The Second Circle

Time Magazine have honoured the people who spoke out about sexual harassment this year, but what does this mean for the future? We look at the pros and cons of data-gathering sex tech and Rob ruins one of Franki’s sexual fantasies by recasting its key protagonist. We also talk about the role of fantasy in sex and discuss the best ways to ask someone to wee on you. LINKS TIME magazine named “The Si...

The Second Circle is taking part in Scarlet Ladies’ #ITalkSex campaign this week as I’m joined by three of the campaign’s ambassadors, Elly, Rudo, and Kit, to delve into why silence around sex can lead to abuse and what we can do to help each other be more open. We also chat about why women are more content than men to be single and whether there’s such a thing as “boring” sex. LINKS Women prefer...

The Second Circle has been transformed into a women-only space this week as I’ve banished Rob in favour of two fabulous guests: Jannette Davies and Sarah Beilfuss of London-based sex-positive members club Scarlet Ladies. We’ll be tackling Jannette’s favourite subject, masturbation, and sharing our porn and sex toy habits. We also touch on what it means to identify as a woman, discussing changing s...

Should we get paid breaks from work to have sex? And is it ever OK to “out” somebody as a former porn star? We discuss the so-called “golden trio of moves” that are said to result in female orgasm (*sceptical face*) and Rob learns what all the different sex and gender identity labels mean… and why they matter to people. We also talk about sex and consent and reveal whether we’ve ever been caught m...

More women than men say they regret casual sex… but why? We learn all the secret sexting codes that teenagers are using today and how virtual reality is going to take our sexual fantasies to new and surreal heights! We also discuss the language of sex and why context is everything when choosing how to talk dirty. If you enjoyed the show today, why not buy me a coffee ? LINKS One night stands: acco...

Is it OK to be turned on by things that we find unacceptable in real life? Plus what happens when you apply a BDSM reading to Shakespeare? A listener asks whether toe-sucking is now ‘a thing’, Rob gives some truly terrible advice on how to manage your partner’s libido and we order off Dr de Wit’s Sex Menu. If you enjoyed the show today, why not buy me a coffee ? LINKS Could a ‘sex menu’ improve yo...

The first sex robots are due to go on the market in 2050 and apparently they will improve your skills in bed. We take a look at the positive side of porn and discuss whether or not it’s okay to slut-shame Melania Trump for her career as a model (spoiler: it’s not). We also tackle a question about sexting and Rob goes off on a metaphorical tangent involving chocolate bars. If you enjoyed the show t...

Labour MP Keith Vaz met male escorts for sex but at what point does your sex life become public interest? We also bring you a Sexy Paralympics update (it involves Maltesers), a controversial question about virginity and some hot pillow talk about our earliest sexual memories. If you enjoyed the show today, why not buy me a coffee ? LINKS The Mirror’s expose of MP Keith Vaz The Telegraph’s first pe...

Dating tips from a 1930s, how to delay ejaculation, and a writer who reckons the female condom is making a comeback. We have the last sex update from the Olympics, a question about sexual fantasies and some hot pillow talk about erogenous zones. If you enjoyed the show today, why not buy me a coffee ? LINKS If you ever wanted to know how to make love in the 1930s look no further! If you hooked up...

Did you know the clitoris is shaped like a hi-tech boomerang? You do now! Also this week: why it’s important to talk about pleasure in sex education, a Sexy Olympics update, questions about going on top, and we chat about sex toys and how important it is for a guy to be able to ‘go again.’ If you enjoyed the show today, why not buy me a coffee ? LINKS A French researcher has created a 3D model cli...

Everybody knows the Olympic village is a hotbed of sex but can mere mortals get involved? We look at the ethics of The Daily Beast’s Grindr exposé, find out whether porn leads to impotence and discuss what kind of food to serve at an orgy. Plus questions about pubic hair, “first time” experiences and an all-important douching update. If you enjoyed the show today, why not buy me a coffee ? LINKS T...

Why doesn't the NHS want to pay for HIV prevention drugs? We find out. Plus, we discuss the recent sexism row at Saatchi & Saatchi and the report that millennials are having less sex, before throwing around some questions about douching, rough sex and threesomes. LINKS   HIV campaigners win NHS drug battle … and the Daily Mail’s reaction to it. Franki also blogged about this on our sister...