The Slumflower Hour

How long will you keep lying to yourself? Is it finally time to interfere with the story you've been telling yourself? Are there certain delusions keeping you bound to that man? In this episode, join Chidera as she discusses the ways we all deny reality to protect our delusions. Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-pa...

How do you manage when someone puts you on the spot and tries to bully you? Or if you're caught in a situation where you have to stand up for yourself without bursting into tears? In this episode, join The Slumflower as she shares her experiences of men attempting to bully her - as well as tips and tricks to hold your own when someone is trying to shake you out of character. Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠...

Do you allow yourself to be angry or do you repress it? In a society where women's rage is stifled and suppressed, it's time we have a conversation about allowing ourselves to feel it all in full. In this episode, join Chidera as she talks about the importance of normalising our rage during the luteal phase - and why the world must learn to adjust to us. Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon...

*TRIGGER WARNING*: R*pe is discussed in this episode where we talk about why men value leverage over us, how they siphon our souls and health through osmosis, and why it's important to start giving men PTSD back. Prepare yourself to hear some horrific stories from women who have survived developing life-changing illnesses and disabilities from being partnered with men. Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠...

Do you feel inclined to self-sabotage in a healthy relationship? If so, what does that sabotage look like? How about balance? Would you consider yourself a secure skeptic? Or are you prepared to jump into love with both feet? In this episode, join The Slumflower as she discusses the importance of keeping the upper hand even when you're happy! Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠...

Scared the next girl will get a better version of him? Worried that all your hard work sent building him will be enjoyed by another woman? Paranoid that the next girl will be so amazing that she will transform him? In this episode, join Chidera as she debunks the myth that 'the next girl' will have the best experience being with him! Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠...

Is your boyfriend a good boy? Should we train him? Or is it time for him to be handed to the dog home for someone else to take him on as a problem? In this episode, join Chidera as she talks about the importance of the black cat-golden retriever dynamic, and why women should consider leaning into ethical narcissism. Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to...

Do you feel self-conscious about having a sexual history? Have men tried to make you feel shame for having been 'ran thru'? Should we start judging men for their sexual pasts in the same way they judge us? In this episode, join Chidera as she talks about why your past has nothing to do with how worthy you are of love - and how you should be using your sexual past to shape the future you want with...

Are you the hot girlfriend? Do you find that men try to chip away at your confidence? Has a man ever tried to out-shine you? In this episode, join The Slumflower as she discusses the plight of the hot girl - and why we should never be afraid to turn up the heat some more! Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whe...

Have you been victimised by a prideful man? This episode may be for you! Join Chidera as she recounts her experiences with prideful men - and why we all need to guard and protect ourselves from men who are too weak to resist competing with women... Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that...

Does the idea of 'dating to marry' resonate with you? Are men using 'wifey material' as a way to lure you in? What even is 'husband material'? In this episode, join Chidera as she disassembles this whole 'wife material' phrase and reminds us all of why we should be dubious of it! Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide...

How can we explore rebellion in a way that keeps us safe and aligned with our standards? In this episode, join Chidera as she discusses the importance of rebelling against the rules men have assigned us - and why collecting money from men is a form of rebellion! Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep o...

Is it time to step away from him? In this episode, join Chidera as she discusses the cons of breaking up with him - and why frequent breakups might not be the worst thing in the world... Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest b...

They say men love the chase but women love being chased too! In this episode, join The Slumflower as she talks about the ways women can leverage the chase - and why we should be more selective of the validation we give men. Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering yo...

So you finally let it rip on him...I guess he deserved it! In this rather validating episode, join Chidera as she talks about why crashouts can sometimes be beneficial for you - and why every man deserves the wrath that comes from provoking a bleeding woman! Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leav...

Has a man ever called you his muse? If so, did you know you may be entitled to compensation? In this episode, join Chidera as she discusses the invisible cost of being a man's muse - and why women deserve money when men use us as their artistic inspiration! Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave t...

Have you found yourself trapped in his sob story? Has that broke man got you going 50/50 as a way to 'ease his load'? Does your desire to save men come from a place of procrastination? In this episode, join The Slumflower as she talks about why we need to leave men to figure it out - no matter how much it hurts us to watch them struggle! Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ fo...

Does falling in love tend to have you forgetting yourself? In this episode, join Chidera as she discusses the reasons we must always prioritise ourselves as women - no matter how much the lovebombing is beginning to work! Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dil...

Should we bring back the 90 days period of 'waiting'? Should we start making men audition for our affection? Are men better partners when we put them through probation first? In this episode, join The Slumflower as she talks about why it's still important to make him wait - and how you can effectively use his pride and ego to your benefit while he proves his intentions to you! Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠...

Does the 'girls girl' really exist? In this episode, join Chidera as she discusses the complexity of female empowerment, expectations placed on women to like each other within feminism - and enjoy a juicy storytime of a situation where a woman tried to 'steal' a guy she was dating...on national TV! Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page...

Should women be bitter? Is bitterness an emotion we can alchemise? Should we reclaim the word 'bitter'? In this episode, join The Slumflower as she discusses what pushes a woman to become bitter - and why men weaponise the word against us. Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answer...

Should you go through a man's phone? Is there a silver lining to catching a man cheating? Are you prepared to walk away or would you prefer to punish him? In this short and sweet episode, join Chidera as she discusses her opinion on whether you should look in that man's phone, and why as a woman it's always important to remain a few steps ahead emotionally! Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠...

Is the club really the place to find love? Should we be charging men to talk to us in the club? How do we keep safe and vigilant in the function? Join Chidera for a funny episode where she discusses the tactics of using your looks, your wit and your discernment to have fun without losing yourself! Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide...

In the first episode of season 4, we are joined by dominatrix, social campaigner and all-round powerful woman: the one and only Pamela Blonde! Join us for a conversation where we discuss sex work decriminalisation, castration kinks, needle play fetishes, being estranged from our mothers, being vulnerable as a dominant woman and being truly loved in all your layers as a sex worker. Find and support...

In the FINAL episode of season 3, we are joined by a fellow disobedient woman all the way from Australia! @HorribleMeanBadWoman (real name Sarah) is the much-needed radical voice of female rage, who makes zero effort to spare men in her cultural commentary about patriarchy, male failure and why we should all be a little more horrible, mean and bad to men! Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠...