The Resilience Project

CONNECT WITH ZOE, ELLIE + UNFOLDING Website + waitlist Instagram Facebook Also on LinkedIn - follow along as they unfold, live. CONNECT WITH ME Join The Refuge Community Membership What happens when two adoptees sit down for coffee at a place called the Blue Kangaroo? Apparently, a movement. This week I'm joined by two women I can only describe as kindreds: Zoe Hansen-DiBello and Ellie Robins...

Links How to connect with all Dr. Liz is doing Schedule a Connection Time with Julie Looking for Community Like the Retreat Created? Five Voices, One Room This episode is different from the rest of the series. Instead of teaching the five conditions solo, Julie sits down with Dr. Liz DeBetta and five adoptees - Mike, Jill, Nicole, Jeremy, and Jen - who were part of the Un-M-Othered retreat in Mosc...

Link Schedule a Call with Me The Refuge: A Community Membership In This Episode Have you ever had a real breakthrough - a moment of genuine opening - and then watched it slowly close again a few days later? That is not failure. That is not you doing it wrong. That is what happens when we expect insight alone to rewire a nervous system. In this final episode of the 5 Conditions of Self-Belonging se...

Link Schedule a Call with Me The Refuge: A Community Membership In This Episode Have you ever worked incredibly hard to be loved, and still felt completely unknown? That is not a character flaw. That is what happens when the part of you that most needs to be seen learned early on that it wasn't safe to come out. In this episode, Julie Brumley explores the fourth condition of the 5 Conditions...

Links Schedule a call with me In this episode: What if capacity isn't about handling more - it's about leaving yourself less? In this episode, Julie Brumley dives into the third condition that cultivates self-belonging: Capacity. This is the heart of the series, and the condition that surprises people most. Capacity isn't becoming someone who never gets overwhelmed. It's the ab...

Links Last week's episode on Condition 1 - Curiosity Connect with Julie Clarity isn't certainty. It's awareness. In this episode, Julie explores the second condition for self-belonging: the gentle, non-judgmental ability to notice what's happening in you - without needing to have it all figured out first. Building on last week's episode about curiosity, Julie unpacks why s...

Links & Resources Schedule a Connection Call with Me Understanding Your Nervous System: A Guide for Adoptees and Those Who Love Them Summary In this first episode of a brand-new series inspired by Julie Brumley’s workshop The Art of Cultivating Belonging: Returning to the Body After the Story , Julie explores the first condition that helps self-belonging begin to emerge: Curiosity. As adoptees...

Resources Mentioned Revelation LIVE Un-M-Othered: A Revolution in Adoptee Healing Retreat Schedule a call with Julie Summary A few weeks ago, Julie Brumley released an episode about changing the meaning we attach to experiences and how those meanings shape the stories, emotions, and patterns we repeat. But in this episode, she goes deeper. Because meanings don’t just shape thoughts. They shape the...

Summary In this deeply personal conversation, Julie Brumley sits down with mentor, coach, and friend Kelly Brock, the woman whose podcast sparked the beginning of Julie’s adoption-focused work back in April 2023. Together, they explore how survival patterns become identities, why the nervous system shapes what we expect from relationships, and how old associations recreate familiar patterns.  Kell...

Summary In this deeply personal and relational episode, Julie sits down with her longtime friend Cathy Rosenquist - someone who has had a front-row seat to some of Julie’s most defining seasons. From loss and reunion to therapy, identity, and divorce… Cathy didn’t just hear about it. She lived alongside it. This conversation offers something rarely spoken about in adoption spaces: What is it like...

Summary In this embodied, real-time conversation, Julie Brumley walks listeners through a powerful shift: the meaning we attach to our experiences shapes our stories, emotions, and the way we move through the world. Most of us think we’re reacting to what’s happening now… but often, we’re responding to what we expect to happen based on the past. Through personal examples and guided reflection, Jul...

Summary In this personal, embodied episode, Julie Brumley shares a realization that emerged through guided journaling and somatic reflection: For many adoptees, love didn’t feel safe, it felt something to earn. Through reflective questions and body-based practices, Julie explores how early experiences shape our relationship to love, safety, and connection. She shows how adaptations like people-ple...

