The Pleasure Principles with Dr Jordin Wiggins

The 10 Phrases That Make Her Want Sex Again She came on the call overwhelmed, crusty, resentful. She left flushed, smiling, turned on. If you've built your life on doing things right and still feel disconnected from sex, this episode is for you. We are talking about what actually helps high achieving women want sex again. Not dirty talk. Not pressure. Not more performance. These are ten phrases th...

You've read the posts, tried the tips, downloaded the workshops, and still feel nothing. You can orgasm by yourself, but struggle with a partner. Or maybe you're shut down completely and convincing yourself you're over it. You're not. You've just been stuck in survival. High-achieving women with super traits are doing sex backward. You're performing instead of receiving. Doing instead of feeling....

The high-achieving women that I work with fall into two groups. Low desire and checked out because intimacy has become a performance, a task, a source of resentment. Or high desire and confused because sex is one of the only ways they feel close, but their emotional needs aren't being met. And then they're blamed for wanting it too much. No matter which group you're in, you're trapped. And it's in...

Superwomen, we need to talk about your pelvic floor. If you've ever apologized during a pelvic exam, felt broken because sex hurts, or wondered if leaking when you laugh is just part of being a mom, this conversation is for you. Pelvic floor physiotherapist Aliya Dhalla joins me to answer the questions most of us are too ashamed to ask. We talk about vulva appearance, labiaplasty, pelvic tension,...

Why you don't need to communicate better and other weaponized advice from couples therapy and Instagram influencers. These are the things keeping you stuck in your sexless marriage. If your relationship feels like a never-ending conversation with no lasting change, chances are you don't need to communicate better. You need to understand the concepts of coercive control and power dynamics. Most hig...

You've read the sexy prompts, saved the dirty talk guides, maybe even worked up the courage to send a flirty text and still nothing changes. The card games, therapy scripts, I statements, sandwich feedback, even Nonviolent Communication and it still hurts. You feel alone. It reinforces the belief that you're the problem. But you're not. I'm sharing the 5 questions couples having great sex are aski...

He wants you to initiate. You want to feel seen, supported, and safe. Every week I get a DM from a man asking how to get his wife to initiate sex again. And every time I think, are you really ready to hear the answer? MAKE SEX WORTH HAVING This one is for the woman who's doing it all. The emotional labor. The logistics. The mental load. Desire doesn't just disappear—it gets buried under exhaustion...

I used to be the doctor on national television telling couples to schedule sex. I even wrote about it in my book. But I've learned so much since then. Not because scheduling sex is inherently wrong. But for high-functioning women like us, it becomes another setup. Another task. Another way to fail. Scheduled intimacy only works when both partners truly want it. When desire is shared., but when it'...

You say your husband's great. Supportive. A great dad. He helps around the house. He doesn't cheat. So why don't you want to have sex with him? If everything looks good on paper but feels emotionally lonely, this episode is for you. We're talking about the invisible power dynamics that cause erotic shutdown, especially for high-achieving women with supertraits like empathy, loyalty, and perseveran...

You've done everything right. The degrees. The success. The personal growth. But still… You feel nothing. Sex feels like another thing on your to-do list. You're disconnected, exhausted, and quietly wondering, "What's wrong with me"? I'm breaking down how Superwoman conditioning and invisible power dynamics kill desire. Why therapy, hormones, and even functional medicine haven't worked. And why it...

You've done the therapy. You've read the books. You've tried to fix it. But if you walked away from couples therapy or sex therapy feeling like you were the problem, this conversation will hit home. I'm exposing the quiet harm that happens when traditional therapy fails to account for power dynamics, emotional labor, and the super traits of high-achieving women. Let's break it down: Why therapy of...

Before the pressure. Before the performance. Before checkbox sex. Pleasure used to come naturally. But somewhere along the way, it got replaced by mental gymnastics, performance-based sex, and trying to earn intimacy instead of receiving it. Jordin Wiggins pulls back the curtain on why fingering, that slow, intentional manual stimulation, is the real key to unlocking female pleasure, better sex, a...

Is your body keeping a secret that's ruining your sex life? Discover why that lack of desire, connection, and fulfillment has nothing to do with your hormones, stress levels, or sexual techniques.  We're sharing one of our most popular episodes from 2023 where Dr. Jordin Wiggins reveals the hidden trauma response that's blocking your pleasure—even if you don't identify as a trauma survivor—and how...

That well-f**ked feeling. You know the one—after great sex, a delicious meal, or when the champagne bottle pops and the elevator doors slide open at a luxurious hotel. That feeling of possibility, pleasure, and playfulness. How long has it been since you've felt it? In this intimate episode, Dr. Jordin takes you behind the scenes of her recent Pleasure Mastery retreat, where high-achieving women f...

No woman left behind! In this vulnerable and transformative conversation, Dr. Jordin opens up about the evolution happening within The Pleasure Collective as she partners with client, marketing expert, and author of Identity Marketing, Veronica Romney, to redefine how to ensure every high-achieving woman knows what they deserve and the path to receive it. "The accolades that you are experiencing i...

The moment you say,  "I'm exhausted,"  t hey say,  "but men feel pressure too." The moment you name abuse,  they say,  "not all men." The moment you ask for more, t hey say,  "you're being too much." This is not compassion. It's manipulation.  In this searing episode, Dr. Jordin exposes the subtle and sinister ways women are silenced in the name of "balance"—especially in spiritual and coaching sp...

Many high-achieving women find themselves stuck in relationships where trust is broken, intimacy is lacking, and boundaries aren't respected. Sound familiar?  Today, we're tackling a raw and real question from a listener: "My partner appears to be addicted to porn. I've confronted him, set boundaries, brought it up in couples therapy, but he continues to lie and hide it. I don't trust him anymore....

Do you ever find yourself mentally checking out during intimacy—thinking about your to-do list or even feeling "the ick" when your partner touches you? You're not alone.  High-achieving women often struggle with dissociation during sex, and in this episode, Dr. Jordin Wiggins is breaking down exactly why it happens and how you can start healing. Dissociation is not a personal failure—it's your ner...

"Doing more is not going to get you what you want. The more you give and sacrifice has an inverse relationship to how well f*cked you actually are." - Dr. Jordin Wiggins, ND You followed all the rules. You built the career, the beautiful home, and made sure everyone else's needs were met. So, why are you feeling resentful, exhausted, and stuck in a relationship that feels more like a business part...

You've been told that a "tight" vagina is desirable. That kegels are the answer. That pain during sex is just something to accept. But what if everything you've learned about your pelvic floor and pleasure is wrong? For high-achieving women, checking off boxes is second nature—except when it comes to intimacy. If you're feeling disconnected, unfulfilled, or like sex is just another task on your to...

"Most high achieving women don't have a libido problem. They have a pleasure problem." - Dr. Jordin Wiggins, ND You've tried everything – hormone therapy, antidepressants, countless supplements, even sex therapy – but nothing seems to reignite your desire.  As a result, you're left wondering if something is fundamentally broken within you.  If this sounds familiar, you're about to discover why the...

As high achievers, we're experts at pushing through exhaustion, ignoring our body's signals, and wearing burnout like a badge of honor.  But what happens when your body finally says  "enough" ?  When the whispers of exhaustion become screams you can't ignore? Listen in as Jordin dives into: Her personal experience with feminine burnout and the wake-up call that forced her to stop The five-step ple...

High-achieving women have built their lives around independence, control, and success—but beneath the polished exterior, many secretly long to be taken care of, cherished, and adored. The problem? They don't know how to let it in. In this episode, Dr. Jordin Wiggins ND explores the hidden tension between being a powerhouse and craving softness. Inspired by the film Baby Girl, she unpacks why so ma...

There are some conversations about intimacy, connection, and desire that can't be had on a public platform—so Dr. Jordin Wiggins ND created The Pleasure Path, a private podcast for high-achieving women who are exhausted from overfunctioning and still feeling unseen, disconnected, or unfulfilled in their relationships. In this episode, Jordin explains why this private series is her most raw, real,...

What if everything you've been taught about sex, pleasure and desire was wrong? If you've ever felt like your libido is fading, your pleasure isn't a priority, or that something is just off in your relationship.. but you can't put your finger on it.. this episode is for you. High-achieving women are often told that intimacy naturally declines with age, that pleasure is a luxury, and that great sex...