The REALationship Method

Send us Fan Mail A DM can change your life if you send it with respect and a real purpose. We link up with Yani, a military spouse, mom, and content creator who keeps it unfiltered about what it takes to build a stable home while your zip code keeps changing. From upstate New York to Hawaii, we talk about why travel and culture can be a bigger “flex” for kids than clothes, cars, or clout, and how...

Send us Fan Mail Ghosting, double taps, bar banter, and “I know my worth” quotes can all sound harmless until you’re the one trying to date with real responsibilities. We sit down with Kirsten Ortiz, a single mom and fitness coach, and get honest about what modern dating actually feels like when your time is limited, your standards are higher, and your child comes first. We talk about the unspoken...

Send us Fan Mail A marriage can be strong and still need a reset, and we prove it with a week that packs in everything: a Strong Bonds marriage retreat, Tiff’s birthday, and our 13-year anniversary. We start with the honest stuff, like how mental health can feel like a roller coaster and how we cope without pretending we have it all figured out. Then we get into why doing a retreat or workshop is...

Send us Fan Mail What happens when you take off the crown, the makeup, the sash, and all the expectations—and just talk about being YOU? In this episode of The REALationship Method , Chris sits down with Charieze , a beauty queen and pageant contestant, to go beyond the crown and get real about dating, love, relationships, standards, expectations, and what it’s like navigating romance while pursui...

Send us Fan Mail Dating advice gets weird fast when everyone assumes you must be “talking to someone” just because you’re seen with a man. So we brought Jess on for her first ever podcast and kept it brutally honest: she’s single, she’s never had an official relationship, and she’s not ashamed of it. We talk about what it’s like to be goal-driven in your early 20s while people treat your love life...

Send us Fan Mail People love to talk about “discipline” like it’s just willpower, but the truth is messier: schedules, stress, relationships, and social media all shape how we show up. I sit down with Maka to get real about what it actually takes to protect your me time, stay consistent, and build a career that fits who you’re becoming. We bounce from early mornings and late nights into the deeper...

Send us Fan Mail A song can be a postcard from home or it can be a line in the sand. Kali Flower joins us in person for a super real conversation about coming back to Hawaii, feeling that instant reset, and still carrying the pressure of family expectations, big dreams, and a limited window to see everyone you love. We talk about the questions that always pop up when you visit home, how to show up...

Send us Fan Mail You can tell a lot about a person by what they choose to put on their body and why, but you learn even more when you hear the stories behind it. We link up with Kayla, a Waipahu tattoo artist at Tattoo Crew, a lowrider model, and a mom, for a conversation that bounces from shop life to family life without losing the thread: be real, be intentional, and protect your peace. We talk...

Send us Fan Mail Cutting someone off can feel like power and peace at the same time, but it can also be a way to dodge the conversation you’re scared to have. We sit down with Tyler, a preschool educator and aspiring model, and get painfully specific about what people mean when they call someone “toxic” or label a “red flag” and how often those labels get misused when it’s really just discomfort,...

Send us Fan Mail “I’ve never felt emotionally safe.” When Mzeye says that out loud, the whole conversation changes. We go from surface-level dating talk straight into what it means to be the strong one for everyone else, how grief reshapes your nervous system, and why “I can do it alone” can quietly turn into a wall you don’t know how to put down.  We unpack attraction versus emotional depth, emot...

Send us Fan Mail The scariest relationship problems aren’t always the loud ones. Sometimes it’s the quiet drift: two people doing everything for the family, handling life like a checklist, then waking up one day feeling like strangers. Chris sits down with wellness practitioner and fitness coach Lola, founder of Lola’s Vibrant Living, to get honest about why that happens and what actually helps co...

Send us Fan Mail A “good opportunity” can turn into a bad situation fast, especially when money, access, and attention get mixed together. Kacee comes back to talk with us about what changed since the last time we recorded: she’s getting better modeling and influencer marketing gigs, she’s being paid in cash instead of just merch, and she’s learning the hard line between a brand that respects you...

Send us Fan Mail Your dog can embarrass you in a coffee shop, your DMs can expose your boundaries, and your social media can either build your career or drain your peace. We link all of that together with Amari, a Hawaii model and actress who’s also the founder of Baddies of Hawaii, a community built for artists, models, and creators who want support without the drama. We talk about what “baddie”...

