The Reclamation Room: Coaching, Boundaries, and Healing After Narcissistic Abuse

In this episode, Ashana sits down with Stephanie Lee Jackson, founder of Practical Sanctuary, for a grounded conversation about emotional abuse, confusion, and the process of making sense of toxic relationships. Stephanie shares her personal experience of being in a dynamic that didn’t feel right, yet was hard to fully understand in the moment. They talk about the disorientation that happens when...

In this episode, Ashana explores why closure feels so hard to reach after narcissistic or emotionally harmful relationships. She breaks down how the brain seeks resolution and shared reality, and why that search can feel endless when clarity was never truly offered. Through a grounded lens, she unpacks how inconsistency and distortion disrupt your sense of self and leave you wanting answers that d...

In this episode, Ashana sits down with licensed mental health counselor Maya Nelson for a real, layered conversation around mental health, trauma, and the patterns we don’t always realize we’re living inside of. They explore how early experiences shape the way we relate to ourselves, to others, and to conflict, especially when safety, consistency, or emotional support felt unstable growing up. Thi...

In this episode, Ashana explores the quiet grief many people carry when life feels harder than it seems to be for everyone else. She unpacks how early relational environments shape our sense of internal safety and trust, and how those patterns continue to influence the way we move through adulthood. Through personal reflection and simple neuroscience, Ashana explains why self-doubt, hyper-awarenes...

In this episode, Ashana sits down with Marriage and Family Therapist Dr. Sylvia Kalicinski to talk about loneliness, emotional healing, and the long journey of writing a book that tells the truth about how hard it can feel to be human. Dr. Sylvia shares how years of sitting with clients in their pain shaped her HEART method, and how understanding family systems can bring clarity and compassion to...

In this episode, Ashana explores the kind of conversations that leave you grounded and clear versus the ones that leave you questioning your own perception. She shares how honesty creates emotional safety, why people unconsciously enter silent agreements during conversations, and how those agreements shape the way we feel afterward. Through personal reflection, Ashana explains how disorientation o...

In this episode, Ashana sits down with therapist and podcast host Malisa Hepner to talk about complex trauma, identity, and the moment life asks you to choose yourself. Malisa shares her personal turning point in her forties that shifted her from surviving to living with intention, and how that experience shaped the work she now does helping others feel safe to be seen. Together, they explore rein...

In this episode, Ashana sits down with Hilary Momberger Powers for an honest and deeply human conversation about identity, healing, and what it means to come home to yourself after a life shaped by performance, pressure, and survival. Hilary shares her journey from being a child star in the film industry to becoming a transformative coach devoted to self-acceptance, forgiveness, and emotional free...

In this solo episode of The Reclamation Room , we explore the complex, often misunderstood nature of memory, especially in the context of trauma and narcissistic abuse. Rather than treating memory as a simple replay of facts, I want to invite you to look at memory as a lived, nervous-system-shaped experience. We'll break down how different parts of the brain influence what we store and what we can...

In this episode, Ashana sits down with Melissa Swonger for a powerful and reflective conversation about radical kindness : not as a mood or a moment, but as a way of moving through the world without expectations of reciprocity. Melissa shares her personal story of enduring profound physical suffering alongside psychological and spiritual adversity, and how her healing journey reshaped the way she...

In this episode, I’m exploring something that quietly shapes so many of our relationships but rarely gets named… expectations. Specifically, the unspoken ones. I talk about how expectations often form beneath our awareness, how they’re shaped by past experiences and survival strategies, and why they can create so much confusion, resentment, and conflict when they’re never brought into the light. I...

How much are we controlled by our subconscious minds? This week, Ashana sits down with Matt Johnson, a hypnotherapist and NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) coach, who shares his story of healing from a traumatic brain injury and subsequent PTSD, and sheds light on how deeply intertwined our past traumas are to our present day struggles, even when we don’t realize it. This conversation will defini...

This week, we sit down with the fascinating Dr. Fred Moss and have an honest conversation about the medical community and society’s obsession with overdiagnosis and dependence on medication. Is it entering into a problematic territory? Are there really conditions in which breaking free from reliance on medication is possible? We chat about Dr. Moss’s own “MOSS method” as a new approach to optimizi...

