The Selfish Woman

Let's be real: how many hours have you spent replaying that moment, that choice, that mistake, wondering if you'd just ruined everything? Cringing in guilt and shame, and feeling like a failure?  This episode is your permission slip to let yourself off the hook.  In this raw and powerful conversation with bestselling author Jennifer Pastiloff, we dive inthe the shame stories women carry around mot...

We've been told our whole lives not to want too much, need too much, or ask for more.  So we don't. We shrink, we wait, and we hope someone notices and gives it to us anyway.  And then we wonder why we're so tired, resentful, and invisible.  This episode is your wake-up call.  I'm pulling back the curtain on the hardest thing I've done lately: Asking for what I want, for what I deserve. I share th...

If you call yourslef a 'control freak' like it's a badge of honour, this one's for you.  In this episode, I break down the truth about control: why it's not strength, what it's actually costing you in your body, your mind, and your relationships, and how to finally start letting go without everything falling apart.  We talk about:  The fear that hides under control  Why you're gripping things you...

Most women think burnout just means being tired. But what if it's acutally a signal - a brutal nudge - to stop abandoning yourself?  In this episode, I sit down with Leadership Coach and master hypnotherapist, Amy Green Smith, to talk about the real reasons women burn out and how to wake up before it wrecks you.  We get into:  The sneaky symptoms of engagement burnout and systemic burnout Why what...

This week, I had a moment. Okay.... a full-on meltdown. But underneath it, I realized something powerful: I've been trying to launch my book, The Selfish Year, like a good girl. Strategic. Palatable. The 'right' way.  So I threw it all in the fire. And from the ashes? Selfish Summer Camp was born. Because I'm going to do this my way and just like Sinatra, baby, we're all learning this together.  I...

In this episode, I'm sharing my story of how I went from a broke stay-at-home mom to six-figure entrepreneur - with no plan.  No degree, no career, no clear path. Just three kids, a toxic marriage and divorce, an empty bank account, and the choice to become the woman I wanted to be.  I'm sharing how I rebuilt my life, claimed my power, and created everything I have today - without a roadmap.  And...

What if the biggest challenges in your life weren't meant to break you....but to relaunch you?  In today's episode, I sit down with Hilary DeCesare - coach, speaker, and creator of the 3HQ Method - for a deeply honest conversation about what it really takes to rise again in midlife.  From her own vulnerable story of starting over to the tools she uses to help women reconnect with their power, Hila...

You fed up yet?  Good. That means the fire's here.  In this solo episode, I take you deep into a recent moment where I finally said enough - and buried the version of me who kept mothering everyone but herself.  I walk you through the raw energy behind my new free live event, Fed Up to On Fire, and I soft launch the mantra that's reshaping my movement:  Thank You. Fuck You. I'm Free.  You'll learn...

This isn't a wellness chat about sobriety.  This is a full-body transmission from inside The Altared State - my 30-day ritual of choosing presence over performance, power over numbing, and pleasure that doesn't need permission.  In this unfiltered episode, I walk you through Days 1 to 6 of the journey. From moss to molasses, from mocktails to jalapeno clarity. I talk about the shame women carry ar...

Hey Selfies,  This one's for the woman who stayed too long.  The woman who confused disappearing with devotion.  The woman who swallowed her truth and called it maturity.  In today's episode, I'm not holding back. I'm calling out the lie we were sold about love, and what it means to reclaim every wild, holy, selfish part of you.  We're talking:  Self-abandonment vs real love  The truth about stayi...

In this week's episode I'm joined by feminine business coach and founder of the Earth Flow Method, Jennifer Whitaker, for a grounded, soul-shifting conversation about coming home to your feminine energy.  We explore why so many women stay stuck in their masculine - pushing, hustle, productivity, responsibility - and what becomes possible when we slow down, sync with nature, and allow the wild abun...

One hundred episodes ago, I hit record.  I didn't know where it would lead - only that something in me had to break free.  Today, it's not a celebration.  It's a summoning.  This episode is the line in the sand.  The mirror.  The match.  The moment everything changes - not just for me, but for you.  Inside this transmission, I speak to the woman who's ready to stop shrinking, stop performing, and...

