The Self Help Antidote

Send a text Are good looks actually a life advantage, or just a very convincing illusion? In this episode, Craig and I poke at one of society’s favorite unspoken rules: beauty equals value . Why are humans so magnetically drawn to attractiveness? What do we really mean when we say someone is “confident,” “intimidating,” or “easy to like”? And how much of what we believe about social success is… le...

Send a text In this episode of The Self-Help Antidote , I sit down with Jo Groves and Behavioral Scientist and Exercise Professional Dr. Lou Atkinson to explore one of the most talked-about topics in health and fitness today, GLP-1. From its medical origins and biological mechanisms to the behavioral implications of satiety and self-control, this conversation pulls no punches on what GLP-1 can (an...

Send a text We can’t relive the past, but the past never really leaves us. In this episode, I sit down with my dear friend and co-host Tiffanee Cook to explore how our history continues to shape who we are, what we value, and how we show up today. We unpack why the environments, people, and strengths that fueled our success in the past are a mirror reflecting what matters most to us now, and how d...

Send a text In this episode, Craig Harper and I pull back the curtain on what it’s like to navigate life and leadership with Tourette’s, equal parts challenge and comedy. From the unpredictability of Tourette's to the absurdities it create's in everyday moments, we explore how humor becomes both a shield and a bridge. But this isn’t just about Tourette’s, it’s about adjusting to a rapidl...

Send a text What if the best leadership lessons didn’t come from business school but from behind the chair in a barbershop? In this episode, I sit down with Susanne Biro, coach to C-suite and executive leaders, author, designer, facilitator, Forbes and CEO Magazine contributor, and TEDx speaker.  Susanne shares her journey from studying psychology to discovering the human side of leadership in the...

Send a text In this powerful conversation, Daniela Tilbrook shares the heart and motivation behind her book Not My Shame . She opens up about the crushing weight of carrying shame for something you could never have prevented, and the fear of what might happen if the truth were ever known. For Daniela, breaking her silence was both terrifying and liberating.  The first time she spoke about her trau...

Send a text Ranae’s story is one of pain, resilience, and the hard work of healing. At just eleven years old she experienced a horrible traumatic event that shaped how she viewed herself, her worth, and her relationships with others. Told to “put it aside” for appearances, she spent years trying to please everyone else while quietly carrying the weight of shame. Her journey eventually led to Feder...

Send a text What’s more useful today: a perfectly polished five-year career plan, or the ability to thrive in chaos? In this episode, Craig Harper and I lean into the reality that uncertainty isn’t going away—it’s becoming the baseline. We explore how self-awareness gives you the clarity to navigate change, why developing actual skill is the backbone of real confidence, and why adaptability has re...

Send a text Sometimes clarity doesn’t come in a flash of inspiration, it arrives in the quiet, awkward realization that this … isn’t it. Maybe it’s your job. Or your routine. Or the way you’ve been moving through the world lately. It’s not terrible, exactly, it’s just not lighting any fires. And the tricky part? You’re not even sure what would . In this episode of The Self-Help Antidote , we explo...

Send a text In a world where connection is thinning, certainty is shrinking, and burnout feels like a badge of honor, what does it actually take to build a life rooted in resilience and wellbeing? In this episode, we dive into the psychological and neurological building blocks of self-care, not the bubble bath kind, but the kind that scaffolds you when life inevitably hits hard. From Dunbar’s numb...

Send a text In this episode we explore what comedians can teach us about timing, tenacity, and the transformative power of failure. From the brutal honesty of open mic nights to the uncanny pattern recognition honed through relentless practice, we unpack why everyone should step onto a stage at least once in their life, not for applause, but for awareness. I share stories (including a ahem, friend...

Send a text In this episode, we take a journey from the Prime Meridian to the emotional equator, where gratitude, fragility, and fierce compassion intersect. Drawing inspiration from Emile Durkheim, Jonathan Haidt, Marshall Rosenberg and Dr. Bernie Siegel, we explore how to stay grounded and emotionally regulated in high-stakes conversations without losing yourself, or the other person. We dive in...

Send a text What if your best performance doesn’t come from trying harder, but from letting go? In this electrifying episode, I’m joined by the brilliant Jo Groves, coach, presenter, trainer, and unapologetic story teller, who breaks down the art and science of authentic presenting. We explore what it really means to show up: not just to deliver lines, but to create an experience. From rhythm and...

Send a text In this episode, we dismantle the sacred cows of self-help and hustle culture with equal parts honesty and introspection. We start by questioning one of the most glorified slogans in fitness and life: “Go hard or go home.” Is it a motivational mantra… or just a socially acceptable way to ignore your body and trauma? From there, we dive into: ·       The self-inflicted damage we often c...

Send a text In this episode, we’re joined by Jeffrey Sanow—former Senior Intelligence Officer for the CIA, strategic leadership presenter, author of Humint for Humanity , and a storyteller with a wealth of real-world experience in the highest-stakes environments. Together, we unpack why change management is never just about systems—it’s about people. Jeffrey shares sharp insights on what makes com...

Send a text Episode Description: Are you living your life… or managing everyone else’s reactions to it? In this episode, we dig into what happens when your self-worth gets tangled in the opinions of others. From the exhausting pursuit of universal approval, to the sneaky trap of meta-perception; how we think  others see us. We explore how this mental noise hijacks our happiness, relationships, and...

Send a text In a world obsessed with certainty, group identity, and the illusion of "the one right way," what happens when we choose to live in the question instead of clinging to the answer? In this episode, we challenge the seductive comfort of tribalism and explore how identifying too strongly with a single worldview can shrink our humanity. We dive into the dangerous allure of "...

Send a text What if the voices in your head, your doubts, your drive, your deepest wounds, weren’t just background noise, but characters in a play that you could rewrite? In this episode of The Self Help Antidote , we dive into the transformative world of Anonymous Drama, a creative approach to emotional wellbeing that blends improv, wellbeing, psychology, and storytelling. Playwright, director an...

Send a text This episode dives into the real cost of living on autopilot, and how to reclaim your direction through honest self-awareness, emotional courage, and a bit of play. We cover everything from choosing your environment like your sanity depends on it (because it does), to why “discipline” is a form of self-care, not self-punishment. Most importantly we discuss why the only person who can c...

Send a text Ever feel like you're stuck in the gravitational pull of your own comfort zone, orbiting the same problems like a satellite doomed to reruns of its own past mistakes? You’re not alone. Avoiding the Comfort Trap isn’t about radical, reckless change as much as it’s about understanding why we cling to familiarity, even when it holds us back, and how to break free without setting off...

Send a text What if uncertainty isn’t a void to fear but a blank canvas daring you to create? In this episode, we dive headfirst into the unknown, exploring how to reframe uncertainty as an opportunity, take small, bold risks, and build unshakable resilience. Through relatable stories, sharp insights, and actionable strategies, we’ll show you how to turn fear into curiosity, mistakes into masterpi...

Send a text The first session in a coaching relationship is the foundation for success. It’s where trust is built, values and vision are clarified, and actionable goals are set. In this episode, we explore why this initial meeting is more than a simple introduction, it’s a blueprint for meaningful change. Drawing on the VISION framework, we’ll guide you through the step-by-step process of creating...

Send a text In this episode, we dive into the timeless wisdom of Russell Conwell’s iconic parable Acres of Diamonds . This story isn’t just about wealth—it’s about uncovering the opportunities, talents, and resources already within your reach. We’ll explore the journey of Ali Hafed, a farmer who gave up everything to seek riches far away, only to miss the diamonds that lay buried beneath his feet....

Send a text Why is it so hard to change, even when we know exactly what steps to take? In this episode, we unpack the science and psychology behind the gap between knowing and doing. From the myths of laziness and willpower to the hidden forces of habits, ambivalence, and decision fatigue, we explore why change feels so elusive, and how to finally make it stick. Learn practical, research-backed st...

Send a text In this episode, we’re joined by two remarkable artists who are using creativity to transform lives and communities: Shaah, founder of the creative collective GRYSKLL, and Quentin Fountain, also known as Q. aka Media Pimp, an eMCee, producer, and engineer. Together, they share powerful stories of trauma, resilience, and the healing potential of art. Shaah, a former member of Wu-Tang’s...