The Slumflower Hour

In an episode full of spicy dating app anecdotes, join The Slumflower as she discusses what to put on your profile to best communicate your standards while still being fun and flirty, alarming things to look out for on a guy's dating app profile, why she doesn't believe in giving out your phone number to men on dating apps - even if you've agreed too meet for the first time, and why you should pro...

Is the desperation and hurry to find 'the one' leading us into the arms of dangerous men? Can being an 'independent woman' put you at more risk of accepting men who dump their financial problems onto you? What happens if the abusive man you're dating has finally started therapy? Should you cling onto the hope that he will start treating you better, or should you cut your losses and leave even if t...

Have you ever been swiped on a dating app by a man who once bullied you? Are 'all men' really bad? Would you date a simp? Amongst these questions, Chidera discusses sentiments regarding men that she's changed her mind on, reserving her femdom sadism for white men, and her cash kink - along with a story of when a man paid her for a 'girlfriend experience'. Should men pay to date us or have women ta...

Are you granting men #PityPussy because you feel sorry for them? Do you feel like a bad person for not wanting to date a guy who isn't doing very well in his life right now? Are you picking men as partners or projects and how long do these projects usually last before you recognise you've slipped back into the cycle of saving men? If you answered 'yes' to any of these, YOU'RE NOT ALONE! Amongst th...

Does every sour situation need to end in blocking him? Or are there other ways to teach him how to treat you? When blocking men from having undeserved access to you, there is a fear of looking 'bitter'. But maybe coming across scorned in response to misogyny isn't the worst thing that could ever happen to you! In this episode, The Slumflower discusses why insecure men usually target strong, bold w...

As the recession rises, will we start accepting even less from men because we feel sorry for them? Are we going to see a rise in women accommodating men at their own expense? Women are scared of being financially abused by men who out-earn them, but does paying men's way instead, protect us from their abuse? Join The Slumflower, as she opens up the question of whether a woman can be feminist and a...

Have you ever imagined what a powerful version of yourself would look like if you knew you'd never face judgement or failure? Why are we so scared of upholding our own sexual power in a world where men exert their dominion on us everyday? The Slumflower opens up about her experience as a dominatrix, why women deserve to be adored on their terms, and how leaning into your femme-dominance might actu...

How do you deal with the inevitable male complacency, that comes with making yourself far too available, way too soon? What does it mean when he suddenly starts to pull away after being intense with you? In this episode, The Slumflower talks pole dancing as a sexy hobby, being able to spot an unserious man, along with ideas on how to gracefully handle ghosting! Learn more about your ad choices. Vi...

What happens when being a good girl doesn't work? What happens when you finally decide to know your worth and act on it? Is your joy worth the temporary sacrifice of familiarity and comfort? Or is it safer to settle into the subjugation and watch your life pass you by? Chidera is the angel on your shoulder, here to remind you that it's not too late to redeem your power as a woman. She's also the s...