The Slumflower Hour

Is sex really casual? This is the question being pondered upon in this episode. Join The Slumflower as she toys with the debate of whether a woman can truly benefit from 'no strings attached' sex! Join my ⁠patreon⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book ⁠POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMF...

Do you find yourself having to keep repeating your requests to the man in your life? Do people keep telling you that you need to 'communicate' if you want a healthy relationship (even though the person you're communicating to is not listening)? Have you found yourself feeling fatigued in your relationship? This episode is specifically for the women who are trapped in the communication loop. There'...

Are you a hopeless romantic? Do you believe that love conquers all? Do you live in the hope that one day, you'll fall in love and things will fall into place as they were always meant to? In this episode, join The Slumflower as she debunks the concept of being a 'hopeless romantic', while she exposes the true intentions of men who call themselves that! Join my patreon for access to more revealing...

Do you feel guilty about using men in a world where men created a system where women will always be commodified? Have you found yourself feeling tongue-tied when wanting to ask a man for help? Should men be of service to us? In this episode, join Chidera as she discusses why we should put these men to work! ;) Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to kee...

Do you struggle with premature attachment to men? Do you fear you'll never stop being a lover girl? Is it really the man you're attached to or are you attached to the idea of being desired? In this episode, join Chidera as she helps you banish the demonic spirit of unnecessary attachment to straight men! Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or l...

Is that man using you as an ego boost? Is he really 'just shy' or is he waiting for you to chase him? Do men deserve our friendship? In this episode, join The Slumflower as she discusses the ways men steal our energy for their own empowerment... Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions!...

Is your loneliness starting to become obvious? Do you secretly fear that you're not going to find your person? Are you losing hope? It's okay! Let's chill out, take a deep breath and reground ourselves. In this episode, join Chidera as she talks you through your FOMO and debunks your fears. Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy,...

Are you a strong woman who takes pride in being independent? Do you secretly wish you knew how to receive support without 'losing' your strength? Do men praise you for being 'strong'? In this episode, join The Slumflower as she discusses why being strong doesn't mean you have to struggle! Besides, what's the man there for? Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on w...

Has your poor coochie management led to your demise? Are you in denial about the ripple effect your sexual decisions have on the quality of your life? Are men onto something when they tell us sleeping with them makes us 'impure'? In this episode, join Chidera as she discusses the ramifications of being sexually careless - and why we all ought to step up the pussy security IMMEDIATELY! Join my patr...

Have you ever been accused of being 'toxic' for holding a man accountable? Do your friends consider you 'too harsh' in your dating decisions and conclusions? Is there something you enjoy in giving men a taste of their own medicine? If so, you'll definitively enjoy this episode. Join The Slumflower, as she reclaims the term 'toxic' and flips the script once again!  Join my patreon for access to mor...

Do you live in a land full of stingy men who love to split the bill? Are you starting to lose hope that you'll meet a man who will treat you as you want to be treated? Has 'feminism' made men too lazy to provide? In this episode garnished with a storytime, join Chidera as she discusses how to survive stingy men! Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to k...

Has the FOMO of Valentine's day got you feeling blue? Did your man 'conveniently' start a fight with you a couple days ago? Are you bored of Valentine's day? If any of the above questions resonate with you, you'll most certainly enjoy this episode! Join The Slumflower as she discusses why Valentine's day is important - and not for the reasons we might think... ;) Join my patreon for access to more...

So it's finally happened...he's become carried away and comfortable enough to start coasting through the relationship... His yearning has decreased and his ability to remain mad at you has suddenly taken precedence. Big yikes! Time to hit the brakes, I fear. In this new episode kicking off season 3, join Chidera as she talks you through the key indicators that your man might just be too comfortabl...

In this FINALE episode of season 2, we are joined by the 6 figure-earning dominatrix, OG Tierra Doll! In this juicy episode, we discuss findom as wealth redistribution and a radical politic, the extensive library of quirky kink fetishes and femdom vs feminism. You can find the Goddess, Miss OG Tierra Doll online via @TierraDoll_ on X. Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-pag...

Should my feminism be dismissed as 'anti-feminist'? Are you really independent if you still rely on men for orgasms? Is it possible to truly be empowered while dating men? In this episode, join Chidera as she discusses why 'feminists' hate sex workers, why it's radical to expect a man who loves you to put assets in your name, and what empowerment while dating men can actually look like! Join my pa...

Can male friends actually play a fulfilling role of support in our lives? Is it better to sleep with men you're already friends with? What is your criteria for male friends? Join Chidera as it all goes down in this hilarious episode!  Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Learn more...

Is the dick too bomb for you to use your sense? Have you found yourself roped into a 'situationship' from what was only meant to be a brief hookup? Are you hoping the sex will make him love you? In this episode, join The Slumflower as she discusses why 'being dickmatized' is of the mind - and how we can all snap out of it before we become stuck! Join my patreon for access to more revealing episode...

Are you dating to marry or dating for money? Do women deserve to be paid to be pregnant? Is it possible to fall in love without giving away your power to a man? These are questions that need answers and in this episode, join Chidera as she covers them! Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma ques...

Do you struggle with putting your foot down when handling a situation with a guy? Are you often 'too nice' when you should be a little more dubious of men? Have you fallen into the mentality of making men's negligence about you? In this episode, enjoy a storytime and Chidera's real-time texting conversation with a man who is now blocked! Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-...

Do you feel like that man is romantically edging you? Is there a vibe that he 'kind of' likes you but is holding back? Are you at a crossroads of whether you should keep emotionally investing in him? If any of the above questions resonate with you, this quick burst of an episode might give you the answers you need...while giving you a laugh! Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a...

Do looks really matter? Should we 'dress for men'? Is it considered 'unfeminist' to use your beauty as leverage? We cover all these questions in this episode, where The Slumflower dives into beauty as a tool - and whether feminism is helping or hindering our journeys towards the lifestyles we desire... (Disclaimer: the use of weed as an example in this episode, is in no way a promotion of its use!...

Do you feel like you 'owe' men sex for a cocktail? Does the 'gold digger' label scare you away from being upfront about your needs? Are you playing to win or are you playing to be fair? In this episode, join Chidera as she dilutes your fears of asking men for things, and chats through the ridiculousness of male entitlement! Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on...

Are you trying to find the firmness in your voice? Or are you worried you might be a bit too blunt? In this episode, join Chidera as she talks through the ways we can all be a little stricter without flying off the rails - and why there's nothing scarier to a man, than a woman who is pissed off and relaxed about it... NEW DATE ADDED FOR MY SOLD OUT LIVE SHOW! Get tickets for my October 27th LIVE S...

Do you feel bad about dating selfishly? Does the idea of 'using' a man make you feel guilty? Is it exploitative to date men with your best interest at the forefront? In this episode, join The Slumflower as she discusses her favourite ways to exploit men in a world where they systemically and interpersonally exploit women every single day... NEW DATE ADDED FOR MY SOLD OUT LIVE SHOW! Get tickets for...

Have you convinced yourself you're stuck with that man? Is he really the best you can do? Why do you even keep giving him chances? In this brief and funny episode, join The Slumflower as she talks through the lies we tell ourselves to cling onto these men who have passed their expiry date in our lives... NEW DATE ADDED FOR MY SOLD OUT LIVE SHOW! Get tickets for my October 27th LIVE SHOW Join my pa...