The Self-Love Recovery Podcast

In this video, Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, is joined by trainee psychologist Anoushka Marcin (Ask Anoushka) to discuss how and why codependents, or Self-Love Deficients (SLDs), repeatedly mistake chemistry, limerence, and lust, for true love. Ross will explain the inner brain and psychological "mechanics" of love, falling in love, limerence, and lust, all of which equals the subje...

In this episode, Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC makes a discovery during a recent psychotherapy session.  Ross's client "Anthony" went to a Codependency Anonymous meeting during which the "golden rule" and its importance to codependency recovery was discussed.  The more they talked about it the more Ross noticed he felt shamed that he could not always practice this &quo...

In this video, Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, explains why "unmasking" and exposing a covert narcissist should be avoided. This conversation further clarifies his most viewed (3.5 million) video: When You Unmask a Covert Narcissist, RUN, But Quietly! Covert narcissists are the most dangerous of all pathological narcissists. Covert narcissists perfectly play a savior role who engender...

In this video, Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, explains how narcissists control, manipulate, and gaslight codependents, or those with Self-Love Deficit Disorder (codependency), by getting them to accept the stark but sad realities about their narcissist partner's harmful intentions, actions, and future plans.  By being able to predict the narcissist's treatment of you, you give yourse...

In this video, Ross Rosenberg discusses the Anger Continuum, which explains why anger is not a black-and-white emotion; there are many gradations and thresholds for anger, ranging from the absence of anger to rage. At a certain point in the continuum, which is different for every person, one can reach a level of anger where they lose all empathy, which can quickly escalate to full-blown rage. Unde...

In this video, Ross Rosenberg explains how the term "codependency" came to be, and why it has evolved from an outdated term that connotes weakness and emotional fragility, to a term that takes away the stigma and misunderstanding while focusing on the real problem, "Self-Love Deficit Disorder" or SLDD. SLDD is both a relationship and an individual condition that can only be res...

During a psychotherapy session with a client, Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, made a new conceptual discovery, which he refers to as “Reverse Gaslighting.” Reverse Gaslighting occurs when a pathological narcissist selfishly, covertly, and systematically manipulates a person’s environment for the purpose of falsely proving the absence of individual, relational, and/or family shortcomings, proble...

In this episode, Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC,  explains how codependency, or Self-Love Deficit Disorder, is only a symptom of a much bigger problem.  He gives a short description of his Self-Love Deficit Disorder Pyramid, the various stages beginning with the explanation of the core issue, attachment trauma, as well as a rendering of a newer theory, " Vitamin L ." ► Visit Self-Love...

In this episode, Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, dives deep into the mind of a covert narcissist and delivers an explanation of the personality disorders associated with covert narcissism. This is crucial information for anyone, including Self-Love Deficients/codependents, suffering at the hands of a covert narcissist. This knowledge will help the victim have a deeper understanding of this ment...

In this episode, Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC explains how and why childhood attachment trauma is responsible for Self-Love Deficit Disorder (codependency).  Although this trauma is buried/dissociated (removed from conscious memory systems), it results in adult relationships that closely replicate their childhood attachment trauma experience. Ross developed his Healing the Inner Trauma Child...

In this video, Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, explains what happens when one overcomes Self-Love Deficit Disorder (codependency) and heads towards Self-Love Abundance, which is The Codependency Cure™. An honest depiction of the codependency recovery process, “the good, the bad, and the ugly,” will not only prepare you for what lies ahead, but also for the necessary sacrifices that are part and...

In this episode, Ross Rosenberg,M.Ed., LCPC, CADC discusses his Observe Don't Absorb Technique or "ODA." From George Bernard Shaw astute saying, "Never wrestle with Pigs.  You'll get dirty, and besides, the pig likes it,"  Ross created the analogy of "pig narcissist wrestlers," "the physical wrestling ring," and "the emotional wrestling ring.&...