If you feel drained, depleted, and like no matter how much rest you get, you're still exhausted....you're not alone!  You're not tired because life is hard.  You're tired because you're stuck performing.  Performing as the nice girl.  Performing as the easygoing woman.  Performing to keep the peace and please everyone.  This is women's burnout hiding in plain sight - and nobody's talking about it....

In this bonus episode, I'm coming to you with sand in my suitcase and rebellion in my bones.  Let's talk about the guilt we feel when we rest. The fear that if we stop, everything will fall apart. The lie that our worth is tied to our productivity.  For years, I couldn't stop.  Raising kids. Building a business. Surviving heartbreak. Rebuilding after divorce (twice). Hustling for my worth every da...

In this fiery sermon of an episode, I'm pulling no punches. We're talking about the invisible leash of patriarchal conditioning and how it keeps powerful women small. I'm not here to make you comfortable. I'm here to remind you who the hell you are.  If you've ever felt like you were too much, too emotional, too ambitious, too independent....guess what? You're not the problem. The system is.  Let...

You said you were done.  You blocked them. You deleted the photos.  You told yourself, "I've moved on"  But if you're still feeling the ache, still replaying the memories, still carrying that weight....you're not crazy. You're still tethered.  In this raw and real episode, I'm pulling back the curtain on the invisible cords that keep us bound to the past long after we've walked away. This is for t...

What if the reason you feel stuck, numb, or unfulfilled isn't because you're broken, but because the 'good girl' inside you needs to die?  In this fiery and vulnerable episode, I'm inviting you to take a brutally honest look at your life and ask yourself:  What would your eulogy say, if you died today?  This is a wake-up call for every woman who's been trying to do it right, play it safe, be nice,...

This episode is for every woman who's ever felt guilty about putting herself first.  I'm calling out the 'selfless' lie we've been sold, and the emotional, physical and spiritual cost of people-pleasing your way through life.  If you've been told your worth is in your service, your silence, your sacrifice - this episode is your permission slip to burn that shit down.  I'm sharing the truth about w...

Are you ready to step into the next chapter of your life with confidence, power and purpose? In this episode I sit down with Lata Hamilton, a Change Leadership and Confidence Expert who went from marketing to leading massive transformations in some of Australia's biggest companies - all while tripling her salary in just three years.  Lata and I dive into the mindset shifts and strategies that help...

Fear and self-doubt have been running the show for too long. They keep you stuck second-guessing yourself, and playing small. But what if you could finally break free?  In this episode, we're diving deep into the root causes of fear and self-doubt, why they keep showing up, and - most importantly - what to do about it.  If you're tired of feeling like you're standing in your own way, this episode...

Divorce isn't just an ending - it's a transition, and how you navigate it can set the stage for the rest of your life. In this episode, I'm sitting down with Karen Covy, a powerhouse Divorce Coach, lawyer, mediator, author and speaker, who helps high-achieving professionals take control of their divorce like a CEO.  Karen and I dive deep into:  How to make empowered decisions during divorce (witho...

Are you ready to make 2025 the year you fully step into your power, prioritize your happiness, and create the life you truly desire? I'm diving into why The Selfish Year is the ultimate reset button you've been waiting for. We'll explore what it really means to choose yourself, and how to start making powerful shifts today. If you've spent years putting everyone else first, this is your invitation...

Listen if you're ready to leave behind the woman you were never meant to be.  This episode is not about setting cute resolutions. It's about burning the script. I'm guiding you through a potent, reflective ritual to close the old chapter with reverence and rise into 2025 with clarity, fire and power.  Inside, we'll unpack:  Why 'new year, new you' is trash - and what to do instead  A guided ritual...

This week's episode is for you, if you're considering divorce or navigating through the process, and the very idea of finances gives you anxiety!  We've got you covered because Jennifer Lee, founder of Modern-Wealth is here!  Jennifer's financial firm focuses on helping individuals navigate transition.  Here's a few of the topics we cover:  How to focus on the basics and keep financial matters sim...

As we head into the holiday season, you might be feeling like you're hanging on by a thread, holding it together for the family, and wondering if you might be ready to get a divorce.  There's a reason January is called 'Divorce Month'. Once you get through the holidays, you're ready to start asking yourself the hard questions about your relationship and decide if you are going to keep trying, or e...