The Queer Confidence Podcast

Stop harming your self-esteem with goal setting. The reason goal setting feels like self-harm and not like self-love is because of why you chose to set your goals. Goal setting is not for the purpose of enjoying the accomplishment of the goal. I mean reaching goals IS fun! But goals are just an excuse to play the game. Setting goals gives you a game to play to have a reason to collect experiences....

What if you change your mindset too much? If you are like me, you might be fearing "what will happen if I change too much? How will I be able to relate to others? Will I lose friends?" And let me just rip the bandaid off for you... the answer is yes. It won't be nearly as bad as you think it will be though. Listen to today's podcast episode to step out of the Matrix in a way th...

What is the most important ingredient for massive success? It's not knowing the right people, knowing how, or having a fail-proof plan. It's your capacity to take risks. Creating massive, blow your mind, holy-shit-am-I-really-capable-of-that? success is ALWAYS preceded by doing something that feels risky. Get full show notes and more info here: https://coachalexray.com/podcast/44 The Que...

This is the shit no one warns you of when you head out on your self-development journey. As you make big leaps and bounds, you WILL hit a progress hangover (many of them). Listen to today's episode to understand the science behind it, and partner with your body through the draining experience. Get full show notes and more info here: https://coachalexray.com/podcast/43 Get on the best email li...

If your current big life goal strategy is filled with a lot of pressure, focus, planning, envisioning, basically anything but pure ease and blissful joy... may I suggest there is a much better and more effective way? My client Keila J. Brown used this method and ended up on Law & Order SVU in less than 2 weeks. Listen on to learn the process for yourself. Get full show notes and more info here...

What do Lady Gaga,🍆  , and my eyeshadow have in common? They're all iconic. What changes the world? Ideas. To become Iconic is to transcend to an idea. Listen now to embody your world-changing idea, and overcome the fear that comes with standing for something powerful. Get full show notes and more info here: https://coachalexray.com/podcast/41 Get on the best email list for building your con...

This perfectionist obsession of yours is not helping your feel like the super talented queen of the world. It's reinforcing your insecurity! Perfectionism makes you feel worse about yourself. It allows you to keep placing the measurement of your value on something external. Today we are changing that. You are actually going to produce BETTER work. Feel better about yourself. And save a whole...

Some of you can take a load, but you can't take a compliment. What's up with that? Truth be told, it is almost impossible to take a compliment when your brain is fundamentally believing the exact opposite about you. Your brain hates to reconsider your self-view. Listen to today's episode to make taking a compliment much easier. Get full show notes and more info here: https://coachal...

Your purpose, your trauma, and your goals all have one commonality. Your sensitivities. Aka, the emotions/feelings that you are most sensitive to as a divine being. In today's episode, I bring on one of my coaches, Mike Iamele, an expert on sensitivities. Once you hear today's conversation, you'll know how to feel fulfilled in anything you do, accept your trauma, and flip your persp...

In today's episode, I want you to think about raising your internal, life thermostat. The objective of this episode is to start seeing your queerness as not something to be ashamed of, hidden, or dismissed, but rather something that truly demonstrates your divinity. Get full show notes and more info here: https://coachalexray.com/podcast/37 Get on the best email list for building your confide...

If you feel unable to access your creativity, or you feel afraid to show up as your full, authentic, iconic-work-of-art self, you've got an inner child sweatshop going on. And child labor is illegal for a reason! Your inner child is in charge of your creativity, and if they feel unsafe, they won't produce... well, they might produce, but it's a very frustrating process and takes way...

Something I've noticed in our LGBTQIA+ community is that we are very empathetic. It comes from a place of love and wanting to help each other. BUT, it's actually doing more damage than it is helping. Empathy is accompanied by pity. Compassion empowers. Listen to today's episode to empower yourself AND every other human you come in contact with. Get full show notes and more info here...