In this video, Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, uses the analogy of the "emotional umbilical cord," which explains how pathological narcissists, especially covert narcissists, feed off their codependent/Self-Love Deficient (SLD) partners. By consuming all of the love, care, respect, trust, and sometimes money and other resources, the SLD becomes drained while the narcissist continues t...

Ross Rosenberg shares another cutting-edge idea that explains a chronic challenge of a person with Self-Love Deficit Disorder (Codependency).  His "Affective Delay System" concept explains how and why SLDs (codependents) experience intense anxiety and fear in situations that don't warrant such a reaction. According to Rosenberg, these adults were once children whose "Affective...

In this episode, Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC is featured as a guest on the Passion podcast hosted by Dr. Laurie Betito. Ross and Dr. Laurie discuss what to expect when living with a pathological narcissist and what to look for if you suspect your partner may be a narcissist. Ross also explains why codependents, or Self-Love Deficients, tend to stay in relationships with pathological narcissi...

In this episode, Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC discusses Analysis Paralysis, a situation in which one's decision-making is "paralyzed" due to overthinking a problem, which more often than not, is caused by gaslit beliefs that any decision they make will result in a consequence or a negative reaction from the narcissist in which they are in a relationship with. ► Visit Self-Love...

In this episode, Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, discusses the role of covert narcissists in a co-parenting dynamic. During and after a divorce or separation, covert narcissists will not only attempt to sabotage any chance of a healthy co-parenting dynamic by placing blame, refusing to accept any responsibility, and projecting onto their codependent or Self-Love Deficient (SLD) partner—and pare...

Because pathological narcissists have a personality disorder , either narcissistic, borderline, or antisocial personality disorder, they do not believe they have a problem, therefore, they are incapable of taking any responsibility for any wrongdoings in the relationship. So, how can you get a narcissist to actively participate in a process that relies on the interaction of two people trying to ta...

In this episode, Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC explains how codependency addiction manifests as a repetitive and compulsive pattern of relationships with pathologically narcissistic lovers. Short or long-term relationships with narcissists, their drug of choice, create temporary or fleeting moments of euphoria and feelings of relational perfection. Like a drug addiction, codependents seek to r...

In this video, Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, is joined by Dr. Laurie Betito, a psychologist and sex therapist, to discuss how sex plays out in a relationship between a Self-Love Deficient (SLD)/codependent and a pathological narcissist. Topics range from coercion, rape, non-consent, boundaries, and more. ► Visit Self-Love Recovery Institute : https://www.selfloverecovery.com ► Listen to the p...

In this episode, Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC discusses why the use of "Predictive Awareness" and mastery of the narcissist's manipulative games is a successful strategy to counteract narcissistic abuse. ► Visit Self-Love Recovery Institute : https://www.selfloverecovery.com ► Listen to the podcast on all major platforms: https://selfloverecovery.buzzsprout.com ► Ross Rosenberg...

In light of the recent announcement that "gaslighting" is the latest word of the year, Ross has decided to answer questions about gaslighting, asked by his staff member who works most closely with him. This video provides a great deal of information about gaslighting, including what it is, where it came from, what the signs are, and what to do about it. ► Visit Self-Love Recovery Institu...

In this episode, Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, uses a personal story to demonstrate the power and effectiveness of his Observe Don't Absorb (ODA) technique. By using it when in the company of narcissists, a person can detach from their sabotaging manipulations. The Observe Don't Absorb (ODA) technique neutralizes the internal and external forces that prevent a person from experienci...

In this episode, Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC introduces his "Of Course! Method" to counteract narcissistic abuse. Using this technique, one can protect themselves against narcissistic abuse and establish boundaries with challenging pathological narcissists. ► Visit Self-Love Recovery Institute : https://www.selfloverecovery.com ► Listen to the podcast on all major platforms: https:...

In this episode, Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, is joined by Brandon Chadwick, host of the Narcissist Apocalypse Podcast, to discuss Self-Love Deficit Disorder (SLDD), the replacement term for codependency, including its root causes, and how to overcome it. Brandon also discusses his own struggles with SLDD. Narcissist Apocalypse is a raw and unfiltered podcast that gives a voice to survivors...