In this episode, Ashana sits down with Heather Melville , Certified Relationship Coach, for a grounded conversation about narcissism, emotional abuse, and healing without getting stuck in extremes. Together, they explore how toxic dynamics often go unnoticed, how self-worth is shaped inside unhealthy relationships, and what it actually means to move beyond victimhood without denying harm. They dis...

In this episode, Ashana sits down with Allison Bishins for an honest conversation about healing after growing up in a cult, reclaiming identity, and the slow, layered process of coming home to yourself. Luna shares their experience of leaving a cult at 22, how indoctrination shaped their sense of self, and what it’s been like to untangle what was taught from what is true. They explore the therapeu...

In this episode, Amy Vincze educates us on EFT Tapping: an emotional release technique that combines energy therapy, cognitive therapy, and somatic therapy. We discuss the importance of pinpointing root fears, the emotional impact of tapping, and how it can help individuals process trauma and improve their mental health. Amy also provides a comprehensive overview of what tapping does to the body o...

This week, we sit down with Emma Lyons, the founder of The Trauma Matrix. Emma discusses the pervasive impact of internalized narcissism and shame in society. She examines how these concepts are deeply rooted in cultural norms and how they affect individual self-esteem and mental health. Emma emphasizes the need to break free from the control of shame and reclaim personal power, advocating for a s...

In this episode of The Reclamation Room, raw authenticity reigns as we meet a guest who is open-hearted and unafraid to confront her past. Ashana and guest Devorah Brinckerhoff candidly explore the profound impact of unresolved trauma, discuss the nuance and complexities of navigating relationships after betrayal, the journey of self-discovery along the way, and the power of art as a therapeutic o...

Brief mention of self-harm is present in this episode. If you or someone you know is struggling or thinking about suicide or facing a mental health crisis, you’re not alone. Help is available 24/7. In the U.S., you can call or text 988 to reach the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline , or chat online at ⁠ 988lifeline.org ⁠ . In this episode of the Reclamation Room, we meet the world-renowned Love Doctor (...

In this episode of The Reclamation Room , I’m sitting down with Wendy Alexander, author of Internal Uprising and founder of Happy Career Hub . Wendy’s story is powerful. She grew up through the worst years of apartheid in South Africa, then moved to Australia where her first job ended in an armed robbery. Later, after escaping an abusive relationship, she started over completely as a single mom. A...

In this episode of The Reclamation Room , I’m talking about the heavy shame that shows up after betrayal, the “how could I have been so stupid,” “why did I trust them,” “I can’t believe I wasted years” kind of shame. I share why those thoughts make sense, how they’re your brain trying to find safety, and why the part of you that loved with an open heart is not the problem. That tender, generous ve...

In this episode of The Reclamation Room , we’re talking about what it really looks like to come home to your body when hormones, thyroid health, and everyday stress have taken a toll. Kate Gregory shares her story of navigating hormone and thyroid challenges, and how learning to listen to her body changed everything. We dive into how thyroid and adrenal health are deeply connected, the pressure wo...

In this episode of The Reclamation Room , we’re getting honest about what it really feels like to handle conflict when you’ve been through narcissistic abuse. It’s not about “winning” or keeping the peace at any cost! It’s about staying grounded, protecting your energy, and choosing what actually serves you. I’ll walk you through the PACE Method , a simple framework to help you move through hard c...

In this episode of The Reclamation Room, I’m sitting down with Amanda Baker to explore a topic that’s at the heart of so many of our healing journeys: the complex relationship between empathy and narcissism. If you’ve ever felt drained, confused, or triggered by someone’s behaviors and wondered why you keep showing up the way you do, this conversation is for you. We get into how both empaths and n...

In this solo episode of The Reclamation Room , I’m diving into one of the most misunderstood (and honestly, probably triggering) parts of healing and relationships: the fine line between setting a boundary, being a doormat, and unconsciously trying to manipulate the other person. If you’ve ever wondered, “Am I holding a boundary or am I being abusive, too?” this one’s for you. We’ll explore how se...