The Pretty Uncomfortable Podcast

You were watching a movie the other night. And there was that super sexy scene...you know the one I'm talking about. The one that made you feel all tingly, that made you feel curious, made you think, "hmmm, I want to try THAT!" And now you are wondering- how can you ask your partner for this without being embarrassed. Or maybe you're with someone you just met at the bar. You want to tell them ther...

There are times in life that things just get...hard. Hard to stay positive. Hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel. Hard to feel like you can make it through. And then the internet tells you that you are not doing enough. Just meditate. Read that popular self-help book. Change your mindset. Practice gratitude. Get outside more. Focus on the good things. Journal. Meanwhile, you're just tryi...

It's easy to fake an orgasm. We can make it pretty believable, I promise. Oh, you don't believe me? Go watch this classic scene from When Harry Met Sally. Go on, I'll wait.  Ok, you're back. See? I told you so. But here's the problem, when we fake it all we're doing is tricking our partners into thinking they are hitting all the right spots. They walk away feeling heroic. The Master of O's. And so...

You look in the mirror. You take a second look. You think "dammmmn" as you admire your reflection. And then you immediately feel guilty. You think, "I can't act like I'm a hottie, what will people think?"  It has been ingrained in many of us that to shine bright is equivalent to showing off. That we should not proudly present those parts of ourselves that we feel good about, whether that is our ap...

The B-Sides...where I take content from the cutting room floor of the previous episode to share in a mini-episode. Episode 15, The B-Sides: In episode 15 we talked about if size matters. I touched on the fact that we also judge on another aspect of a man's size...his height. In this companion episode I expand on that, and what the dating world looks like for men as they are judged not just for pen...

After years and years of feeling insecure about my bra size, I scheduled an appointment with a plastic surgeon. And just like that, I had new boobs. I could suddenly feel more confident and comfortable in my appearance.  But what happens if you aren't happy with the size of your penis? There is no easy solution, no quick fix. And so maybe you worry that you aren't enough. Maybe you are insecure wi...

The B-Sides...where I take content from the cutting room floor of the previous episode to share in a mini-episode. Episode 13, The B-Sides: The nerves of telling a new partner about your positive herpes status. The surprise of him waking up after a date and he has a coldsore. The worry that, after planning a sleepover date, you have to tell him that you are having an outbreak and therefore sex wou...

You get coldsores. One pops up, and you get annoyed. Maybe you even vent about it to a friend or a coworker. And then it goes away. And you don't think about it again. You don't think it's a big deal. And you certainly don't think you need to tell a prospective sexual partner about the nuisance coldsores that you occasionally get.  Except those coldsores? They are just a socially acceptable name f...

Ahhhhh, the blowjob. Men love it, and the givers? Well...for many, they'd rather go clean the baseboards than take part in this timeless sexual act.  From a former BJ-hater to a proud Throat Goat, I want to show you that BJs don't have to be, and SHOULDN'T be, a chore. I want you to WANT to give them just as much as your partner wants to receive them. Because honestly? Can you imagine if our partn...

Ahhhhh, the blowjob. Man's best friend. The act that, for many men, kicked off not just their journey towards sex, but also something that has become one of the most expected sexual acts to receive.  The problem? Not everyone on the giving side of things has the same enthusiasm to give as the men do to receive. And I want to change that. I was once a partner that would avoid the BJ at all costs. Y...

*listen, if you don't see what I did there with the title, I'm not sure that we can be friends. Anyways, on to the episode..... Hello, my name is Tera and I will pretend like everything is ok, even when I am drowning in the darkness. Because unless I LET you see it, my struggle is almost completely invisible.  This episode is the most raw that I have ever gotten with you. I discuss finding myself...

My naked body is all over the internet. Doing naked body things. The internet is a cruel place, so it would be a safe assumption that in all that nakedness, the exposure would become exceptionally damaging to my mental health. My perspective on the topic may be unexpected; I am here to tell you that the world of porn, both watching it and being an active participant in it, has helped me to overcom...

You see a woman in high heels. It makes that little heart of yours go pitter patter. You realize you want to see MORE feet in heels. And before you know it, a kink is born. But now, while your heart is going pitter patter, your brain is starting to question itself. Is this normal? Am I normal for liking this? Now your heart is starting to race for a different reason. Fear. Worry. Doubt.  In this c...

Are you feeling nauseous as you scroll through social media during Valentine's Day and all that you are seeing is love, Love, LOVE? Are you feeling slightly bitter while you watch your co-worker receive a dozen roses? Yet you also are independent and usually quite happy rocking your single status, so what's with these feelings?? Fear not! You are not betraying your independence, you're just being...

You have one. I have one. All of our cute little bums hold the potential to have some amazing orgasms...but oof. That taboo, right? The shittiest part (sorry, I couldn't help myself) of anal play is the stigma and taboo attached to it.  Maybe you have been too nervous to discuss it with your partner. Maybe you have told yourself you will absolutely never try it, simply because of the attached tabo...

You're told you have herpes. It feels like your life is over. Will you ever have sex again? Will anyone ever want to date you if they know? Is your dating life completely OVER? I'm here to tell you...ABSOFUCKINGLUTELY NOT. Your dating life does not need to suffer simply because you have an astonishingly common virus. I'm here to drop a big bomb on you....having herpes doesn't make you special. It...

"You're a slut." Has anyone ever said that to you? Or have you said it to someone else?  I have been shamed for my sexual experiences, and as hard as it is to admit, I have also been the one doing the shaming. Who gets to decide what a slut is? What number of sexual partners suddenly switches you from "acceptable" to slut? In this episode I discuss my own experiences with being shamed for my decis...

Let's explore the difference between not understanding or not liking something, versus creating judgement and shame towards a person.  Through my explorations and experiences in dating I have been able to evolve from being a person that was incredibly judgmental into someone that thoroughly enjoys things I never would have imagined. In this episode I share some of my own kinks as well as sharing h...

A first Tinder date created a torn vagina, which led to an emergency surgery and BOOM! The name Tera Vee was born! In this episode I share with you the hilarious, if not slightly embarrassing, story that showcases the origins of my porn name. After years of celibacy, I went on a Tinder date. And then, in a ridiculous turn of events, I experienced a nightmarish complication from a surgery that I ha...

Welcome to the premier episode! Why the fuck should you even listen to me? I'm here to show you that it is ok to talk about our struggles, and talk about the stuff that might be uncomfortable. I want you to know you have a safe space where we can talk about sex, dating, STIs, mental health, KINKS! This is your safe space to dive into the dirty and realize you are not alone! *also be sure to catch...

Welcome to the Pretty in Kink podcast trailer. We are going to be exploring the awkward side of sexy, the sweet side of dirty, and the beauty in the mess of that thing that we call life. Let me be your new safe word. Be sure to follow @PrettyInKink on Instagram to stay up to date!