The Synchrony Podcast

We spend a lot of time supporting adults who have found the dating landscape to be full of challenges, but how can we support the young adults who are  just stepping into the dating pool for the first time? In this episode, Steven and Megan sit down with Young Adult Pastors Kevin and Stephanie Quiñones, whose passion for teaching young people to win at relationships led them to implement an...

We've spent a lot of time talking about why conferences and church events rarely make great dating arenas, but we haven't offered many alternatives. In this episode, Megan and Steven unpack their wish list of events and activities that they think could actually be healthy places to meet and mingle with potential dating partners. Maybe this will inspire someone! Subscribe to Love Notes, our weekly...

Have you ever ended a relationship because you just didn't "feel peace?" As Apostolics, we use the idea of "peace" as an indicator of divine approval--but should we? In this episode, Megan and Steven discuss what "peace that passes all understanding" is in the context of the New Testament, and what it does (and does not) teach us about feeling peace in our dating relationships.  Subscribe to...

Flirting is something you just have to be born good at...right? Maybe not. What if the elusive art of flirting was a skill you could build? In this episode, Megan and Steven break down what flirting is and how you can incorporate it into your conversations to deepen connections.  Interested in matchmaking? Ladies, our pipeline is currently closed to female applicants, but will re-open in the...

Steven is out sick this week, so Megan is stepping in to answer some questions that men have raised in all corners of the internet about how women think, feel, and act. Think of this as an honest (and over-caffeinated) chat with your big sister. Let us know what you think we got wrong! Interested in matchmaking? Ladies, our pipeline is currently closed to female applicants, but will re-open in the...

All of us have been in dating interactions where we wish we could understand what was going through the other person's head. Unfortunately, none of us were born psychic, so we have to use words. In this episode, Steven and Megan discuss the stumbling blocks that arise when one person feels the other person withdraw, how you can avoid sabotaging a relationship in a fragile state, and how to handle...

Happy 100th Synchrony Podcast Episode! Thanks to the OG's who have been listening since the beginning--ya'll will have heavy crowns when you get to heaven.  In this episode, Megan and Steven are joined by a very special guest host (who happens to be an eligible single, hint hint!) and she guides them down memory lane and helps them envision the future of Synchrony and Apostolic dating culture...

We have advised people that they shouldn't date until they're financially ready to be married. But does that mean having an income sizeable to sustain a middle-class American family and a house with a picket fence? Or can two people with some debt and average incomes be ready to start life together? In this episode, Megan and Steven break down why 'financially ready' might not be as complicated as...

TW: Suicide, Self-harm, Mental Illness AI technology is become more normal in all areas of life, including our personal relationships. Some people are now using AI agents as substitutes for humans in their romantic relationships, and we see a future where AI becomes the teacher, and maybe the proxy, for how people fall in love. Should the church be ok with that? Is this the way lonely people can '...

When a relationship begins, it can be hard to know if the pacing is 'normal,' or 'healthy,' especially since non-Christian relationships seem to last forever before progressing to the next milestone. In this episode, Megan and Steven talk about speed in dating timelines, and when it can be safe vs. when it's likely to create a dangerous breakdown. Interested in matchmaking? Ladies, our pipeline is...

Last week, Megan and Steven talked about the origins of Synchrony and how multigenerational blessings and values created room for the Project to unfold. But where should it go from here? In this episode, they discuss why the Project is on the cusp of a new season, and all of the questions that remain to be answered.  Interested in matchmaking? Ladies, our pipeline is currently closed to femal...

Synchrony is at a crossroads, and in part one of this two-part episode, Megan and Steven explain the history of how the project came to be in this unique moment. Strangely, the history starts three generations ago.  Interested in matchmaking? Ladies, our pipeline is currently closed to female applicants, but will re-open in the Summer. Visit our website to join the waiting list. Men can get s...

