The Porn Addict's Wife

How do you look at yourself? How do you perceive yourself and see yourself in your life? Do you even know why it matters? Join me today as I discuss the concept of self-perception and why it is so important to become aware of and master in your own life. Simple shifts inside your mind can add up to immeasurable change! Don't forget to register for Coach Week! Join me for a free week of coaching fr...

Today I am going to give you look at one of the 5 main tools I teach in my coaching program: Self Acceptance. It sounds basic, and perhaps it is, but it is the one that can propel you forward if you can master it. This is learning how to accept where you are without judging yourself for it. As humans, we have a lot of judgement for our thoughts and our feelings, and all that does is prevent us fro...

Today I'm diving into what it means to be self aware. And it's not what we normally think about it. Join me as I talk about what it looks like, and why it is such an important skill to develop.  Don't forget to register for Coach Week! Simply click here to sign up for an entire week of free coaching! Ready to move forward and put this behind you once and for all? Let's get you signed up for coachi...

Have you ever thought "I can't believe this is happening to me?" or "I never thought he would do this to me?" or "He is not the man I thought he was"? That could be because your brain is in a state of disbelief and/or disillusionment. Today I am talking all about why our brain likes to have these thoughts, why it's important to change it and HOW to do so.  Come join me for coach week! Register tod...

The things that we believe run our lives. Our brain is constantly looking for evidence to prove ourselves right so it is always looking for confirmation that what we already believe is true. For example, if we believe that our husband is hiding something from us, our brain will constantly be on the lookout for proof that he's being secretive and sneaky. Your brain will always find evidence to soli...

I processed a lot of emotion the last few days and as I did so, I allowed myself to see all the lies my brain likes to believe about myself. It wasn't pretty. So I wanted to share what that was like and how I worked through it. I hope it helps.  Ladies, if you are feeling stuck, allow me to help you. Sign up for a free consultation call today and I will get on the phone with you and talk about how...

Have you ever wanted to just let go but you can't seem to? Like, no matter how hard you try, you just want to hold on tighter to what your husband is choosing to do? Like you can't seem to let go of the need you have to control what he is doing? That's what today is all about. Today I will talk about why we have a hard time letting go and HOW to actually do it. Yes, it can be done. I can teach you...

Part of us wants to be the reason he stops. We want to be enough for him to quit. We want so badly to do enough, be enough, help enough so that he can overcome his addiction to pornography. Unfortunately, that is never going to work. Join me today as I walk you through WHY your brain wants to think this way, why it won't work, and what you can do about it.  The next group is starting on October 11...

Join me on this special bonus episode today as my husband Rob and I talk about how my healing journey impacted him (and how it didn't!). We share what it looked like for him to see me hurting and what it was like for him to see me heal. Enjoy! The next group for coaching begins on October 11! There are only 10 spots and they will fill up so enroll today! Schedule a free consultation call with me t...

What do you "need" in your relationship? Do you "need" your spouse to tell you he loves you? Do you "need" to have trust or vulnerability? Do you "need" to not harbor feelings of resentment or bitterness? Today, I'm going to dive into why we develop these beliefs about what we "need" in relationships and how that can actually be hurting us. I want to encourage you to take a listen with an open min...

Do you have a hard time making decisions in your life? Allow me to explain a few things that go on in your brain that might be factoring into that! Your brain will always be motivated by a few things and that will push the way you make decisions. Follow along today to learn how your brain makes decisions and how you can observe it and change it!   

We have a lot of thoughts about lying-especially when our husband is the one doing the lying. Today I am diving into common thoughts and beliefs we have about lying and how that affects the way we heal from our husband's pornography addiction. This is a good one ladies! Buckle up for some tough thoughts!  Ladies, if you are loving the podcast, please go leave a rating and review! I want to know wh...

What does it mean to be free? What does that look like in real life? What does it look like to be free from your husband's pornography addiction or from other circumstances that you can't control? And how do you achieve it? Today I am going to answer all those questions and more. Freedom is possible. And you don't need anything to change in order to make it a reality.  Happy Independence Day every...

When we resist negative emotion, we simultaneously close ourselves off to positive emotion. And our brain wants to resist any change that is outside of our comfort zone-even if it's positive. Learning how to feel and allow positive emotion in your life is going to expand your life SO much! Join me today as I walk you through examples of how allowing positive emotion can change your life and I'll g...

Today I am going to teach you the most simple tool that will have the most profound impact on every area of your life...and that is learning how to shift your mind from IMpossibility to possibility. There are so many reasons why our brain likes to believe that things aren't possible for us (it's not possible to lose weight, to overcome these emotions, to strengthen our marriage, etc) and NONE of i...

We think that relationships exist outside of us or that they are somehow created based on what the other person is or isn't doing. That's one of the reasons we think our marriage is doomed to fail if our spouse is addicted to pornography-because it must mean that our relationship is awful because he's doing this terrible thing. Right? WRONG. Join me today as I offer a brand new way of thinking abo...

There is a difference between our body and our body image. We think that we are just experiencing our body, that we are simply observing and that what we think about our body is fact. In reality, we are interpreting our body through a lens, one that is shaped by our experiences-including our husband's pornography addiction. If you are struggling with your body image and want to chance it, I outlin...

Today I am going to teach you the main coaching tool I use with all of my clients! It's called the Self Coaching Model and it breaks down our entire life into 5 categories that all interconnect and explain HOW we are getting the results we have in our life. I've been teaching this to you in bits and pieces but I broke it down today in one episode to help you understand all of it. This is the most...

A very special bonus episode for ya'll! In here I am talking all about how YOU can join my group coaching program that is launching July 1, 2021! In this episode I talk about what a life coach is, how that can help you, the difference between group and one on one coaching, and how you can sign up! I am so excited to offer 10 spots in this first group and they are already filling up so come join us...

It can be super easy to blame other people or things outside of us for how we feel. "I'm mad because he did this thing". But the problem with blame is that it keeps us the victim. It keeps our emotional state dependent on the other person or the situation changing. And that keeps us feeling stuck and hopeless. Join me today as I offer an alternative to blame: responsibility. In this episode I brea...

Ladies, this is a good one! In this episode my husband Rob joins me in a discussion about what it was like to go on a tropical vacation a few weeks ago-and whether we were worried about triggers and temptation. We dive into what this has looked like throughout our marriage, what it was like while he was active in his addiction, what it was like while I was unaware of his addiction, what triggers a...

Have you ever thought "I would never do this to him." That's what we are going to talk about today. We are going to dive into why we think that way, why it's a problem, and what the options are for changing it. This is one you do NOT want to skip! Don't forget to join my email list to be the first to know the details on how to sign up for the "Mom's in the Village Event' on May 24, 2021! I will be...

What does it mean to forgive someone? What does that look like? Is it even possible for me to forgive my husband for his pornography addiction? Does that mean that I'm ok with it? Join me today as I walk you through what forgiveness is. This is just a small sample of the newest addition to my online program that you get unlimited access to when you sign up for coaching with me. If you want help fo...

This past week I had an experience where I felt completely inadequate. My husband and I were discussing his old "triggers" and all of a sudden, my old thoughts came flooding to the surface. Today I want to share the lessons I learned working through that experience and why we often feel inadequate. Come coach with me and I'll teach you how to work through it.  Don't forget to register for my LIVE...

Do you ever think "I don't deserve this?" It's completely normal. So many women think that and feel that way. I want you to join me today on a very important topic as I address why our brain thinks this, and why it's not helpful. This is a deep topic today so take notes! It's a good one! Come hear me speak live! I am thrilled to be speaking at a week-long virtual event all about healing from traum...