. But what does that actually mean? What if our expectations for the pursuit are holding us back from real connection? In this episode, we talk about the expectation of pursuit, where it helps and hurts us, and some Biblical examples of women taking their own initiative in their relationships.  If you want...

Fishing guides. Hunting guides. Personal trainers. Realtors...and Matchmakers? There's an unlikely common thread in these professions, and if you're an Apostolic man looking for a relationship you probably need to know about it. In this episode Megan and Steven discuss why our culture's perspective on masculinity might be preventing some men from trying out a new dating approach.  If you want...

Apostolic Matchmaking: it's not from the Old Country, and it's not a new reality show. In this episode, Steven and Megan discuss why matchmaking is the right tool for Modern Apostolic Dating, if it's Biblical, and if it's worth the time and money. Listen in and tell us what you think. If you want to join the conversation about this topic and give your thoughts, reach out on Instagram, Facebook, Yo...