The Synchrony Podcast

We all need a pick-me-up sometimes, and Megan gets that by messing around with spreadsheets. So humor her along with Steven as they dive into some never-before-explored data collected from 700+ Synchrony Survey respondents! These data answer the questions: “Who carries more debt—men or women?” “What do men/women spend most of their free time doing?” and “What positive qualities do men or women mos...

We try to keep things positive around here, but sometimes we just have to complain a little. In this episode, Steven and Megan dish on some of their least favorite aspects of Apostolic dating culture—have you encountered these in your dating experience? Stay tuned for similar conversations like these on our soon-coming “hot takes” bonus episodes! Take the Dating Barriers Course here: https://www.s...

"Feminism has ruined dating!" We hear this (or rather, read it in the comments) on a regular basis. Is it true? What is feminism, and why should Apostolics care about defining it more clearly? In this episode, Megan and Steven dive into this dicey topic; wish them luck. Take the Dating Barriers Course here: https://www.synchronyproject.com/offers/RzdaL4Sf Have a dating question that you'd like our...

When is it safe to stop taking chaperones on your dates? Are there Apostolic men who have thought hard about having children, and some who may have even decided...not to? In this heavily caffeinated and relatively unfiltered episode, Megan and Steven tackle these questions (stopping for a few side quests on the history of courtship, female fertility, and even some car shopping suggestions). ...

This week, we're taking you all the way to beautiful Houston, Texas with us! Megan and Steven spent the weekend teaching and learning at Cultivate, a Hyphen-Focused Event hosted by the incredible ministry team at Apostolic Temple. Thanks to AT Hyphen for having us!  You'll soon be able to access the FULL session talk on our forthcoming Patreon platform! Stay tuned for more information about t...

Are today's women different than women in the past? In Part 1 and 2 of our "Doctrine vs. Culture" series, we've discussed how Apostolic dating culture should be aligned with scripture and not with unhealthy aspects of worldly culture, and also how the discourses we're surrounded by shape our understanding of each other and behavior towards potential partners. In this next installment, Megan and St...

In this solo episode, Megan gives a primer on what a "discourse" is, and why the ones you're part of may be contributing directly to your singleness. If you haven't listened to the episode from a couple of weeks ago, make sure you give it a listen so this next episode makes sense! Take the Dating Barriers Course here: https://www.synchronyproject.com/offers/RzdaL4Sf Have a dating question that you...

We're back with more of your voicemail questions, and this week we're talking about some heavy topics. How do you heal a generational curse of divorce when that is all you've seen in your family? How should friends support singles who are experiencing a break-up? There's a lot to cover here, but it's not all gloom and despair, thanks to some great musical interruptions and Megan nearly being kille...

When we say "Apostolic culture," what do we mean, and how is it related to doctrine? In this episode, we start the process of unpacking where our doctrine and culture overlap, and sometimes even collide, in our daily practices. Also, it's Steven and Megan's 10 year anniversary! On this episode, they share some special messages from their wedding guests (that they've never even read before). Have a...

Well...this was an adventure! In this episode we cover a little bit of everything, thanks to some great questions submitted via our Synchrony Project voicemail! Tune in for some solid advice, some important Synchrony announcements, and some not-so-subtle disagreements about aquatic life.  Have a dating question that you'd like our advice on? Call 352-358-7393 and leave us an anonymous voicema...

The dating landscape can feel bleak, especially given the challenges of the gender disparity in the church. But these challenges don't surprise God. In this short solo episode, Megan offers a brief devotional to encourage you that God has a plan to restore, even when the odds are against you.  You can download the Bingo card here! Thanks to Anna and Adinah! https://drive.google.com/file/d/1ua...

In this vulnerable episode, Steven and Megan open up about the highs and lows they're experiencing as they wrap up their third year of Synchrony work. Don't worry-- there are still plenty of laughs, some singing, and even an exciting new commitment that Megan did not expect to make on this recording.  Subscribe to Love Notes, our weekly Synchrony newsletter here: https://the-synchrony-pr...

