The Sex, Porn & Love Addiction Podcast

Send us Fan Mail Those with Sex, Porn, Love addiction tend to have a reduced ability to delay gratification; yet are disciplined in other areas of life. Secrets held back from a partner: Do you share? Will it break the back of the relationship? Yet trust goes to the foundation of any progressive relationship. Presented by The Kairos Centre - Bringing colour back to life - without shame. Get the he...

Send us Fan Mail EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitisation Reprocessing) tools have a whole heap of resources for helping to manage emotions, bring down stress, anxiety, tension, upset, pressure and bring back homeostasis - without using negative past coping and self-soothing "Acting OUT" activities that your brain got use to gravitating to as its "go-to". Presented by The Kairos Cent...

Send us Fan Mail The 3 Circles Exercise helps you define your sobriety. (A different exercise to that similarly so called in 12 steps groups). You decide what your sex life will look like for the duration of the Recovery Programme. What sexual activities are "OK", "NOT OK" and which are "IFFY". Relapse often occurs where your brain negotiates with you that certain &qu...

Send us Fan Mail Your triggers don't just come out of nowhere. Take back control of your eyes, your thinking & fantasy, which is undisciplined and you gave free rein to, years earlier. If you can change your thinking, you can change your life. Use R.A.I.D to help you. Small incremental steps lead to the good outcomes that you desire. Presented by The Kairos Centre - Bringing colour back t...

Send us Fan Mail Don't be an island & do Recovery on your own. 12 Steps groups like SA, SAA, SLAA, Celebrate Recovery, X3 Watch Groups are "co-therapy" type supports, that supplement your recovery. Get rid of inhibitions and Hollywood movie misconceptions. Shame will be challenging you, but you will use a different reasoning to justify why you don't attend. Presented by The...

Send us Fan Mail Begin at the beginning. Many people experience some type of wounding during early development and learn to manage their emotions, but sometimes it gets the better of them. Sex addiction is not about sex. Sex is a symptom of an underlying problem. Sex is not the problem. It is a symptom and an outlet. We do not see with our eyes. We see with our brain. Want to know more; to better...

Send us Fan Mail What is a feeling state and how does this impact behaviours as they relate to sex, porn and love addiction? And where Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) come into this? I'm sure you've come across the term CBT before and in this episode, I'm going to break down the term so that you understand how your cognitive (thinking state) will go on to become the behaviour th...

Send us Fan Mail Often the words Compulsion and Addiction are used interchangeably, but there actually is a difference between a compulsion and an addiction, and I want to help you understand the difference. I start by giving you a definition of what it means to have a Compulsion and then contrast that with an Addiction. I also talk about the brain's active role in which behaviour you will ch...

Send us Fan Mail When we talk about sex, porn and addiction, it's important we separate the behaviours from the person. So in this episode, I talk about why it's important to identify what is you, and what is your behaviour and understand the difference between adding something to your life as opposed to being intertwined with that something. I also talk about how habit and repetitive be...

Send us Fan Mail In this first episode, I want to read you a poem by John T. Atwood called The Poem For Every Person. It's a poem of reassurance because by opening up to me or a Kairos Centre Team member, you'll be opening up the most intimate parts of your life to a stranger, and I'm very sensitive to that. My assurance to you is that we will never breach your confidentiality. Not...