The Self Help Antidote

Send a text If you think about any story that has inspired you, offered you critical insight or shaped you in some meaningful way, it was basically about a protagonist who faced and overcame a series of challenges, and in resolving them, transforms himself or herself.   But what about you?  What’s your story?  What are you willing to struggle for? To strive for?  What adversity have you had to fac...

Send a text We all have painful chapters in our life story.  Some far more than others, which makes the burdens we carry are particularly heavy.  Our pain, suffering and personal histories feel like enormous weights we drag through our lives.  While our experiences without question can have a profound affect us, they don’t have to define us.  Your current condition is not your conclusion.  Meaning...

Send a text How do you not only overcome the darkest moments of despair in your life, but grow and become more as a result of them?   I wanted to bring this guest on for this episode for a couple of reasons.  Not just because she’s accomplished a lot or because she works in a space, I am interested in.  Which, to be fair, she has and does. All of us, whether we realize it or not, like it or not, a...

Send a text How well do we really know ourselves?  Would we be kinder, even place greater value on an individual’s life if we believed they were like us?   Are we capable of acts of cruelty, irrationality, and injustices that we would never admit to?  Especially to ourselves?   We all have biases.  Yet, it’s only when we have the ability as well as the willingness to recognize those biases that we...

Send a text What are you capable of?  When you look back two years from now, what will most define you?  What will you be most proud of?  Our guest for this episode asserts that you’ll never realize how valuable you are until you own your business, and your life.   Chris Williams is a successful Business Coach, Entrepreneur, and host of the Podcast “The World According to Chris.”   I loved talking...

Send a text Why do humans lie?  And, when if ever is lying the right thing to do?  These are the questions we explore, and more.  Such as, what is Tiffanee's favorite film and what characters do her clients remind her of?  All in this suspension packed episode!   Enjoy Visit us at: www.theselfhelpantidote.com

Send a text I liked my guest for this episode so much I married her.   Aimiende Negbenebor Sela is an award-winning film maker with a heart and talent for telling stories that give voice to the often-voiceless aspects of our inner lives.  She explores our vulnerabilities and the things that make us most human, connecting us to each other.  Her motto is that “we are all living the same lives, just...

Send a text Are you nice or are you kind?   Nice is not necessarily kind.  While some nice people are authentically kind, that’s not always the case.  Equally, not everyone who is kind, is nice.  Nice is a personality trait that’s often confused with virtue.  Kindness is not about having an amiable personality.  It’s about being acutely aware of the needs of others in a way that is deeply empathet...

Send a text If you've ever purchased a self-help book, attended a seminar, watched a video or listened to an audio program on affirmations, you may have been promised everything from financial freedom, the body of your dreams, to the perfect relationship.  But do affirmations really work?   Visit us at: www.theselfhelpantidote.com

Send a text Dr. Viktor Frankl said that “Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.” But is that true?  Are our thoughts being hijacked?  If so, by whom?  And what role are we playing in our own conformity?   In this episode, inspired by Eric Hoffer’s “The True Believer”, me a...

Send a text Trauma wounds us, all too often those injuries run deep.  It shapes us, on a cognitive and emotional level.  Yet, it does not have to define us.   In this episode I speak with author, entrepreneur, and wellness practitioner Tasha Walker.  Influenced by her own struggles with childhood adversity Latasha (Tasha) has dedicated her life to helping others heal.  We talked about the meaning...

Send a text After much positive feedback around our last episode “Games People Play”, me and Tiff are back for part two.  Among the many things we discuss, we explore 3 psychological motivations behind the games that people play with us as well as the games we play (let’s be honest) with others, as we all strive for meaning, identity and ways to meet our most basic human needs.   In review, last w...

Send a text Do you know anyone who seems to be addicted to drama?  Don’t answer that, we already know.   But why do we keep having the same conflicts with certain people over and over?  What’s the problem, and are we playing a role in it, even if unwittingly? In this episode me and Tiff’s discussion into the Games People Play was inspired by the late Psychiatrist Eric Berne, pioneer of Transaction...