We spend a lot of time supporting adults who have found the dating landscape to be full of challenges, but how can we support the young adults who are  just stepping into the dating pool for the first time? In this episode, Steven and Megan sit down with Young Adult Pastors Kevin and Stephanie Quiñones, whose passion for teaching young people to win at relationships led them to implement an...

We've spent a lot of time talking about why conferences and church events rarely make great dating arenas, but we haven't offered many alternatives. In this episode, Megan and Steven unpack their wish list of events and activities that they think could actually be healthy places to meet and mingle with potential dating partners. Maybe this will inspire someone! Subscribe to Love Notes, our weekly...

Have you ever ended a relationship because you just didn't "feel peace?" As Apostolics, we use the idea of "peace" as an indicator of divine approval--but should we? In this episode, Megan and Steven discuss what "peace that passes all understanding" is in the context of the New Testament, and what it does (and does not) teach us about feeling peace in our dating relationships.  Subscribe to...

Flirting is something you just have to be born good at...right? Maybe not. What if the elusive art of flirting was a skill you could build? In this episode, Megan and Steven break down what flirting is and how you can incorporate it into your conversations to deepen connections.  Interested in matchmaking? Ladies, our pipeline is currently closed to female applicants, but will re-open in the...

Steven is out sick this week, so Megan is stepping in to answer some questions that men have raised in all corners of the internet about how women think, feel, and act. Think of this as an honest (and over-caffeinated) chat with your big sister. Let us know what you think we got wrong! Interested in matchmaking? Ladies, our pipeline is currently closed to female applicants, but will re-open in the...

All of us have been in dating interactions where we wish we could understand what was going through the other person's head. Unfortunately, none of us were born psychic, so we have to use words. In this episode, Steven and Megan discuss the stumbling blocks that arise when one person feels the other person withdraw, how you can avoid sabotaging a relationship in a fragile state, and how to handle...

Happy 100th Synchrony Podcast Episode! Thanks to the OG's who have been listening since the beginning--ya'll will have heavy crowns when you get to heaven.  In this episode, Megan and Steven are joined by a very special guest host (who happens to be an eligible single, hint hint!) and she guides them down memory lane and helps them envision the future of Synchrony and Apostolic dating culture...

We have advised people that they shouldn't date until they're financially ready to be married. But does that mean having an income sizeable to sustain a middle-class American family and a house with a picket fence? Or can two people with some debt and average incomes be ready to start life together? In this episode, Megan and Steven break down why 'financially ready' might not be as complicated as...

TW: Suicide, Self-harm, Mental Illness AI technology is become more normal in all areas of life, including our personal relationships. Some people are now using AI agents as substitutes for humans in their romantic relationships, and we see a future where AI becomes the teacher, and maybe the proxy, for how people fall in love. Should the church be ok with that? Is this the way lonely people can '...

When a relationship begins, it can be hard to know if the pacing is 'normal,' or 'healthy,' especially since non-Christian relationships seem to last forever before progressing to the next milestone. In this episode, Megan and Steven talk about speed in dating timelines, and when it can be safe vs. when it's likely to create a dangerous breakdown. Interested in matchmaking? Ladies, our pipeline is...

Last week, Megan and Steven talked about the origins of Synchrony and how multigenerational blessings and values created room for the Project to unfold. But where should it go from here? In this episode, they discuss why the Project is on the cusp of a new season, and all of the questions that remain to be answered.  Interested in matchmaking? Ladies, our pipeline is currently closed to femal...

Synchrony is at a crossroads, and in part one of this two-part episode, Megan and Steven explain the history of how the project came to be in this unique moment. Strangely, the history starts three generations ago.  Interested in matchmaking? Ladies, our pipeline is currently closed to female applicants, but will re-open in the Summer. Visit our website to join the waiting list. Men can get s...

One question that we regularly hear from new clients is "How long will it take?" The answer, like most things with matchmaking, is a bit complicated, but in this episode Megan and Steven dive into the data from 12 "success story" couples to illustrate how quickly (or, how not so quickly) you can expect to meet someone when you join the pipeline.  Shoutout to Markelle for her amazing "Nailed I...