The Porn Addict's Wife

Want this to be the best Mother's Day yet? I have a few ideas on how to make that happen. Listen in as I give 4 tips on how to get what you want this Mother's Day (or for anything you want in life!)

Have you ever thought something like, "I want to know he's as invested in this relationship as I am", or "I just want to know that he loves me as much as I love him" or "It's not fair that I'm putting in more work than he is"? That's what this episode is all about. WHY our brain does that and what it's actually trying to avoid. Plus, what happens when we do it and why it's so important to stop.  S...

Ever find yourself feeling pain on behalf of your past self? Maybe you found out about something that happened in the past that you didn't know before and now you find yourself rewriting the memory in order to put in that new information? Today I'm going to talk about why our brain likes to do this and why it's so important to stop. Also, how to do it ;)  Come join my free class! On May 22 @ 11am...

I am so excited to bring you a conversation with one of my clients-Gina! She has such an incredible, sweet spirit and I am so inspired and in awe of her courage! I hope she inspires you and you resonate with her story! 

Did you know there are 2 definitions of the word "compromise"? Today I'm going to talk about both definitions and how they often show up in our marriage. The second defition will blow your mind!

How do you deal with the moments of acute pain? Like when you first find out about your husband's pornography problem or when he relapses? There are a few ways we typically respond that unintentionally make our lives more difficult. Today I'm going over what those are and how to avoid them. 

What is a boundary? How do I know if it's "healthy"? What if someone is violating my boundary? Am I supposed to be feeling anything negative if I set one? Is it ok to set one to avoid negative emotion? I am answering all these questions and going through examples in this episode so tune in! If you want more help with boundaries and want more clarity around them, go check out The Porn Addict's Wife...

I am honored to introduce you to Allyson! She is one of my clients who wanted to share her story with you on the podcast! She is sharing her personal story, her biggest struggles, and the things that have helped her the most. I hope this helps you in your journey forward! Thank you Allyson for sharing your story!    

Have you ever felt humiliated by your husband's actions? I have. And it inspired this episode today. I am diving into the difference between shame and humiliation, explaining the shame cycle and the humiliation cycle, and giving you the key to getting out of both!  See the video of this episode on youtube by clicking here! Join me for "How to Set Boundaries Workshop"! This will be a week of coachi...

What is the relationship between forgiveness and peace? And where does God fit into all of this? After all, we are commanded to forgive in the scriptures and God tells us He forgives us if we come to Him...so how does that all fit in? Today I'm sharing a few thoughts on the relationship between forgiveness and God and what it looks like to me. I hope you enjoy.   If you want to join the How To For...

This has been too long in coming :) The first part of Monica's story can be found in between episodes 72 & 73. Start with that part of her story and finish with this! A huge thank you to her for being the most incredible client and willing to share her journey with all of you! 

A few weeks ago on Instagram, I asked you if you wanted to forgive your husband. And the vast majority of you said yes. Then I asked you why you haven't yet. Today I am going to read your responses and go through them with you and offer why they are keeping you stuck. If you truly want to forgive your husband, I can teach you how. Sign up today to join my How To Forgive Master Class and get instan...

How do you forgive yourself for a pornography addiction? How do you forgive your spouse for one? How do you move on past something without carrying the shame and guilt with you even if you know it was wrong? Rob joined me today to discuss this and it's an episode you won't want to miss!

How do you know if you are stuck in resentment and pain? How do you know if you are holding onto it and haven't let it go yet? What does it look like and why do we do it? Plus, how do we stop? Covering all of that and sharing SO many personal examples because I have done this so much in my life!  If you want to forgive your husband but don't know how, I want to invite you to join my How To Forgive...

Are you waiting for him to say sorry? Do you feel like you're stuck without closure because he hasn't acknowledged what he's done to you? Or maybe he has said sorry and you don't know why you aren't feeling any better about it? This is for you. Today I'm diving into why we want an apology and what happens if we don't get it.  Join me for my "How To Forgive" Master Class this March! From March 27-3...

Do you have to forgive your husband for his pornography addiction? For the lying and the hurt and the pain? First off, let's dive into what forgiveness is and then we will answer this question.  Other episodes of the podcast on forgiveness:  Episode 53: Forgiveness  Bonus Episode: My Journey of Forgiveness (after episode 24) Want to learn how to move forward and forgive your husband? Come join my...

What is commitment? How commited are you to your healing? How do you know? And what do you do if you aren't as commited as you thought? Today I am sharing a few thoughts on commitment that I learned this week in my business mastermind and how I am applying them to help me be more commited to your emotional healing. Come join me and let's go forward!

Join me today to learn what true confidence really is. Spoiler alert: it's not what you think! Plus, learn about the difference between confidence and false confidence and how pride is related to all of it. Plus, I tell you the exact formula to follow to start increasing your confidence!  You are in luck!! I have turned my "Confident Sexuality Master Class" into an evergreen course that you can no...

We all feel insecure about some things. But our brain often takes it one step further and turns it into shame. In this episode I am going to go into what insecurity is, what shame is, how they are different, and how our brains often make our insecurities worse. Let's go deep on this one ladies! It's good!

Sometimes we don't give ourselves permission to feel emotions. Today, I am going over why we do this, what happens when we do it, and why it's so important to stop doing it. Your feelings are allowed. :) For more episodes on this topic, check out the Episode titled "Your Feelings Are Valid" and "Thoughts About Feelings".    Come coach with me! I am coaching next week for 4 days and I would love to...

Insecurities are not personality traits that are unchangeable. They are a combination of thoughts and feelings that we can change. In our sexual relationship, there are 3 main areas where insecurities rise: physical insecurities, sexual insecurities, and insecurities around pornography. Today I am going to discuss what insecurites are, when they come up, the difference in these 3 areas, and how to...

I just got an email from a sweet follower and I want to share it with you. If your husband is addicted to sex and you are struggling with how it's affecting you and your sex life, this is for you.  I can help you. Come join me. 

How often should you have sex with your husband? Should he initiate or should you? Do you find yourself cringing at anything ultra feminine because it reminds you of pornography so instead you put on a baggy t shirt and pretend you're asleep? Today I am diving into the thoughts that we have about sexuality and why it's so important to become aware of them and how they are affecting your sexual rel...

How do you actually hit the goals you keep setting every year? How do you actually lose that same 10 lbs that has been on your list forever? In this episode I am walking you through the steps that you need to take in order to hit your tangible goals-whether that's going back to school, starting a business, losing weight, or writing a book. Whatever your goal is, today I am going to teach you how t...

Y'all ever known anybody who hoards things? Trinkets? Knick knacks? Furniture? Broken cars? Just in case they might need them later? Today I am going to introduce you to something I call emotional hoarding. Join me as I discuss what emotional hoarding is, why we do it, why we should stop, and what it could look like if we did.  Come join me for my brand new Master Class: Resolutions from January 2...