The Porn Addict's Wife

Happy Valentine's Day!! Let's talk about love languages! SO many women are convinced that they give and receieve love in a certain way...and I'm going to talk about that today. Join me as I talk about what love languages are, how they can often be misused and why it's so important to be aware of your brain and how it thinks about love languages.  Join me for Coach Week! It's a week of free coachin...

Have you noticed that sometimes you tend to blame someone else for how you are feeling? "I'm upset because he...", "I'm frustrated when you...". This is called using an emotional scapegoat. Join me today as I dive into what this means, why it's so important to recognize and how to change it!  I'm launching a new class inside my coaching program on February 17 called Intentional Intimacy. If you wa...

Is there something you see in your life that you wish you saw differently? Perhaps it's the way you see your husband or the way you think about your kids or your job. Today I am going to talk about why changing your perspective is so important and give you 5 tips/tools to help you do it that apply to any situation. 

Today I have my favorite guest (My husband Rob) joining me and going through some of the most frequently asked questions we get about his addiction and his recovery. He talks about what helped him the most, how he sees life differently now, and what he did to completely recover. Plus, there are a few great announcements you won't want to miss!

Do you feel like you are just going through the motions? Like you are meant to have a life that is more than what you have but you don't know how to get it? I have the answer for you today! Join me as I talk about the way to get the life that you want and HOW to create it. It's not a secret. It just takes a little focus and some intentionality. It's totally doable.  Come join coaching and I will h...

Connecting with your spouse when he's addicted to pornography and you wish he weren't isn't easy. And learning how to communicate in that framework isn't easy. That is why I am so excited to bring you this conversation I had with Sam Tielemans! Sam is a licensed marriage and family therapist and works specifically with couples who are working to conquer pornography addiction. Ladies, if you are st...

We tend to not deal with our emotions. But the problem with this is that then we store them. And we compartmentalize them, thinking that if they look neat and tidy, then we will deal with them later (Or maybe we won't have to). But, eventually, if you don't deal with your emotions, you run out of storage. Just like your email account, you have a certain capacity for storage that, once you hit, you...

Want to know the secret to actually accomplishing all of your resolutions for 2022? Here it is: you've been doing it all backwards so far. Today I am going to explain a concept to you called Be Do Have. And it is going to completely change how you think about the way you approach your life and your goals. We usually approach life with the attitude of Have Do Be. Once I HAVE the body/money/marriage...

Where does God fit in to all of this? To me, it's like asking where Jesus fits into Christmas. The answer is the same: He is the reason for all of it. Join me today as I discuss how God fits in and how the miracles we want may not be the miracles we are getting...and expecting certain miracles might make us miss the ones we have.  Merry Christmas, ya'll! I love you!

Ladies! I have a new offer! You can now join my program at ANY time AND get lifetime access to all content and coaching! Listen in as I talk about what the program looks like and why it's changing and why I am SO excited about it!! Come join me today by heading to my website!

Just like an addict follows a physical addiction cycle, as the porn addict's wife, we often follow an emotional addiction cycle right along with it. If you feel like you are constantly "triggered" by his addiction and don't know how to get out of it, this is for you. In this episode I break down the cycle AND how to break it!  Join me for my FREE 3 day training: "More Than the Porn Addict's Wife"...

I am so thrilled to bring you this interview I did with Brock Bevell! He is a retired police officer who struggled with an opioid addiction and a pornography addiction and he now helps other men conquer their own addictions! In this episode, he and I sit down and he gives an inside look at pornography addiction from the point of view of the addict and breaks down the addiction cycle. Go listen to...

I often hear, "I'm broken". And, once upon a time, I felt that way too. But it's not true. Today I am going to show you why it's so important to change that thought and offer you a new one-one that has been extremely powerful for me. This thought helped me open up the future so that I could see that there was possibility and hope even during my husband's pornography addiction. Join me today and I'...

Want to know the key to actually creating the life you want instead of reacting to it? Step 1: Create Space. Today I am going to tell you exactly what this means, why it's so important, the beliefs you need to adopt to make it happen AND how to actually create those needed beliefs! This is not life coaching 101. This is the next level. This is taking everything you have learned on the podcast so f...

Do you ever find yourself overreacting? Exploding about something you aren't even that upset about, it's just the last thing to set you off? We all do it. This is what happens when you suppress your emotions-they often transfer to something else. In this episode I'm going to explain what this is, why it happens, and how to stop doing it. If you want to learn how to stop exploding, this is the one...

Not only is it important to become aware of our feelings, its important to become aware of the thoughts we have ABOUT our feelings. The way you approach your emotions can radically alter the way you experience them. On the podcast today I am going to go over some very common thoughts that my clients have about emotions and offer you some alternatives that will hopefully help you approach your emot...

Let's say you want to trust your husband again-how do you do it? Today I'm going to offer a new concept to you: conscious trust. We often think that trust is something that is earned, and that is felt based on the actions of others. But I want to counter that today with another option-one that doesn't leave you at the mercy of someone else's decisions. Trust is something you can feel anytime you w...

Buffering is anything that we do to distract ourselves from how we are feeling. It is the buffer we place between  ourselves and our emotions. In many cases, these buffers look like scrolling Instagram, or texting, or playing video games. Other times, these buffers are concentrated, false pleasures that mimic natural pleasures, like pornography and concentrated sugar. Today I'm going to teach you...

My daughter broke her arm and had to have surgery this weekend: unexpected. And as I was spending countless hours in various hospitals, I began to look at the way our brain responds to unexpected circumstances (for example, a husband's pornography addiction). In this episode, I break down a few of the ways our brain responds and how to combat it when it isn't the most helpful thing. I hope ya'll e...

Overcoming beliefs is a simple, 5 step process. Not easy. But simple. And when you learn how to apply it to any belief (including the one we all have of "I am not enough", it is life changing. In this episode I am breaking down that 5 step process that I teach in my coaching program and illustrating how it works with the example of this belief. I am also showing you how your brain is strengthening...

As a follow up to the most recent episode, here is a conversation I had with my husband about the relationship between pornography addiction and sex. He breaks down his side of how they are not the same, how he experienced them during his addiction, and how he came to understand the difference between the two. We talk about how it affected us sexually and emotionally and how that has evolved durin...

Buckle up, ladies, this is a good one. It's very common for you to think that your husband's pornography addiction is about you. But today I'm going to tell you WHY you think that and WHY it's not true. Take some notes and be sure to subscribe to the podcast because there will be a follow up bonus episode with my husband about this very topic that will be releasing this week!  Want to get on the w...

Over the years I have found that there are 3 main keys that, if developed, will help you move forward from your husband's porn addiction faster than anything else. The best news is that each of these are internal characteristics that YOU can develop and they are completely free! So join me today as I discuss what they are and why they are so crucial to getting unstuck and moving forward.  Don't mi...

I am SO excited to bring you a conversation I had with my client Monica! She was gracious and honest and open and is sharing what her experience was like finding out about her husband's pornography addiction, how she and I came to work together, her journey with therapy, and the biggest hurdles she struggled to overcome regarding her husband's addiction. I hope y'all can find some hope and wisdom...

Is pornography addiction infidelity? Join me today as I take a deep dive into this question and answer it-probably not in the way you'd expect. I go through the reasons our brain wants to believe that addiction to pornography is infidelity, why it's not serving you to do so, and offer a few thoughts that could change the entire direction you choose to take. Buckle up for this tough one ladies! Don...