The Porn Addict's Wife

It's now 2023. So let's talk about resolutions. Trust me. It won't be what you think. 

What are you making room for? Too often we feel that we are emotionally at our wits end, and we are full of negative emotion that we've been carrying around for our entire lives. This is called emotional baggage. Sometimes we do this subconsciously, unaware that we are even doing this. And sometimes, we want it because it's familiar and we are afraid of what our lives would look like if we let it...

We often think that it's only possible to feel peace once we have gotten rid of the adversity. But today I am going to talk about how to feel peace IN adversity. I am going through a few tips to help you reframe the way you experience adversity and give you personal examples to help you apply it. I love you all! Merry Christmas!   Don't forget to come join me this week for a free coaching! Sign up...

We often think that the emotion that we are unwilling to feel, the emotion that we are suppressing isn't affecting anyone but ourselves. And that's a lie. Today I want to introduce you to a concept I call the Ripple Effect.  I want to invite you to come join me for a week of free coaching! This is my Merry Christmas gift to you and the last time I am doing this event for free! Sign up for Coach We...

Today Rob joined me on the podcast to talk about what it's like when you are in the thick of it. We share about an experience we have had over the last few weeks and tips that have helped us work through it individually and as a couple. The truth is, you have to go through the suck to come out on the other side and have the relationship you want to have. We are going to show you how.    Come join...

Sometimes we need to mourn. Sometimes we need to allow ourselves to process grief. But grief and despair are two different things and in this episode I am going to talk about what those differences are and when it's important to allow grief to be processed.

Sometimes we have sneaky thoughts. Thoughts that sound really nice and pretty. Thoughts that seem like they're positive. But they're not. Today I am going to teach you how to recognize these thoughts, why it's important to see them, and go through examples of them so you can begin to see them in your own mind. 

With the holidays coming up, I wanted to help you with a few thoughts on how to get through them. Join me today as I give you a few tips and help you apply concepts you've already learned in how to interact with you family to hopefully make it the best holiday season yet! Ready to start taking everything you are learning on the podcast to the next level? If so, then now is the best time to join my...

Have you ever thought that you are back at square one? Or maybe that you should be farther along in your healing than you are? Or perhaps you have thought that the pain you are feeling is so much worse because of how long your husband has been hurting you? Today, that's what I'm going to talk about. I'm going to discuss the way we think about timelines and why it's important to start letting that...

Do you trust yourself to make good decisions? What actually makes a decision good? Today I am going to talk about self trust and why it's so important to understand-especially when you are struggling with trusting someone else.  If you want to learn how to apply this concept in a deeper way, go check out my How To Trust Master Class and get access to all my teaching and coachign on trusting your h...

Oftentimes, we aren't even aware that we are feeling distrust because it is masquerading as anxiety. These two emotions are very similar and today I am going to talk about what these emotions feel like, why we feel them, and why it's so important to differentiate between the two (and how to do it!).  If you are struggling with trusting your husband, come join me for my "How To Trust" Master Class!...

Today I am sharing an advanced concept that I taught this last week at my Go Forward Retreat in Nashville. I am going to teach you about what transactional and transformational relationships are, what the difference is, and why it's so important and powerful to shift into transformational relationships-especially with yourself!  If you are struggling with trusting your husband, I want to invite yo...

Worry feels really important. Our brains think that worrying about something means that we care about it. But what if that's not true? Today I am going to dive into why we worry, why it isn't useful, and how to stop  yourself from worrying!    Do you struggle to trust your husband? Do you want to trust him but find that you just don't and you're not sure why? Are you tired of trusting him only to...

Do you ever feel like you are alone in whatever you are struggling with? Maybe it's your husband's pornography addiction but maybe it's your weight or your self improvement or maybe it's you wanting to start your own business or go back to school...there are so many things that we struggle with that we feel alone about. And today, I am going to talk to you about the importance of teaching your bra...

Did you know you're not your body or your thoughts? I know. It seems a little weird. But you are actually your soul. And just as your body and your mind need nourishment and attention, your soul does too. In fact, it requires even more of it. And yet we tend to ignore it. Today I'm going to discuss why it's important to take care of your soul, what your soul truly is, and offer a challenge to begi...

Do you ever think that you never would've chosen this? That, had you known about his pornography problem before you got married that you never would've said yes? If you have ever had those kinds of thoughts before, you are not alone. This is super common and something I want to address today!  If you want to coach with me one on one, come join me in Nashville. I am hosting an in person exclusive c...

Do you find yourself worrying that something that happened before will happen again? Today I'm going to talk about why this happens, and why it's important not to do it anymore! Let's go! Come join me in Nashville! If you are ready to apply what you are learning on the podcast and want one on one help doing it, I want to invite you to come to my first ever LIVE event. Grab your best friend and com...

Today my book launches! It is called "The Not-Enough Wife-Why We Look Outside Ourselves And How To Stop". And it's really good. Today I am going to talk about what inspired me to write the book, a little bit of the journey I had in writing it, and what each chapter is about. I would love your support by heading to Amazon and purchasing it and writing a review to let me know what you think! I love...

Do you worry about your husband relapsing if he's alone? Yeah. Most of us have. This one is for you. I am going to break down why our brain is so worried about this, why it's not helpful, and how to work through it when it happens to you.  Don't forget to sign up for FREE COACHING! Come join me this week for a week of free coaching calls! Register here today and get help applying everything you ar...

We try to manage other people's emotions a lot. And it sounds really nice. Like, "I just don't want to add to his stress" or "I don't want to make her feel anxious". Today I'm talking about why this doesn't work, why we want to do it, and why it's important to stop.  Don't forget to register for Coach Week ! It's a week of free coaching with me and it starts next week! 

Think about that thing you want to do but haven't done yet. That's what we are talking about today. Buckle up, ladies, this is a tough love episode about why you don't have the life you want or why you aren't doing the things you want to do-spoiler alert-It's not the reasons you think! Today I am diving into both making decisions and taking action, why it's crucial to do both, what not doing both...

I know many of us feel this way. We want to open up to someone about our husband's pornography use but it's not our secret to tell, right? Well, maybe not. Today I'm going to address this concern and offer some thoughts that I hope will help you decide to open up and do so in a way that works for both you and your spouse.  Ladies, come join me for Coach Week! September 6-9 @ 3pm est! I will be hos...

Today I am giving ya'll a sneak peek of my book that is coming out September 6! The book is titled The Not Enough Wife (Why We Look Outside Ourselves And How To Stop). This book is for any woman who has felt like she isn't enough. Not skinny enough, sexy enough, smart enough, gracrious enough...the list goes on and on. In this book, I am going to teach you why so many of us believe this about ours...

Our brain often wants someone to blame. And it often doesn't want to blame him. As crazy as that sounds. Today I'm going over who our brain often wants to blame ( In laws, our past self, his past self) , why it happens, and why it isn't helpful.     

Most of us try to avoid confrontation. Our brains don't like it because of the emotion it brings up. But, sometimes, confrontation is exactly what we need. Otherwise, we stay in conflict. Today I am going to explain what this looks like when we are in conflict with another person as well as when we have internal conflict, why it's important to confront, and how to do so.  Are you coming to Nashvil...