The REALationship Method

Send us Fan Mail Cutting someone off can feel like power and peace at the same time, but it can also be a way to dodge the conversation you’re scared to have. We sit down with Tyler, a preschool educator and aspiring model, and get painfully specific about what people mean when they call someone “toxic” or label a “red flag” and how often those labels get misused when it’s really just discomfort,...

Send us Fan Mail “I’ve never felt emotionally safe.” When Mzeye says that out loud, the whole conversation changes. We go from surface-level dating talk straight into what it means to be the strong one for everyone else, how grief reshapes your nervous system, and why “I can do it alone” can quietly turn into a wall you don’t know how to put down.  We unpack attraction versus emotional depth, emot...

Send us Fan Mail The scariest relationship problems aren’t always the loud ones. Sometimes it’s the quiet drift: two people doing everything for the family, handling life like a checklist, then waking up one day feeling like strangers. Chris sits down with wellness practitioner and fitness coach Lola, founder of Lola’s Vibrant Living, to get honest about why that happens and what actually helps co...

Send us Fan Mail A “good opportunity” can turn into a bad situation fast, especially when money, access, and attention get mixed together. Kacee comes back to talk with us about what changed since the last time we recorded: she’s getting better modeling and influencer marketing gigs, she’s being paid in cash instead of just merch, and she’s learning the hard line between a brand that respects you...

Send us Fan Mail Your dog can embarrass you in a coffee shop, your DMs can expose your boundaries, and your social media can either build your career or drain your peace. We link all of that together with Amari, a Hawaii model and actress who’s also the founder of Baddies of Hawaii, a community built for artists, models, and creators who want support without the drama. We talk about what “baddie”...

Send us Fan Mail A tsunami alert hits your phone and half the neighborhood panics while the other half fires up a barbecue. That’s how this conversation starts, and it only gets more honest from there. Lynn joins me to talk about what it’s really like chasing modeling in Hawaii while staying grounded through storms, social media noise, and the weird stuff that comes with being visible online.  We...

Send us Fan Mail You’ve probably met someone who looks “tough” and assumed they don’t feel much. This conversation flips that myth on its head. I sit down with Hawaii fighter and full-time mom King Katty to talk about what strength actually costs, how boundaries keep you safe, and why emotional pain can be harder to heal than any black eye in the gym. We start with her origin story: running the st...

Send us Fan Mail We hit a milestone and decided to make it personal: Chris brings on his wife, Tiffany Lomboy, for the 100th episode of The REALationship Method, and we go straight into the stuff couples usually talk about after the kids are asleep. Tiffany opens up about caring for her dad after a stroke, what recovery at home really looks like, and the warning signs that made her say, “We’re goi...

Send us Fan Mail Creative momentum doesn’t come from perfect conditions. It comes from saying yes early, learning when to say no, and mastering the details that most people overlook—like how to rescue a high-noon ceremony or coax a genuine smile from a nervous couple. We sit down with two Hawaii-based photographers, Scoot and Mai, to unpack the real playbook for building trust, shaping light, and...

Send us Fan Mail A chance DM turned into a wide-open conversation with model, creator, and early childhood educator Zakaila—Seattle-born, Honolulu-rooted—about building a life that actually fits. She shares how COVID crashed a long-planned world trip, why she pivoted fast to Hawaii, and how that leap brought her back to performance through Tahitian dance, deeper community around music, and a creat...

Send us Fan Mail A one-way ticket, a do-rag, and $200. That’s how Suave landed in Hawaii at 19, betting on instinct, island culture, and the kind of grind most people only romanticize. We dive into the real playbook behind that leap—why he never scripts, how he handles stares in public, and the moment streaming beat short-form videos for deeper connection. We get into the creator trenches with zer...

Send us Fan Mail A rainy city can make you feel alone even when you know everyone. That’s where Benny found himself in Portland—craving real community, steady sunshine, and a way to put faith into practice. One week in Hawaii flipped the script: pounding poi, working in the lo‘i, worship threaded with culture, and mentors who measured belief by service. School opened the door, but the heart of the...

Send us Fan Mail What happens when a bartender at a military-heavy honky-tonk goes viral for a slap and turns it into a professional path? We sit down with Hurricane Tee to unpack the craft behind the chaos—how a novelty “Hurricane Shot” (waiver, your choice of liquor, splash of water) became a crowd favorite, and how consent, clear communication, and safety protocols keep the fun from tipping int...