If you aren't experiencing love, you try to fix it by adjusting your behavior. Which may kinda work... for a little bit. But you certainly don't feel loved when you stop being authentic to get love. In today's podcast episode, I'll explain how the love you get from others isn't based on you, but rather on their ability to love you. You'll come away with everything you...

“Perspective is everything.” But what does that even mean? And how do you actually change it? In today’s episode, you'll get to hear how my first official pilot lesson, teaching my cousin how to drive, and working out at a mile high altitude are the perfect explanation for overcoming stress, anxiety, and depression. I'm even taking you to the dreaded topic of vaccines so you can feel cal...

I just got back from vacation in Arizona and I am full of unexpected lessons for you. In today's episode, I teach you how to have more compassion for your edges as you grow in your self-acceptance. And you'll find out how the heck pruning a mesquite tree while grandma mowed the lawn (a lawn in the desert? wtf?) can help you become more confident. Get full show notes and more info here: h...

You are more intuitive than you think. Everyone is born with intuition, you've just learned to quiet it because... society. Maybe it just doesn't seem adult and logical enough. Or maybe you were silenced as a kid when you had intuitive messages. Logic is overrated. You'd make decisions so much faster if you leaned into your intuition instead of overthinking everything. Let's sa...

"Be yourself" is probably the most overused inspirational phrase ever. If it were that easy, we'd all be doing it. I used to get so discouraged hearing people tell me that. Being yourself is not easy. It is the most frightening way to be. But it is also the most freeing. In today's episode, I share with you a simple, doable process you can use to keep being more authentically y...

Contrary to what you might think, your inner child has the most significant pull in your life. They might not fully run the show, but they can put the breaks on anything you're doing that feels unsafe to them. If you want to have an easier time achieving any life goal, you need to start by communicating with your inner child. In today's episode, you'll get the 5 tools I teach all my...

Feeling triggered is actually an opportunity to create a safer environment for your inner child. You've got many ways you can respond when triggered, but only one thing makes you feel safe/unsafe: How you talk to your inner child. Your inner child needs to feel heard in order to feel safe. Feeling triggered isn't a problem. It's an opportunity. Listen to today's episode to open...

Beliefs are like lenses. They determine how you see yourself, other people, and the world. Your level of confidence is based on those beliefs. On today’s episode you’ll learn 25 beliefs that are guaranteed to boost your confidence. One warning though, do not use these beliefs against yourself. If they don't feel true yet, that's ok! Don't beat yourself up about it. Go back to episod...

Do you ever have an emotional response that you know is not logical, but you just can't seem to do anything differently? For me one of those areas was money. I felt fear every time I looked at, thought about, tried to plan money. Logic doesn't work because it doesn't respect your inner child who is afraid and unfortunately much stronger than your inner logical adult. Today I'm...

Do you ever feel like you can't relate to others unless you are sharing some type of trauma with them? Does it ever feel like a competition to see who is the most traumatized? When we have unprocessed trauma, we bond to it. It becomes part of our identity. And then we bond with others using the same types of trauma. These bonds are what keep you and our community held back. Today, you'll...

Did you know you don't always have to be improving? You can actually take a breather for a minute. Today I want to simply give you permission to be human. To embrace all that is beautiful about you. AND all that is ugly about you. If you're exhausted from the self-judgement and self-development, this episode is for you. Get full show notes and more info here: https://coachalexray.com/pod...

The reason we feel like we don't belong is not because of the ass holes out there (although they aren't helping 🙄). Even in the LGBTQIA+ community there is lots of exclusion. But lack of acceptance is not why we don't feel like we belong. Belonging is a feeling and therefor it's created by our own thoughts. And we are actually capable of feeling it anywhere we go. Get full sho...

If you want to become your most authentic self and your most powerful self, you need to know how to access both your masculine and feminine energies. All humans have access to masculine and feminine energy. We as the queer community are leading the way in how we break down the roles of gender in society. And because of this, we are actually set up to have the most complete and confident human expe...