✨ Summary In this episode, Julie Brumley shares the defining moment that redirected her work from addiction into adoptee healing - and the deeper understanding of belonging that followed. She introduces Revelation LIVE , a 7-day guided experience designed to help adoptees make sense of their patterns, reconnect with themselves, and begin experiencing belonging from within. ✨ Keywords adoptee hea...

Summary In this heartfelt interview, Nicole Quirino shares her complex journey as an international adoptee from Bulgaria, exploring themes of belonging, identity, and the search for her biological family. This conversation sheds light on the nuanced experiences of adoptees navigating systemic barriers, cultural identity, and emotional resilience. Keywords adoption, international adoptee, Bulgaria,...

Summary This episode explores the polyvagal theory, trauma responses, and how understanding our nervous system can aid in healing from primal trauma, especially for adoptees. It offers practical grounding tools and insights into self-regulation. Keywords Polyvagal Theory, Trauma Responses, Adoptee Healing, Nervous System, Self-Regulation, Primal Trauma, Somatic Therapy, Self-Compassion, Grounding...

Join Julie Brumley in an in-depth conversation with Sydney Curtin about her complex adoption journey, healing from past wounds, and breaking intergenerational cycles. This episode offers profound insights into identity, forgiveness, and the power of owning your story. keywords adoption, healing, identity, forgiveness, intergenerational trauma, mental health, personal growth, adoption journey, ment...

In this episode, Julie Brumley shares a framework foundational to her work with adoptees: Not because something is wrong with you… but because your body learned a different cycle. Drawing from the Satisfaction Cycle (Bonnie Bainbridge Cohen), she explains how attachment unfolds through attunement and safety. But for adoptees, that cycle is often interrupted. From that disruption, Julie introduces...

Summary Julie Brumley shares her personal journey of healing from adoption-related trauma, emphasizing the importance of body-based work and inner belonging. This episode explores limiting beliefs, the role of somatic therapy, and practical steps for adoptees to reconnect with their true selves. Keywords adoption trauma, healing, somatic therapy, belonging, limiting beliefs, inner work, resilience...

Discover how adoptees can navigate trauma, identities, and healing through embodied practices, plant medicines, and community connection. Join Julie Brumley and Joni Kim as they explore innovative paths beyond traditional therapy for profound transformation. In this episode: The limitations of talk therapy for deep, pre-verbal trauma How plant medicine uncovers the origins of identity and healing...

In this heartfelt episode of the Resilience Project podcast, Julie Brumley sits down with Jennifer Skiles - an adoptee and author - to explore the deep roots of the "I am a burden" belief and how it shapes the lives of adoptees. They discuss becoming aware of this inner narrative, healing through community, faith, and self-compassion, and the transformative power of sharing stories. Key...

In this heartfelt episode, Julie Brumley shares her personal journey from feeling like a burden to embracing her healing. She discusses the transformative power of community, understanding body sensations, and shifting perspectives to foster belonging and self-compassion. Key Topics: The origin of the phrase "I am a burden" and its emotional impact How sensations in the body reveal subco...

Discover how surrender, rather than control, can transform the adoptee’s healing journey. In this episode, Julie explores the deep psychological and somatic stages of adoptee awareness and how embracing surrender leads to genuine self-belonging. In this episode: The misconception that mastery and control are the core issues for adoptees How early trauma impacts our response to loss and control The...

Slides that I shared - https://drive.google.com/file/d/13QWm6K6AIEwWYVNtO-ZNHTwB7WPscNlT/view?usp=sharing Summary In this episode of the Resilience Project Podcast, Julie explores the complexities of love, intimacy, and interdependence, particularly in the context of adoption. She discusses how early experiences shape our ability to connect with others and emphasizes the importance of self-love an...

Summary  In this episode of the Resilience Project podcast, host Julie Brumley welcomes Dr. Liz DeBetta, an adoptee and creator of the award-winning performance 'Un-M-Othered.' The conversation centers around the upcoming retreat, 'Un-M-Othered: A Revolution in Adoptee Healing,' designed specifically for adoptees. Julie and Liz discuss the importance of community in healing, em...

Summary In this heartfelt episode of The Resilience Project, host Julie Brumley engages in a candid conversation with her mother, Karen, about their experiences with adoption. Julie expresses her gratitude for her mother's unwavering support and love throughout her life, emphasizing the importance of understanding the complexities of adoption from both the adoptee's and adoptive parent&a...