The Positivity Xperience

Codepependency isn't just depending on your partner, family or friend for your emotional needs.  It has many layers that you may not realize falls under codependency.  The need to "fix" or "rescue" also falls under the codependency umbrella.   Childhood and other events can be the root to where the codependency starts but not the excuse to not work through it.  It may seem scary and isolating in t...

Judgment of others is a normal part of being a human but only when you see the situation as it is as decide if it aligns with you.  When however you try to understand their why and judge them in a superior way it creates a habit of looking for the negative in others and in self. Acceptance that others are not you and do not have to respond as you would is a great place to focus.   Become A Patreon...

Triggers are something that we all experience but you don't have to remain a prisoner to avoiding those triggers.  Some triggers are not as obvious as others but you will typically have a pretty consistent emotional response which is a good indicator of a trigger.  It's important to not hate the triggers.  They are a valuable tool to understand where you need to focus your energy on additional hea...

Multiple decisions and having enourmous amounts of options leads to overwhelm and procrastination.  Micro goals become that much more effective with you have less options to micro goal.   Putting in the time and effort in the immediate lends to a less stressful longterm.  Planning your day the night before, prepping your clothes for the week and minimilizing all your options will decrease the risk...

Radical acceptance is just as it sounds.  Radically accepting that it is what it is and that what has happened has happened.  You may not like someone's lifestyle or behavior but its not for you to like or dislike.  When you accept its not you condoning something, it is releasing the attachement that you have developed. Working on distress tolerance and processing your feelings by actually feeling...

Are you living with intentions?  Intentions are a foundation to self love and manifestations.  To live intentionally comes with releasing what no longer serves you and accepting that you have to reevaluate your goals and belief systems on the regular.   Manifestation comes with the understanding as though you already have it.  Not out of desperation and desire.   Become A Patreon  Socials, service...

Non attachment is appreciating things, people and circumstances as they are and not attaching an expecation to the outcome.  This isn't something that is achieved overnight since trauma leads to attachment styles and issues. Things to help with non attachment are: meditation, acceptance, mindfulness and self love.  The daily wellness practice allows you to love and appreciate withouth the need to...

Burn out isn't just work related.  Burn out can also mimick depression and anxiety or at the least emphasise it.  You are not a machine and can't do it all so stop trying.  Accept that you can be burned out by overextending who you are.  You are NOT defined by the role that you play in life. You get no special awards for burning the midnight oil all week.  It also breeds hostility towards others w...

The definition of a boundary in the dictonary: ....a line that marks the limits of an area; a divding line. This is something to remind yourself of when developing and establishing your boundaries.  Think of that dividing line and the limits in which you need to establish a healthy boundary that originates withing\ and for yourself.  To establish a boundary you must first know what it is that your...

What if this doesn't work, what if I live alone for the rest of my life & What if they cheat on me are just a few examples of what if catostrophic thinking.   While linked to OCD, anxiety and depression doesn't mean that you have to struggle with this forever but you do have to want to release the control and need to know.   In order to do that you have to redirect those thoughts to the OPPOSITE o...

Self love is a love like no other.  It is the most fulfilling love you will ever know in your life.  You read the meme's and do the things to work towards that feeling but do you beleive that you deserve it?   You have to start at the basics with self love of accepting that you are in control of that love and you alone can provide that for yourself.    The voices inside your head that tells you th...

Grounding is  a technique in which you allow yourself to be connected to that moment in time and connected to breath. When you allow yourself to stay in the moment with the understanding that you control and own nothing then you are operating from a neutral energy and can allow for abundance.  When you are mindful of the present moment, the thoughts of the past and future do not exist in that spac...

Low self esteem is something that holds you back from living a peaceful life.  You focus on the negative and what you aren't doing and how you may be "less than"  Low self esteem is a huge root cause to transactional relationships and fear of taking risks.    To switch the narrative of the negative talk you have to focus on the things that you ARE good at.  I promise you are good at something.  Be...

Who are you seems like an easy question until you strip yourself of the titles and labels you are attached you.  To know who you are you need to discover what your own beliefs are not what others have told you to believe of yourself.  The introspective work attached to this question also allows you to start to rewrite that narrative and default that has been instilled over your lifetime. www.thepo...

There are 4 main attachment styles.  The goal is to settle in secure attachment where you are balanced and confident.  There are three other types of attachments that create codependency, negativity, avoidance and other traits that contribute to unhealthy realtionships.   You are not destined to stay in a negative style unless you choose to stay there.  You style may wander through all of them exc...

Procrastination is not you being lazy, it is your lack of a system that creates the overwhelming feeling and lack of inspiration.  Focusing on on the goal and not the process is what makes the task feel undesirable.   When you have a system that is specific to the task it becomes an automatic routine.  Microgoals are the elixer that prevents procratination and allows for better time management.  ...

Religious trauma is a contributing factor of your social and emotional maturity, feelings of guilt and shame, adult relationships and so much more.  You can only believe what you were taught in your childhood but you have the ability to rewrite those beliefs.   It is especially traumatic when you are told that if you belive or live differently that you will burn in hell and may lose the community...

Failure, mistakes and the unkown is not a scary place but rather a place of redirection and opportunity.  Perfection is always rooted in insecurity and the need of approval and usially a big road block of you taking the risks to provide you with that direction. Fear of failing isn't even your stuff that you are carrying.  When you realize that failure and mistakes WILL continue to happen to help g...

We attached emotions to various situations that happen in our life. One of the biggest tools I learned on my own healing journey was "It is what it is".  This practice has and continues to allow me to process my feelings and emotions without attaching it to a situation.   It's a practice that requires patience and consistency.  Your feelings are ALWAYS valid to YOU and this practice allows for you...

Feelings and emotions while two different things can be dibilitating if you don't focus on allowing yourself to feel them so you may process them.  Feelings can take on the illusion as facts but feelings are the perception of facts to the person having them.  Regardless of how painful they can be, labeling and processing them is how you release the hold that they have over you. Let's chat about it...

Ego is actually how we live our lives.  We have the ID, Ego and Super Ego.  When they all work well together that helps us navigate through life.  When however we allow the ID Ego to take over, we allow that negative part of the ego to rule your entire focus and mindset.  In order to release ego you must first come to terms with the fact that you have no control over anything except your mindset....

Three types of people to surround yourself with to help elevate your vibe.  The Supporter, The Boundary Respector and The Inspirer.  You must also be those three things for yourself first and extend that same energy to those around you. If you do not have these people around you, its a good indicator to not only revaluate your circle but to focus on your own self love and growth. NEW PATREON episo...

Releasing the need to have control over situations, things and people requires nurturing of your mindset and perspective.  By enhancing and nurturing your mindset, your desire to control the unknown deminishes.   The things you think you control is actually controlling you. What you are chasing, you will always chase and what you run from with always chase you.  Mindfulness and acceptance that eve...

If you are an empath you know the difficulties of protecting your peace.  While difficult it is not impossible as long as you are willing to accept that its not your job to actually absorb other peoples stuff.    Empaths need structure and boundaries and a place to process what they are experiencing.   The ability to distiguish the difference between other peoples pain and your own will allow you...

To develop self love is to release the limited belief system that your parents, friends and social media has given you.  You can't fully love yourself while trying to please everyone even if you were told that that is what you need to do.   Allowing yourself the space to restructure your thoughts to be yours and not everyone else does take time and effort but the journey IS the progress and the re...