The Pleasure Priority

In this episode of Pleasure Starters, a podcast miniseries inviting you to tangibly create more pleasure in your life through pondering my questions, I ask: where are you not taking responsibility for your own dopeness? Fluke energy is not yours to claim. Your goals don't just happen, you don't just trip and fall into what you want, you create the opportunities, you manifest your desires, you put...

In this episode of Pleasure Starters, a podcast miniseries inviting you to tangibly create more pleasure in your life through pondering my questions, I ask: where are you putting the opinions of others ahead of your own? This episode is definitely not about ignoring any outside advice you receive. It's about questioning where you default to the opinions and expectations of others before consulting...

In this episode of Pleasure Starters, a podcast miniseries inviting you to tangibly create more pleasure in your life through pondering my questions, I ask: where can it be easier? This question applies to your relationships, your business, your health, your commitment to exercise, your money mindset, your goals, literally everything! Don't get caught in the trap of following a path just because y...

In this episode of Pleasure Starters, a podcast miniseries inviting you to tangibly create more pleasure in your life through pondering my questions, I ask: what are you not forgiving yourself for? I find that most people view forgiveness as some noble act or that it requires you to be the bigger person, but really forgiveness is to stop feeling anger or resentment to someone or something. It's de...

In this episode of Pleasure Starters, a podcast miniseries inviting you to tangibly create more pleasure in your life through pondering my questions, I ask: what are your simple pleasures? So often we can overlook the little things that bring us joy. When we take them for granted, don't acknowledge them, or don't see their effect in our life, we can convince ourselves we don't have enough pleasure...

In this episode of Pleasure Starters, a podcast miniseries inviting you to tangibly create more pleasure in your life through pondering my questions, I ask: How do I already have enough? It can also be asked as, how am I already enough? This question transforms how you see yourself and your current circumstances. It helps you shift into recognizing how dope you already are. It forces you to look a...

In this episode of Pleasure Starters, a podcast miniseries inviting you to tangibly create more pleasure in your life through pondering my questions, I ask: am I here now? This question is great to develop awareness and presence. It invites you to come back home to yourself so you can check in, get a status report, and get supported in the ways that you need. Through being in the moment with yours...

In this episode of Pleasure Starters, a podcast miniseries inviting you to tangibly create more pleasure in your life through pondering my questions, I ask: do you know how to please yourself? In this society, especially when socialized as a woman, we are taught to outsource our pleasure. We are taught that our joy is outside of us and other people and things have to provide it for us. However, we...

In this episode of Pleasure Starters, a podcast miniseries inviting you to tangibly create more pleasure in your life through pondering my questions, I ask: where are you sacrificing when you could be compromising?  I go over the definition of each and how our conditioning can play into us making unnecessary sacrifices that hurt us more in the long run. Use this question to help you identify...

In this episode of Pleasure Starters, a podcast miniseries inviting you to tangibly create more pleasure in your life through pondering my questions, I ask: where are you slashing your pleasure? So often, we get caught up in the idea of overindulging that we preemptively limit the level of pleasure we experience and I want you to gain clarity around where you do this in your life and why.  No...

In this episode of Pleasure Starters, a podcast miniseries inviting you to tangibly create more pleasure in your life through pondering my questions, I ask: what do you want? This question is simple, but powerful. It requires you to be honest with yourself and connect to your desires which is the foundation of living a life you choose and enjoying the life you live. Reclaim your power by identifyi...

Life is a lesson, we learn and continue to learn every day. Everything doesn’t have to be perfect in life for us to be happy and to appreciate ourselves and everything around us. There are valuable lessons and simple pleasures in our daily experiences. Over the past 10 days, I have had the pleasure of spending quality time with an amazing group of women in my mastermind. These days were jam-packed...

Life contains many things, the good, the bad, the ugly, but also an element of magic, and this magic sometimes, if we are in tune enough to listen to it, helps to push us where we should be going. Whether you call it a gut feeling, fate, intuition, or a message from beyond, if something excites you and you can’t stop thinking about it, listen to it – the universe, your intuition, is trying to send...

Life is so unruly with its urgencies of friends who need help, health problems, financial pressures, family crises, world crises. It can be challenging to sustain ourselves and prioritize our pleasure in the face of these ongoing challenges. This episode was created around the idea of creating calm for yourself within the midst of chaos and how you can start to do that now. The practices Amber sha...

This week Amber connects with a special guest, Amelia Pleasant Kennedy. Amelia Pleasant Kennedy is a Deep Dive Certified Life Coach and Professional Organizer. She helps frazzled, busy, and overworked women uncover the root cause of their current lifestyle behaviors. With a keen ability to listen for what goes unsaid, Amelia coaches from a space of real curiosity and non-judgment so that clients b...

No matter who you are, or where you are from, the experience you have in life is going to be 50/50 between good and bad. Throughout your life journey, you will meet the entire spectrum of human emotion. How you manage and process these feelings and emotions greatly impacts your quality of life. To help you navigate your emotions to best serve your overall quality of life, this episode is critical....

Welcome back to the podcast. You are in for a treat with this super fun episode! Amber is answering a variety of questions from her clients. These are some amazing questions and Amber provides such detailed answers that will not only help you get to know her a bit more but will also provide some valuable insight into how you can experience life on your terms and of course experience more pleasure...

Some people think that they have total control over everything around them while others think they have no control over anything at all. Based on where you believe you have control of your life dictates nearly every aspect of your life. So building the skill of emotional responsibility is invaluable toward every healing journey. The Locus of Emotional Responsibility refers to the position in which...

As humans, we all have a spectrum of experiences that we would personally consider traumatic. These experiences can leave us feeling helpless, disconnected, and unable to fill a full range of emotions and experiences. Following a trauma, there is a type of transformation that some people experience. This is known as post-traumatic growth. Post-traumatic growth refers to people who after experienci...

Often times when things get hard, when things aren’t working out, or we just feel like we can't keep going anymore, that's when we are right on the verge of our breakthrough, and that’s also when we usually give up. As Amber will share with us in this episode, the urge to give up is a feeling caused by the thoughts that we have. It’s really just a mindset and we have the power to change it. Yes, w...

Social media can be a great way to keep in touch with people and share information. However, it can also be a source of fear and anxiety or excessive reassurance-seeking behaviors, and unhealthy attempts at getting validation from others. For our girl Amber, it was the latter. Amber has always had a weird relationship with social media. For her, it was an anxiety-inducing experience based on fears...

This week Amber is talking about some limitations of our current reality that she has noticed a lot lately in her own coaching and in coaching with her clients and peers. She is bringing this to light so that we can expand into the limitless options available to us and so that we can get to the next evolution of our highest selves for the betterment of ourselves. And so she will be bursting our bu...

This week Amber connects with a special guest, Natasha Tekeste. Natasha is an Advanced Certified Life and Money Mindset Coach for women and people socialized as women who want to earn more money. She works with women who want to shift their beliefs around money and wealth so they can leave the drama behind and focus on actually doing the work that they love. She teaches people how to love the mone...

This week, Amber shares with you the lessons relearned from her last trip, of the shrooms variety. Let me set the scene for you. It was a book club slash pool party, and Amber and her friends were all having a great time. She planted herself in the pool and had no desire to get out. She witnessed life happening to, through, and around her in a different way which offered a unique perspective. From...

In this week’s podcast Amber gives it to you straight, no chaser. Stop restricting your pleasure, period. She’s highlights examples of how people can be restricting their own pleasure, scheduling it, or doing things to take it from themselves. Amber calls on you to get out of the belief that pleasure is a limited resource. You are in charge of your pleasure, how much you get of it and when you giv...