The Potential State Podcast

In this episode I talk about how to not let our fears from our own prejudices and stereotypes blind us into not interacting or seeing.  I share several examples on how my determination to 'radically accept' everyone and everything actually blinded me from seeing certain truths. The episode concludes with some tips how to practice ownursh!t and be respectful of others WHILE maintaining yo...

In this talk, I explain the merits of self-talk for your mind, your soul, your life, for your loved ones and the world. The video details five benefits of talking to your self and includes examples. Practical tips are given to ease your way into effective self-talk. Recorded live on FB. www.potentialstate.com https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-other-side-relationships http://podcast.pot...

In this episode I'll explain why being nice can slowly kill relationships and create boredom in your life. I'll detail the benefits of 'saying the thing' and 'following the fear' and how that can lead to deeper, more vital relationships. The episode concludes with some practical tips on how to introduce more honesty to your relationships in a generative way. recorded...

Being in a committed, long-term relationship is like a marathon. You need to allow yourself to feel the whole range of feelings, from Love to Hate. Once you allow yourself to truly hate your partner, your heart can open to truly loving your partner. Then you almost always will hit the 'wall', as I did in the 32nd kilometer, and that is the point where the relationship is at it's low...

In this episode we explore why choosing to be insulted is the ultimate block in relationships. How does it ironically maintain our sense of superiority while de-valuating the other? We will see some examples from the clinic and life. Tips are given on  how can you choose otherwise for the sake of your relationships. Recorded live on Facebook. see the videos on our YouTube channel:  https://www.you...

Can the apple fall far from the tree? Which behaviors and values did we inherit from our parents and what can we do about it? In this talk I will explain several theories of inter-generational transmission of scripts so you can better understand how you are operating. Examples are given from the clinic and my life. Practical tips will help you find ways in which you expand your repertoire in your...

In this episode I introduce a fresh approach to (systematic) female empowerment, which focuses not only on your strengths but also your shadow/faults, in order to generate a second-order change in your environment.  The episode includes examples from my work with women in psychotherapy, improvisation and educational settings.  The episode concludes with some tips on how to empower yourself and you...

Why do we insist on being perfect and having all the data before we can say or do something? How does that block us from creating collaborative, creative encounters? In this episode I explore the connection between blocking and perfectionism, with examples from the world of supervision and psychotherapy. The episode includes practical tips how you can release yourself from the perfectionism trap a...

In this episode, I describe and analyze about the tragic 'pursuer/distancer' dynamic in relationships, when one partner is constantly pursuing the other for more intimacy, connection or sex. The more s/he pursues, the more the partner creates distance. I show why and how people create and maintain such dynamics. The episode ends with practical tips on how to liberate yourself and your lo...

In this episode I explain why simple, clear, one-dimensional communication can aid in personal and relational growth. By communicating clearly, I solidify my own character and sense of self, as well as helping the other understand where I stand so s/he can solidify their own position. This process creates deep, authentic connections. The episode also include some practical tips on how to clarify y...

In this talk I'll share concepts from the world of psychotherapy and theater improvisation that relate to building intimate encounters, from a place of self-exposure and self-validated intimacy. The episode includes practical tips that will help you build more authentic, long lasting intimate personal and professional relationships.  Recorded Live on Facebook. www.potentialstate.com https://w...

In this episode I'll describe the characteristics of systems (personal and professionals). Then I'll explain how change can be manifested within such systems . I'll give some examples from the clinic, organizations and personal examples. The episode concludes with some practical instructions how to lead long-lasting change you want in your life with the people around you. Recorded L...

Do you find yourself acting in and attracting to your life victims, persecutors and/or saviors? In this talk we will learn about the Victim Triangle, how it is formed and how does it attract to your life people with similar tendencies in relationships. We will explore examples from the worlds of psychotherapy, organizational consultations and even the army. The talk ends with practical tips on how...

In this episode I describe the concept of Emotional Bids as developed by John Gottman. I compare it with the concept of bidding in theater improvisation and give examples how understanding these concepts can improve your relationships. Practical tips are described in the end for immediate application. Recorded live on Facebook. www.potentialstate.com https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-o...

What is the Potential State? How does it serve in children's development? Why is it crucial to preserve for kids? Why is it crucial for adults? How do you create and maintain potential states in your life? In this talk, we expand the topic discussed in the previous episode with many examples from the clinic, workshops and my life. Recorded live on Facebook. Support the show

Why are we afraid of Anger? In this episode we will explore why anger is an important feeling/energy to harness.  We will explore a new thinking about aggression and how sometimes "Saying no to someone else is actually saying yes to myself". I share examples from the clinic and workshop of people who are limiting themselves because they are not allowing themselves to be angry. I read in...

People often ask me “why did you call your institute  Potential State?” In this talk I describe the concept of potential state and why it is so important for children and adults to be able to create and maintain potential state in their lives in order to play,  grow,  feel, create and love. Examples are given from the clinic and my life. Practical tips will help you create and deepen potential sta...

Most of us believe that we are special and unique. What happens when this part of ourselves becomes a core belief? In this talk I expalin the costs of being Superman/Superwoman, through examples from the clinic. I share practical tips how to help yourself let go of your "superhero" perception in order to enjoy more authentic relationships. www.potentialstate.com https://www.psychologytod...

Why do we refuse sometimes to see what is actually happening in our relationships? What is risk and gain of daring to 'open our eyes' and see the reality of our relationships? In this talk I expalin why we keep ourselves blind and how to over come it. Examples are given from the clinic and my personal life. www.potentialstate.com https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-other-side-r...