One question that we regularly hear from new clients is "How long will it take?" The answer, like most things with matchmaking, is a bit complicated, but in this episode Megan and Steven dive into the data from 12 "success story" couples to illustrate how quickly (or, how not so quickly) you can expect to meet someone when you join the pipeline.  Shoutout to Markelle for her amazing "Nailed I...

Is the internet poisoning your ability to find real connection? If you're using Facebook, dating apps, or other online platforms to search for a spouse, you may be falling prey to one of the most deadly dating diseases plaguing Apostolic dating culture. The antidote? Grace--given liberally, repeatedly, unequivocally. In this episode, Megan and Steven unpack some of the ways social media is eroding...

What does modern romance, the food pyramid, and our church's dating culture have in common? A problem. Megan and Steven break it down in this episode. Interested in matchmaking? Ladies, our pipeline is currently closed to female applicants, but will re-open in the Summer. Visit our website to join the waiting list. Men can get started for free and meet their first match at no cost. Check  htt...

Did you know that Synchrony works with clients from four major Apostolic organizations and many independent churches? What does that even mean, and why does it matter when it comes to matching? In this solo episode, Megan explains a bit about how organizational and pastoral guidelines translate into the matching process. Interested in matchmaking? Ladies, our pipeline is currently closed to female...

Gentlemen, if you've ever questioned what women actually care about in a dating partner, this is the episode to tune in. We've surveyed and interviewed 500+ Apostolic women at all ages and stages of life, and there are some things that  almost all of them say that they are looking for in a partner. Spoiler: it's probably not the things you think they care about.  In this episode, Me...

One of the heartbeats of The Synchrony Project is to transform Apostolic Dating Culture so that our kids, and other young children, have a fighting chance at truly Apostolic mate selection. In this episode, Megan and Steven dive into how they're beginning to talk about dating with their children (ages 4 and 6) and what their hopes are for each of them when they step into their dating season in the...

You keep approaching people who seem like reasonable matches for you--you're both bringing the same number of attractive attributes to the table. But even so, you're struggling to meet someone who feels that both of you are 'equally matched.' In this episode, Megan and Steven rely on a metaphor of the dating marketplace to illustrate why men and women are talking past each other about what they're...

Dating and marriage has--for most of human history-- been more about power than about love. Maybe it still is! Are your dating preferences about your values, or are they about accumulating power? In this episode, Megan and Steven discuss the origins of dating power dynamics, and how as Christians we're called to choose partners who will make us conduits of Christ's power, not hoarders of power for...

The New Year can be exciting, and also demoralizing, especially if you expected this year to be very different than the last. In this episode, Megan sits down for a cozy, encouraging chat directed at Singles who feel like their holiday season has a dark cloud. Be encouraged, and Happy New Year! 50% off of your matchmaking experience until the end of the year, and men can get started for free! Chec...

Merry Christmas! In this (rather unhinged) episode, Megan and Steven talk through some real stories of dating red and green flags that they've seen from real dating couples (AKA their Naughty and Nice lists). We wish all of you a blessed and happy holiday season! 50% off of your matchmaking experience until the end of the year, and men can get started for free! Check  https://www.synchronypro...

The numbers don't lie, and sometimes the numbers of how many available men there are compared to available women feel staggering. In this episode, Steven and Megan chat a bit about the numbers and why God has been reminding them that He's the one in control of what comes next.  50% off of your matchmaking experience until the end of the year, and men can get started for free! Check  http...

If you've ever been 'let down gently' by a dating prospect, then you know two things: it's not actually 'gentle,' and it often feels dishonest. You may have even experienced that a few times, and heard the same reasons repeated over and over. In this episode, Steven and Megan discuss the most common reasons singles give for why they want to stop talking, and how you can actually let someone down i...

If your last season of dating was in the 1980's, 1990's, or early 2000's, then today's dating landscape probably looks like the surface of Mars. Technology now mediates our early dating interactions, and you need to be aware of how to navigate in this brave, new world of social media scams and difficult-to-interpret emojis. In this episode, Steven and Megan discuss the massive cultural changes tha...