The Porn Addict's Wife

Learning how to think of your spouse with compassion is one of the greatest tools that you can learn to help you start improving your communication and the way you think about him and his pornography use. Today I am going to talk about why it's so important, a common mistake that many make when starting to transition to compassion, the biggest mental barriers to getting there, and more. Come join...

A very special bonus episode with all of the details you need about the upcoming retreat I am hosting in Nashville TN in October! If you are thinking about joining, listen in! And then sign up right away because there are only 15 spots total and they are going to sell out! I can't wait to see you there! Click here for full event details and to sign up!

Do you ever feel emotionally depleted? Like you have nothing left in your emotional reserves? How does that happen? How do we prevent it from happening? What do we do when it happens? That is what this episode is all about. I'm going to explain what your emotional energy baseline is, how to raise it, and why it's so important to be aware of.  Join me for my first ever IN PERSON retreat in Nashvill...

What is a trigger? What is going on in our brains when a trigger happens? And how do we change it!? That is what this episode is all about! Buckle up ladies, because this is a good one! (Spoiler alert-things outside of you can't create your feelings). 

Ladies, join me today on a very special episode. This weekend, I am processing emotion and I am taking you along with me. I am sharing an experience I had this weekend and how it brought up some emotion from over 10 years ago and how I dealt with it alone and with my husband. This is a vulnerable episode that I hope you learn from. 

Today I am going to bring together what we talked about last week and discuss what that looks like in relationships. How do we emotionally invest in a relationship when the other person seems to not be doing any work on their end? I'm going over the biggest lie that our brain believes about this and sharing why it's so important to recognize.  Don't forget to sign up for my email list to be the fi...

There are two kinds of emotional investment-one that will produce the results that you want (a better marriage, a goal weight, a dream job) and one that won't. Today I am breaking down what emotional investment is, the two main types and the patterns they create, and why it's so important in order to achieve those goals you want. 

What thoughts do you have about your husband? And how is that affecting your relationship? Today I am giving a few examples from clients about negative (and positive) thoughts we often have about our husbands that prevent us from moving forward. 

So many of us struggle with making decisions. And it's all because of what we are thinking. Today I am breaking down how to make decisions in 4 simple steps and what our brain often does in those steps to make making decisions so difficult! Whether it's deciding what to wear or where to send your kids to school or even to stay married, this is a simple formula you can follow to make any decision i...

Do you struggle making decisions? Do you want to make a decision but feel like you "can't" or "don't know what to choose"? Today I am breaking down what indecision really is, the problems with it, why it's so appealing, and offering a small tip to help you start changing.   

What do we do when we want two seemingly opposite things? Especially when we can't decide which one is "better"? How do we choose? How do we look at that? Today I am going to dive into what this looks like, how our brain likes to make decisions and what to do when you want to opposite things. (If you are struggling with trust, this is for you!) Come join my FREE Trust Workshop! May 23-25 @ 1pm est...

If your husband is struggling with depression (as so often goes hand in hand with addictive behavior), it can be super tough to know what to do. Do you recommend therapy? Is it ok to talk to him about it? Am I supposed to leave him alone? Our desire to help and our desire to not make anything worse often lead to an internal conflict that leaves us feeling hopeless and frustrated. Today Rob and I t...

Sometimes when we go through something traumatic, we forget to allow ourselves NOT to think about it. In fact, our brain thinks it is super important for us to constantly have it on our minds. But this often leads to anxiety and hyper-focus that creates emotional overwhelm and exhaustion. Today I'm going to talk about why this happens and why it's important to let it go.  Sign up for my FREE Trust...

The thoughts we think about ourselves, our relationships, our fears and emotions...all of those create our story. And the story we tell ourself about our life creates our security blanket. It makes us feel warm and safe. But it also prevents us from going forward. Today I'm going to dive into this with specific examples and explain why becoming aware of your security blanket is so important to gro...

When our brain thinks there is a problem, it often chooses one of these 3 mindsets in order to handle it. Today I am going to dive into what each of these 3 mindsets are, the problem with the first 2, and why it is so important to get to acceptance. This is a deep episode that you will not want to skip! Let's go!

Let's Celebrate! This is the podcast's 100th weekly episode and I am so excited about it! Today I am going to share with you how I started and what that looked like to where we are now and the lessons I've learned along the way. I am so excited for everything that is in store and I am so grateful to all of YOU for making this happen! 

You know when you reach your breaking point? And you think, "How did I get here?" Today I am going to give you the secret to preventing this from happening-no matter the circumstance. I'm going to dive into what emotional overwhelm is, the secret to preventing it, and tell you why this is so important in your life!  If you want help applying what I teach in this episode, come join my coaching prog...

Have you ever thought, "Life's not fair"? Or "It's not fair that he has this pornography addiction and I'm the one dealing with the emotional fallout of it"? Most of you have. And that's ok. But I want to show you today how that is not a useful way of thinking...and it's using the word "fair" incorrectly. This is a tough love episode today ladies that, if you listen and apply it, will completely c...

What is forgiveness? What does it look like? How do we do it? Why don't we do it? What prevents us from forgiving? Today I am going to dive into this and let you know exactly how to do it and what to do! This is not one to skip! Follow me on IG @jolenewinncoaching Click here to join my lifetime coaching program before the price goes up on April 1! Click here to schedule a free consultation call to...

Today Rob joined me on the podcast to talk about the men's group that is beginning on April 14! In this episode we go over why we are starting it and what makes this program so incredible for those who are struggling with a pornography addiction.  If you are ready to uncover the source of your pornography addiction and eliminate it for good, simply click here to join the group!  Want to know a lit...

Did you know that healing can happen without feeling like you're running on a hamster wheel? That it can even be done with ease? I'm not saying it'll be EASY, but there are things you can do that will certainly make your healing journey filled with more EASE and less mental exhaustion. Today I am going through a few that you can immediately start implementing in order to make your healing process...

I LOVE hearing other couples who are working through pornography addiction and I am so excited to bring you Chandler and Jade's story! Chandler is the mastermind and owner of an accountability app for porn addicts called RELAY and he and his wife were gracious enough to come on the podcast and share their story. Give this young couple a listen because they have some powerful shifts in mindset that...

Do you know the difference between being betrayed and feeling betrayed? Today we are going to talk about it and go into why it is so crucial to know the difference!  If you are ready to take what you are learning on the podcast and apply it so that you finally move forward, I want to invite you to come join my coaching program. This is where you take WHAT you are learning on the podcast and start...

I had the privilege of talking with Kristen Jenson, the author of Good Pictures, Bad Pictures and the owner of Defend Young Minds. She and I discussed how to talk to kids about pornography, how she got started in her business, how she wrote these books, and all the resources she has for you as parents! I am so grateful to her for the work she does and her willingness to sit down and share her wisd...

What is intimacy? What is preventing you from feeling it right now? What can you do to fix it? I'm answering all of these questions on this episode today so get ready! And come join my program for the full class I taught called "Intentional Intimacy" and for one on one coaching with me! Let's go forward ladies!