The Porn Addict's Wife

How do you believe something you've never believed before? How do you change what you believe? And why bother? Why is it so important to do it? Today I am diving into a concept I am teaching at the in person retreat in October and it has changed my life. Want to believe you can trust your husband? Want to believe you can lose weight? Want to believe you are a good mom? Want to believe you are good...

Do you ever have a gut feeling that something is off? Do you have intuition that he's hiding something or that he's relapsed and not telling you? Today I am diving into what intuition is, why we feel it, and what to do about it. This is a good one ladies!    Come to my Free webinar next week!  "How To Talk To Your Husband About His Pornography Problem" Free Webinar and Communication Workshop Monda...

In this episode I am so excited to be talking to my client Ghazal about her story! She is so powerful and one of the things I admire most about her is her willingness to look inward and her courage to take action even when it scares her. I know you will find inspiration from her story! 

Do you ever feel like you don't love him like you used to? Like the things he's done have changed it so it's not possible to feel the way you used to feel about him? Today I'm diving into why this happens, how to change it if you want to, and what it means if you don't. 

In this episode, my client Shawnie is talking about her story! She joined coaching about one year ago and she came to the in person retreat last year as the youngest client there :) She is being open and vulnerable and I hope y'all find hope in her strength and story!  Thank you Shawnie!

Do you feel unsafe during physical intimacy with your spouse? Today I am going to talk about why that is and give you some ideas of what you can do to help you work through it. The main thing I want you to know is that however you feel is ok. It's normal. And you don't need to judge yourself for it.   

First time ever my twin sister Kristi came on the podcast! She joined me today to talk about her experience going to the in person retreat in Nashville last year so listen in to hear what it was like from her perspective.  Bonus-at the end you'll hear some of our answers to common "twin" questions we get!   Ready to reserve your spot at this year's in person retreat? Sign up today!

That's right. I'm closing the doors to coaching. Listen in to find out why and what that means for you.  Ready to join before the doors close? Click here to sign up now!

Rob joined me on the podcast today to talk about what we've been working through the last 9 months. And one of those is attraction. In this episode we are diving into what he learned about attraction to other women, how our society perpetuates beliefs that aren't true, and how to work through attraction in your marriage. I hope you find this episode helpful in moving forward!

Have you ever wondered this? When is enough, enough? How much of this should I take? When should I leave? Is there a certain time when we should separate? Today I am diving into this question and I hope that even if you've never thought this you take a listen.   I'm bringing back Coach Week! Come try out coaching for free next week and get personal help from me with whatever you are going through....

How much should I know? What questions should I ask? Are there certain details I need to be made aware of? Today I am going to dive into this topic - and probably not in the way you expect!   Win a spot at my retreat! I am giving away a spot at my retreat and you could win it! To be eligible make sure you sign up and secure your spot before August 20 and then I will be refunding the full price to...

Our energy follows out attention. And where we put our energy is where change happens. So it begs the question, where are we putting our attention? Today I am going to take you through a process to figure out where you are putting your physical and emotional energy so that you can change it if you want to. 

Do you want him to reassure you that you are moving forward? Or that he finds you attractive? or that he's working on his addiction? If you are seeking reassurance from him, this is for you. I'm going to teach  you what reassurance is, why you want it, and how to get it for good. Enjoy! 

External validation feels great. We all like to hear it, right? Today I am going to talk about what it really is and why we like it and how it can be a problem.   

Coping mechanisms seem great, right? After all, they help us deal with stress. Today I'm going to dive into why coping mechanisms can be a problem and give you an alternative to that that's even better. 

Do you feel like you're waiting for something bad to happen? Like you can never fully relax because you don't know if he'll relapse again? In this episode I'm discussing why our brains operate this way and how to start changing it!  Join my next free coaching call! Come try out coaching on Wednesday, July 18 @ 11am est! Click here for details!

How do you stop being controlled by others or your life circumstance? How do you become emotionally independent rather than feeling like your emotional state is dependent on your husband's behavior or pornography problem? Today I'm going to give a few ideas from our Founding Fathers and the early American army to answer that question. Happy Independence Day everyone!     

I had no idea what a life coach was when I signed up for life coach training. I just knew it helped me and I wanted more of it. Today I am going to tell you what a life coach does, what my job is and how it can help you. I hope this helps you decide if this is what you are looking for! If you want more information on how to work with me, head to my website!

This is for the hard days. The days you don't want to get out of bed or you feel like you'll burst into tears at a moment's notice. That's exactly where I am today. So I'm going to share a few tips or tools on what you can do on those days to help you through them. The last one is the most important. :) I love you ladies. 

This is a great question! Today I am going to dive into whether or not it's a good idea to have your husband tell you when he messes up (and how that's different from an accountability partner). I'm also going to dive into why it can be so hard to have him tell you and what to do about it. 

Are you worried about going to the beach with your husband? Or his work party? Or going out to dinner and running into an attractive waitress? Today I am going to talk about the biggest mistakes we make in triggering situations and my tips on what to do instead.  Want more on triggers? Check out Episode 112: Triggers and Bonus: Conversations with Rob: Triggers and Temptations.     

Are there areas in your relationship where you just want him to reassure you? Maybe it's that you can trust him? Or that he actually finds you attractive? Today I am going to talk about what it really means to want reassurance and why it's not actually possible the way we think it is.    Come coach with me for free! Join me on Wednesday, May 31 at 11am for a free coaching call! It's like a "try it...

I am so excited to announce that I am opening 5 private coaching spots this summer! If you want to work with me but want a personal coaching experience, this is for you! This is a limited time offer that expires on June 1 so sign up today by clicking here!  Select the payment option for the Private Coaching plan that works best for you to secure your spot today.    I cannot wait to work with you! 

Today is a very special episode with guest host Rob! This is a solo episode where he is discussing how pornorgraphy affects your brain and ultimately affects your relationships and your life. If you like this one, go give him some love and support by leaving a podcast review on iTunes! He'd love to know you appreciate his honesty!   

Did you just find out your husband is addicted to porn? Or maybe you just found out about a relapse or a detail you didn't know before. This episode is for you. Today I am going through my biggest tips on what to do next that will help you start healing right away. I'm also listing some additional podcast episodes that might help!