Send a text Failure is not only an unavoidable part of success, but also an essential aspect of learning, growth, and development.  In the right context, it can also add novelty to our lives, deepen our perception, challenge us, and elevate our creativity.  You could say that the road to expertise is paved with failure.   Join me and Tiff for our discussion on common beliefs and misconceptions abo...

Send a text We are increasingly hearing from people that they’re feeling unable to keep up with what seems to be unrelenting demands in their life and work.  Can you relate to that?   If so, please join me and my amazing co-host Tiffanee Cook for this episode.  We talk about the critical subject of burnout.  What does it mean for your productivity as well as quality of life when you’re feeling con...

Send a text If you ask enough people what they want most in life, you’ll notice that many of them (perhaps yourself included) will say something like “I just want to be happy.”  Yet, with happiness being such a universal ambition, why does it seem to allude so many?  Why do so many people seem to be struggling emotionally, even though they claim that happiness is a priority?   These were the quest...

Send a text What would you do if your entire world fell apart?   If everything you thought you had, your marriage, work, even your identity was called into question?  This situation would be devastating for anyone.  Some people get knocked down so hard by unexpected tragedies that they struggle to get back up, if they ever do.  Others, despite the pain, initial disbelief, and anger, not only get b...

Send a text In this episode me and my co-host, Roll with the Punches’ Tiffanee cook, discuss a wide-range of topics critical to growth and development.  From how we choose to live in moments of chaos, emotional management, self-awareness, and reflection, to what role our emotions play in critical decision making?   Some of our conversations were a bit atypical from what we usually explore.  Such a...

Send a text This episode is co-hosted by one of my favorite humans, Tiffanee Cook, founder of Roll with the Punches!  Join us as we share some invaluable tips on how to create the outcomes you want in life and work, through play.   In today’s highly innovative, interconnected world, where there are more offerings, platforms and sources of access than at any other time in history, being good is not...

Send a text How well do you communicate?   As a presenter, one of the most common questions I am asked is some version of “what is the one thing…?"  Whether it’s the one book I should read, the one course I should take or the one skill that I can develop in order to… Most things have too much complexity to be diluted down to one critical success factor.  However, when pressed for an answer, I...

Send a text It’s arguable that wisdom is the result of experience and reflection.  My guest for this episode has had experiences most of us will never confront.  Luckily.  Yet, the perspective he has based on years of reflection in the most horrific circumstances, offer insights that all of us can benefit from enormously.   Just days before the end of his tour in Vietnam, Captain Charlie Plumb was...

Send a text Joana Meneses has been a friend of mine for years.  In this episode we discuss how the loss of her parents shaped her life and world view.  Her mother passed when she was young, her father over two decades later.  Although their deaths occurred at very different stages in Jo’s life, both times her grief was in many ways the catalyst for her own rebirth.   We talk about her journey thro...

Send a text My guest for this episode is Ron Karr, the former President of the National Speakers Association, renown keynote speaker and executive leadership consultant.  He is a best-selling author of The Titan Principle: The Number One Secret to Sales Success, and Lead, Sell or Get Out of the Way.   I brought him on to talk about his new book, The Velocity Mindset.  We talked the keys to success...

Send a text My guest for this episode wears the white hat.  I have had the pleasure of knowing Susan Sly for over a decade and a half.  In the beginning of the episode, I was joking with her that she’s a bit like a bond villain.   I said that because she’s an innovative creator, disruptor, and top performer in every arena she plays in.  So, I was playfully referring to her prolific genius.  She re...

Send a text Have you ever worked for a horrible boss?   Or worse, could you be one?   The late J. Paul Getty said that “The employer generally gets the employee he deserves.” As we are witnessing a phenomenon the media has coined “The Great Resignation” this assertion packs an emotive gut punch.   It’s not so much that people leave companies.  Especially when the core values and mission of the com...