Send us Fan Mail A tsunami alert hits your phone and half the neighborhood panics while the other half fires up a barbecue. That’s how this conversation starts, and it only gets more honest from there. Lynn joins me to talk about what it’s really like chasing modeling in Hawaii while staying grounded through storms, social media noise, and the weird stuff that comes with being visible online.  We...

Send us Fan Mail You’ve probably met someone who looks “tough” and assumed they don’t feel much. This conversation flips that myth on its head. I sit down with Hawaii fighter and full-time mom King Katty to talk about what strength actually costs, how boundaries keep you safe, and why emotional pain can be harder to heal than any black eye in the gym. We start with her origin story: running the st...

Send us Fan Mail We hit a milestone and decided to make it personal: Chris brings on his wife, Tiffany Lomboy, for the 100th episode of The REALationship Method, and we go straight into the stuff couples usually talk about after the kids are asleep. Tiffany opens up about caring for her dad after a stroke, what recovery at home really looks like, and the warning signs that made her say, “We’re goi...

Send us Fan Mail Creative momentum doesn’t come from perfect conditions. It comes from saying yes early, learning when to say no, and mastering the details that most people overlook—like how to rescue a high-noon ceremony or coax a genuine smile from a nervous couple. We sit down with two Hawaii-based photographers, Scoot and Mai, to unpack the real playbook for building trust, shaping light, and...

Send us Fan Mail A chance DM turned into a wide-open conversation with model, creator, and early childhood educator Zakaila—Seattle-born, Honolulu-rooted—about building a life that actually fits. She shares how COVID crashed a long-planned world trip, why she pivoted fast to Hawaii, and how that leap brought her back to performance through Tahitian dance, deeper community around music, and a creat...

Send us Fan Mail A one-way ticket, a do-rag, and $200. That’s how Suave landed in Hawaii at 19, betting on instinct, island culture, and the kind of grind most people only romanticize. We dive into the real playbook behind that leap—why he never scripts, how he handles stares in public, and the moment streaming beat short-form videos for deeper connection. We get into the creator trenches with zer...

Send us Fan Mail A rainy city can make you feel alone even when you know everyone. That’s where Benny found himself in Portland—craving real community, steady sunshine, and a way to put faith into practice. One week in Hawaii flipped the script: pounding poi, working in the lo‘i, worship threaded with culture, and mentors who measured belief by service. School opened the door, but the heart of the...

Send us Fan Mail What happens when a bartender at a military-heavy honky-tonk goes viral for a slap and turns it into a professional path? We sit down with Hurricane Tee to unpack the craft behind the chaos—how a novelty “Hurricane Shot” (waiver, your choice of liquor, splash of water) became a crowd favorite, and how consent, clear communication, and safety protocols keep the fun from tipping int...

Send us Fan Mail What happens when sharp style meets sharper self-awareness? We sit down with Rita—EMT by training, quality officer in detox care, and a fearless fashion mind—to explore how identity, community, and emotional intelligence reshape the way we love. Her story cuts through the noise: surviving a back injury, pivoting to teach EMS, leading with compassion in inpatient detox, and steppin...

Send us Fan Mail Fireworks lit the sky, but what really sparked was a candid look at how culture, money, and boundaries shape love. We sit down with Aulani—a behavior-focused counselor and hula performer—to unpack the signals we miss and the standards that save us. From Hawaii’s New Year traditions to why the street is spotless on January 2, we trace how community norms carry into parenting, datin...

Send us Fan Mail First and foremost, excuse the poor sound quality of this episode. My mic malfunctioned and I had to resort to my trusty airpods. Enjoy this special episode with my cousin, Christian! Grief doesn’t end, it reshapes you—and that’s where our conversation begins. We sit down with my cousin Christian to trace a life that spans Seaside party pads, frozen Minnesota mornings, and a late-...

Send us Fan Mail Ever tried to love well while your brain is sprinting and your calendar won’t quit? We dive straight into the messy space where mental health meets relationships—how therapy, self‑awareness, and clean communication can turn chaos into something you can actually build on. With Anu co‑hosting and Sydni from 444 Hawaii in the studio, we get real about hustle culture, single parenting...