The Porn Addict's Wife

How are pornography and sex connected? And what are you supposed to do if your husband's pornography problem is affecting your sexual relationship? Today I'm diving into what pornography is, what it is designed to do, how it's related to sex, and the two different cycles that someone watching pornography is going through. You'll also learn exactly what you CAN control in this scenario and what you...

Our primitive brain is often generating a victim behavior without us really noticing it. Here's two ways it does and why it's so important to notice. Plus, a very popular (and socially acceptable) way you could be perpetuating a victim mindset without realizing it!   Come join me for Valentine's Day! I am hosting a 3 day Galentine's Coach-A-Thon and I want you to come! We are going to dive into co...

People pleasing is where you change yourself or do what you think other people want you to do so that you feel a certain way. People pleasing yourself is where you change yourself or do what you think you "should" do so that you feel a certain way. But let's dive into what that looks like and why that's a problem...   For 3 days only I am offering 1:1 coaching calls to you! If you are interested i...

What is faith? And where does it fit into all of this emotional work? And why does it even matter? Today might be my favorite episode yet. It's all about what you believe and the secret that creates transformations.    Come join me in my coaching program this week for my brand new Faith Master Class! Monday-Thursday at 4pm est you can join me live as I teach and coach on what faith is, how to appl...

Are there things you are "trying" to do? Lose weight? Not yell at your kids? Be more organized? Trust your spouse? Today I want to teach you how using the word "try" can be detrimental to creating what you want and how to shift it so that you can actually have what you say you want.   

I am so excited to bring you this conversation I had with Matt and Katie! They are an incredible couple who have conquered pornography in their marriage and they both have so much wisdom to share! I hope you enjoy their story! And don't forget to give them a follow on social media! 

We often hurt ourselves without even knowing it. The way that we respond emotionally can create an injury over time if we aren't conscious of it and don't change the behavior that is creating it. This episode is inspired by my own injury so let's dive in and see how it's related!  

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Resolutions aren't actually about what we think they are. Today I'm diving into what they're about and how you can guarantee you'll always hit every resolution you set.  If you're tired of setting the same resolutions every year, I have the perfect class for you! Inside my program this month I am hosting a brand new Master Class all about GOALS! J oin my program today and you'll automatically get...

Allowing is a verb. It requires action. And today I learned that I have to allow myself to be healed. Join me as I discuss what allowing can look like and the difference it can make in healing from your husband's pornography problem. 

What's the difference between letting go and giving up? And what if you feel like giving up? How do you switch? This week I had a few experiences that I'm sharing that have highlighted this for me and I want to share what I'm learning. I'm still learning how to let go. Join me.    Merry Christmas ladies! If you want the best Christmas present ever, come join my coaching program! Now is the perfect...

Is there something in your life you want to change or stop doing? Maybe a habit you want to break or an interaction with your spouse that always happens that you don't like? Maybe you have a belief about yourself you are tired of holding onto? This is for you. Today I am going to teach you a tool that is one of the most helpful in changing any behavioral, emotional, or cognitive pattern in your li...

Stressful schedules, in-law gatherings, school parties, triggering situations...the holidays can be difficult to navigate. So today I am offering my best tips and advice on how to handle the holidays so that you can actually ENJOY them instead of just feeling stressed out!  I want to send you a Christmas gift! If you join my program throughout December, I am going to send you a Christmas present i...

Finding the right professional help is like finding a good stylist...and I have some bad hair day horror stories to prove it! Bottom line, if you have a result you are looking for, it's worth paying someone who can get you there. 

Have you heard that addicts need to hit rock bottom before they reach out for help? Well, turns out we are a lot more like them than we think! Today I am talking all about what rock bottom is, how we usually think about it, and how we have our own rock bottom to be aware of. Spoiler alert: Rock bottom isn't necessary to create change.    Come join me this week ladies! I am hosting a live, 5 day tr...

Today I am going over HOW you actually process your emotions and WHY it's the most vital skill you could learn. I am outlining the 3 main ways we typically respond to emotion and why they aren't what is best for the life we want to create. This is the one skill that has enabled me to confidently face my future without fear so tune in!   Come join me next week for my brand new course: Becoming Unbr...

It feels like you are fighting, barely treading water, and it's exhausting, right? Today I want to offer how you can take all that energy, all that fight inside of you and apply it in a different way to get far greater results. It's time to fight smarter, not harder.    Come join me for a free Course Preview of the "Becoming Unbreakable" course! Click here to join me for a live call on Thursday, N...

We say we want certain things-to lose weight, change jobs, be more present with our kids, heal from our husband's pornography problems-but are we making the decision to create that result from our primitive brain or our pre-frontal cortex? And why is that so important to clarify? Today I am discussing all of that after a little self reflection exercise and I encourage you to do the same!   I am te...

This last 12 months have been the hardest months of my life. But they are also what has made me unbreakable. Today I am talking about why it was the hardest year and how I faced it to become who I am today.  I am teaching a brand new course on Becoming Unbreakable this month in my coaching program and I want you to come. I am reserving 20 spots for new clients to join this live, 5 day training and...

When we experience trauma, our brain responds in a way to prevent us from getting hurt again. Which is great. However, when this programming is run unchecked, it can actually lead us to creating a mentality that leads to isolation and pain. Let's talk about it.  Don't know how to process your emotions? I can help! Inside my coaching program this month I am doing a deep dive into how to process you...

Do you have a certain date that's painful? Or maybe a memory that always brings up negative emotion? Maybe it's your anniversary or your birthday or the date you found out about all of your husband's pornography problems. If so, this is for you. I'm diving into WHY this happens and HOW to fix it. Permanently.  Come coach with me for free! Next week I'm hosting a FREE class teaching how to connect...

Do you feel really vulnerable with your husband? Or even just by yourself becaue of everything you've gone through? In this episode I am going to teach you what it means to be vulnerable and what vulnerability truly is.  Come join my next free class! How to Re-Connect with your spouse after betrayal trauma. October 30 @ 11am est! Click here to sign up!

Do you struggle communicating with your husband about his pornography problem? Do you find that it either leads to an argument or you shut down? I am diving into the 7 most common mistakes that I see women make so that you can start having more productive conversations with your spouse!  Click here to access my Free webinar: How To Talk To Your Husband About His Pornography Problem for more in dep...

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What is victim mentality? And how do we conquer it? And do we sometimes stay a victim to ourselves? Join me today as I talk about all of this and how to actually beat victim mentality to start taking control of your life.    Did you miss the doors being open in the coaching program? Don't worry! S ign up here to be the first to know when they open again!