Send us Fan Mail What happens when sharp style meets sharper self-awareness? We sit down with Rita—EMT by training, quality officer in detox care, and a fearless fashion mind—to explore how identity, community, and emotional intelligence reshape the way we love. Her story cuts through the noise: surviving a back injury, pivoting to teach EMS, leading with compassion in inpatient detox, and steppin...

Send us Fan Mail Fireworks lit the sky, but what really sparked was a candid look at how culture, money, and boundaries shape love. We sit down with Aulani—a behavior-focused counselor and hula performer—to unpack the signals we miss and the standards that save us. From Hawaii’s New Year traditions to why the street is spotless on January 2, we trace how community norms carry into parenting, datin...

Send us Fan Mail First and foremost, excuse the poor sound quality of this episode. My mic malfunctioned and I had to resort to my trusty airpods. Enjoy this special episode with my cousin, Christian! Grief doesn’t end, it reshapes you—and that’s where our conversation begins. We sit down with my cousin Christian to trace a life that spans Seaside party pads, frozen Minnesota mornings, and a late-...

Send us Fan Mail Ever tried to love well while your brain is sprinting and your calendar won’t quit? We dive straight into the messy space where mental health meets relationships—how therapy, self‑awareness, and clean communication can turn chaos into something you can actually build on. With Anu co‑hosting and Sydni from 444 Hawaii in the studio, we get real about hustle culture, single parenting...

Send us Fan Mail A first mic, a sandy shoreline, and a set of hard-won lessons about love and timing—Sage brings a full-life story that hits both the studio and the heart. We dig into how he broke into radio through production, why tedious edits matter more than hot takes, and what it really takes to balance a day job, gym sessions, content, and weekend shifts on Island 98.5. His path is equal par...

Send us Fan Mail What makes someone “from” a place, and what belongs to blood, lineage, and lived experience? We bring that question home with Kea, who grew up in Hawaii, chased opportunity in Texas, and built a marketing career that runs on clarity, guts, and well-earned access. From island casual to mainland dress codes, rice cookers to nightclub NDAs, this conversation is a guided tour through...

Send us Fan Mail Ever wonder how a new model goes from posting beach shots to landing paid shoots and brand trips without losing herself? Kace joins us for a candid, funny, and grounded conversation about building a modeling career from scratch in Hawaii—no agencies, no shortcuts, just consistent posting, smart tagging, and a clear sense of purpose. She walks us through what “pose with a purpose”...

Send us Fan Mail A single compliment in a dish pit changed everything. Kitty Pine walked us through the moment a chef called them the “best dishwasher” he’d ever seen—and how that flipped a switch from surviving to building a life in comedy. What followed wasn’t a straight shot to the spotlight, but a messy, hilarious path across Hawaii, Colorado, and Vegas, with brutal early bombs, a sudden first...

Send us Fan Mail A model, mom, and photographer walks into our studio and refuses to give the safe, surface version of her story. Shyla takes us from beachside test shoots to real castings, through a tough pregnancy and a three‑minute delivery, and into the uneasy middle where postpartum emotions, body changes, and the pressure to “bounce back” collide with the need to create. She opens up about b...

Send us Fan Mail A cool studio, a hotter island, and a conversation that doesn’t flinch. We kick off with jokes about heat and Spam musubi, then Vicky takes us right into the heart of a marriage that never should’ve made it to the aisle—family pressure, fairytale scripts, and the quiet truth that commitment only works when two people are actually ready. From there we tear into modern dating: why “...

Send us Fan Mail What does it really mean to be the "alpha" in your relationships? Alexis Renae, CEO of Role Models 808, brings her unique perspective as both a professional model and dog trainer to this captivating conversation about boundaries, communication, and authenticity. Our discussion takes an unexpected turn when we discover the fascinating parallels between training dogs and m...

Send us Fan Mail What happens when old friends reconnect to discuss the messy, complicated world of modern relationships? In this raw and unfiltered conversation, Chris welcomes his longtime friend Karen (aka "Kare Bear") to explore relationship dynamics that rarely get discussed openly. The episode dives deep into age-gap relationships and the curious double standard that exists - why i...